Are you a bottom who is constantly presumed to be a top?

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    Jan 15, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    I am and it weirds me out! This happens to me quite frequently (today) and it rattles my sense of self perception.

    Any other guys go through this or the reverse (top perceived as a bottom)?

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    Jan 15, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    I'm at a point where I really don't care one way or the other if anyone knows my sexual preference or not. I feel no compelling urge to scream it from roof tops, but I am no longer ashamed of it either. I have come a long ways in a relatively short time.

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    Jan 15, 2010 7:28 PM GMT
    chasgo3 saidI am and it weirds me out! This happens to me quite frequently (today) and it rattles my sense of self perception.

    Any other guys go through this or the reverse (top perceived as a bottom)?

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    you look nelly to me, maybe you have versatiles apraoch you
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jan 15, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    Yup.
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Jan 15, 2010 7:53 PM GMT
    At the moment, all I can say is...


    GOOD GRIEF!


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    Jan 15, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    ...how bad do you want to find out? icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 15, 2010 8:16 PM GMT
    _Brandon saidDo, or do not...There is no "try" = Yoda from Star Wars,lol icon_wink.gif


    True!!! I wonder though about things for those guys who live now here near a gay bar and "need" a sign to feel safe! lol
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    Jan 15, 2010 8:25 PM GMT
    The whole idea that a guy would be a bottom or a top is a little dumb to me. Assuming you've got all the gear a man should be born with, why would you be only one or the other?

    It seems weirdly psychologically limiting, too.

    Just my take, no offense intended.
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    Jan 15, 2010 8:47 PM GMT
    chasgo3 saidI am and it weirds me out! This happens to me quite frequently (today) and it rattles my sense of self perception.

    Any other guys go through this or the reverse (top perceived as a bottom)?

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    Was just a funny question.

    My new friend (the other miss perceived bottom) and I laughed about it.
    Didn't expect it to be taken so seriously and judgmental here.

    Thanx for the responses though.

    Especially informing me that I photograph nelly!
    LMAO!

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  • drypin

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    Jan 15, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    People are forever mistaking my bottom for my top and it's gotten to the point where it just isn't funny anymore.
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    Jan 15, 2010 9:28 PM GMT
    Since ot people perceive me as at least a bisexual, and just about never a homosexual, if not straight. I have to say no. Funny I had a women not long ago ask me if I was gay, because of something she heard some-one say. When I said yes I'm a fag, she cracked the shits say why would you say you are, when you are not,band stormed off. Ya gotta laugh.

    Also since very few people have tried to top me in my life, but but their legs straight up in the air. I have to say no!
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    Jan 15, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    RunnerBen saidThe whole idea that a guy would be a bottom or a top is a little dumb to me. Assuming you've got all the gear a man should be born with, why would you be only one or the other?

    It seems weirdly psychologically limiting, too.

    Just my take, no offense intended.


    Do you know of a support group I can go to?

    Perhaps D.I.M.A.A. ?

    The post wasn't meant to be an absolute declaration regarding my sexual repertoire.

    How much gear did you get btw?
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    Jan 15, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    another question arises, would someone who's a bottom create a forum post to indirectly find out, who on this site are tops/bottoms in order to know which members to target?

    just teasing icon_lol.gif it's a good idea btw.
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    Jan 15, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    I used to, but then I learnt to be a good top..

    Now

    Oh my heavens to Betsy.............................. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    All the time.
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    Pattison saidSince ot people perceive me as at least a bisexual, and just about never a homosexual, if not straight. I have to say no. Funny I had a women not long ago ask me if I was gay, because of something she heard some-one say. When I said yes I'm a fag, she cracked the shits say why would you say you are, when you are not,band stormed off. Ya gotta laugh.

    Also since very few people have tried to top me in my life, but but their legs straight up in the air. I have to say no!


    This post made me dumber.
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    judoguy saidanother question arises, would someone who's a bottom create a forum post to indirectly find out, who on this site are tops/bottoms in order to know which members to target?

    just teasing icon_lol.gif it's a good idea btw.


    Hey man!

    you are right! didn't think about that initially.

    But it was really in regard to something that happened to me today with a friend from school who's been flirting with me since our return. Was surprised to find out he was gay. Now even more so that he like me refers to himself as a bottom.

    The idea of "targeting" other members is funny. Like I have a whole ad scheme just waiting to aim at unsuspecting defenseless tops!

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    Jan 15, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    It's like in sex ed when they tell you to assume that everyone you have sex with has HIV.. if you assume that everyone you meet is a bottom, you'll be right about 80% of the time.
  • jarhead5536

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    Jan 15, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    This post seems to be designed by the poster to broadcast how butch he is. If you have to make a point of proclaiming how butch...

    Oh, never mind
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    judoguy saidanother question arises, would someone who's a bottom create a forum post to indirectly find out, who on this site are tops/bottoms in order to know which members to target?

    just teasing icon_lol.gif it's a good idea btw.


    Good idea to know? nonsense! one of my favorite quotes of all-time comes from the philosopher and professor of whores Cristal Connors. It is: "You are a whore, darling "we all are",it's time to admit It!icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    badmikeyt said
    Pattison saidSince ot people perceive me as at least a bisexual, and just about never a homosexual, if not straight. I have to say no. Funny I had a women not long ago ask me if I was gay, because of something she heard some-one say. When I said yes I'm a fag, she cracked the shits say why would you say you are, when you are not,band stormed off. Ya gotta laugh.

    Also since very few people have tried to top me in my life, but but their legs straight up in the air. I have to say no!


    This post made me dumber.


    I forgive you, as you are still but a child.

    Let me try to help you.

    Most people don't perceive one as being a homosexual, and then, many will say "but your bi, you are into girls too aren't you?" Many seem surprised when I say no, as I'm not seen as a girly man

    With my sexual experience in life, and bars, I know I''m not perceived as a bottom, coz they'll tell me so, and they are right, coz I ain't letting no-one do that to me; it just ain't gonna happen, I've seen the medical side effects from it.
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    Sony said
    judoguy saidanother question arises, would someone who's a bottom create a forum post to indirectly find out, who on this site are tops/bottoms in order to know which members to target?

    just teasing icon_lol.gif it's a good idea btw.


    Good idea to know? nonsence! one of my favorite quotes of all-time comes from the philosopher and professor of whores Cristal Connors. It is: "You are a whore, darling "we all are",it's time to admit It!icon_lol.gif


    I'm not disagreeing w u. only saying it's a clever tactic to create a topic similar to this, if you're a bottom whore who thinks it'd be nice to pair up w a topping whore icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    Im a corner
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    Jan 15, 2010 10:34 PM GMT
    jarhead5536 saidThis post seems to be designed by the poster to broadcast how butch he is. If you have to make a point of proclaiming how butch...

    Oh, never mind


    I am the butchest badass bottom ever born.

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    Jan 15, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI used to, but then I learnt to be a good top..

    Now

    Oh my heavens to Betsy.............................. icon_twisted.gif
    Gosh that must of happened overnight, coz the other day you were bitching how you could not find a 6"4'+ aggressive top.