10 Effective Ways to Combat Loneliness

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    Jan 18, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    Since I'm living outside my home country and basically know no one around, I have developed a system to curtail the feeling of loneliness. Here are some of things I've come up with, of which I have tried five. If you have any other experience/suggestion in this area, please don't hesitate to post and share.

    1. Reading contest: With two books in your hand, start reading one of them and keep going until you are sick of it; and switch to the other book and read it until you are sick of it, too. Alternating in this manner until one of the books is finished, declare it the "winner".

    2. Dinner: Put a mirror on the dinner table right in front of your face, and watch yourself eat. It is as good as having a companion.

    3. Talking: This is simple. By leaving messages on the phone back home, I was able to talk to my old cat.

    4. Role-playing: Find a comedy/drama with some really witty lines, and commit them to memory. When there is nothing to do, deliver the lines as if you were the character you'd like to be in the show.

    5. Retrospective correspondence: Write a letter to the "you" two/five/ten years ago, and tell him whatever you would like to say.

    6.Spell-checker: Go to a public bathroom with a great amount of graffiti in the stalls, and rectify the misspelled words & sloppy syntax.

    7. Memos: Write anonymous memos to the people living in the same building with you and post them wherever it is appropriate to -- "Hey! Do you know that we are not supposed to leave cardboard boxes in the hallway?"

    8. People counting: I count the number of people I see on my daily bus ride to work and count again on the ride back home. After I get home, I decide, by a coin toss, which number "wins". If you feel like going the extra mile, you can chart the winning numbers over a period of time (a month/quarter) on a big piece of paper and stick it on the wall.

    9. Alternate History: I dreamed of being a psychiatrist when I was a kid, and I always wonder what my life would be like if I had pursued that line of work; so I left my job (for a day) and played shrink to two of my colleagues who volunteered for a "session" with me.

    10. Get drunk. No need to explain this one.
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    Jan 18, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    hahaah those are cute, yet sad... ways to combat loneliness. you're funny.

    Just buy a new cat. Pets are amazing loneliness preventives.
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    Jan 18, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
    Go to the gym or go swimming, play an instrument, learn a new language or play solitaire. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 18, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    "...at least once a day, retiring to the men's room to jerk off... while I fantasize about a life that doesn't so closely resemble hell."

    Name that movie.
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    Jan 18, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    dannyboy1101 said"...at least once a day, retiring to the men's room to jerk off... while I fantasize about a life that doesn't so closely resemble hell."

    Name that movie.


    American Beauty
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    Jan 18, 2010 11:09 PM GMT
    I dunno.... I tend to like the alone feeling. So I don't see why one would want to combat it. There's a lot of peace and solitude in being alone, and I feel that loneliness is just a sign of lack of self confidence.

    Besides, if I am TRULY lonely for human interaction, there are always plenty of opportunities to involve myself in activities that will get me in contact with others.
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    Jan 19, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    i become very constructive when im bored and lonely. unfortunately there is only so much fixing that can be done to ur own house. so when everything is fixed i start to fantasize about renovating.
  • binning

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    Jan 19, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    while i love your list, it does seem that those activities are going to limit your ability to meet people and make new friends...

    i've moved to three cities without knowing a single soul and managed to create a group of locals to hang out with in pretty short periods of time. i set myself a target of meeting at least 3 new people a day (in person - not online) whether that meant talking to someone at school/work that wasn't in my class/section, chatting in line at a cafe, working in with someone at the gym, or going to a bar. but, even without an aussie accent to get people's attention, by keeping yourself open to the people the day puts in your path, you'll find you won't be alone for long!
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    Jan 19, 2010 8:54 AM GMT
    I can testify that these steps really work. After a few rotating sessions of the recommended actions, I gradually felt less lonely. Eventually when friends and family noticed the change in me, it cured my loneliness altogether!

    I now have conversations with a real human EVERY day! I'm currently housed in the psychiatric ward of a hospital, but it's not that bad! Not until they stick needles on you. But that's even better! I actually get 3 people's attention during those sessions making me feel even LESS lonely! icon_biggrin.gif

    2 orderlies and the nurse.

    If you have the same experiences as me don't hesitate to call 1-800-HEYBUD for a chat with a bored operator pretending to be your bestfriend.
  • DrewT

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    Jan 19, 2010 9:33 AM GMT
    I personally like number 3. Perhaps it's because I talk to myself... and for no other reason...
  • jrs1

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    Jan 19, 2010 9:57 AM GMT

    1. friends.
    2. friends.
    3. friends.
    4. friends.
    5. friends.

    A. friends.
    B. friends.
    C. friends.
    D. friends.
    E. friends.

    they can truly flatten you when you get too full of it.
    they can truly understand you when you do not.
    they don't cost a thing.
    they are your potential soulmates.

    they are the music that peacefully kisses your ears.
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    Jan 19, 2010 9:59 AM GMT
    Simply_Drew saidI personally like number 3. Perhaps it's because I talk to myself... and for no other reason...


    I do as well ... it's a release-cathartic-therapy.
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    Jan 19, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    tommo said
    dannyboy1101 said"...at least once a day, retiring to the men's room to jerk off... while I fantasize about a life that doesn't so closely resemble hell."

    Name that movie.


    American Beauty


    I didn't lose my job, it's not like - whoops, where'd my job go? - I QUIT!
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    Jan 19, 2010 10:15 AM GMT
    HotToddy saidI dunno.... I tend to like the alone feeling. So I don't see why one would want to combat it. There's a lot of peace and solitude in being alone, and I feel that loneliness is just a sign of lack of self confidence.

    Besides, if I am TRULY lonely for human interaction, there are always plenty of opportunities to involve myself in activities that will get me in contact with others.


    I agree 100 percent.

    Funny post by the OP btw. But seriously, those people who feel lonely if they have to spend one day alone, must be very boring/unintelligent people if they can't even stand their own company.
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    Jan 19, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    Why don't you try going to therapy because it sounds like you have a bigger problem. That list is a bit ridiculous and sad. Sounds like you're not happy enough with who you are to be content being alone, which causes you to feel lonely. Work on self confidence and then work on meeting people...it doesn't matter what country you're in...people are people and you should be able to relate to them no matter where you are.
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    Jan 19, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    i like being alone, not lonelyicon_cry.gif

    1. look at ants eat,etc..
    2. sing
    3. think about fun times u had in the past
    4. have a fantasy
    5. jesus
    6. jesus
    7. lucifer
    8. virgin mary
    9. masturbate
    10. friendsicon_eek.gif