What is the protocol for guys that are uncut?

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    Jan 19, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    Embarrassing moment for me a few nights back. I'm not out and still in the experimenting stage, so I don't put myself out there much or actually mess around with guys. Anyways, I starting hanging out with a guy and we eventually decided to mess around. All things were good until he took off my pants and discovered that I was uncut. He said that was a major turnoff and then left.

    I don't care about that guy, but I am wondering what is the protocol for uncut guys out there? Am I supposed to tell a guy I am interested in that I am uncut? If so when? I am white in a Southern state, so I know guys won't expect that I am uncut. I also know that there is an anti-uncut prejudice among gay guys (especially in the South).

    How have you other guys dealt with this situation (if it happened to you)?
  • rnch

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    Jan 19, 2010 1:12 AM GMT
    one man's turn off is another man's turn on. icon_cool.gif

    if this jerk left you because of some foreskin; he wasn't worth your time. icon_mad.gif
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    Jan 19, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    faceless saidEmbarrassing moment for me a few nights back. I'm not out and still in the experimenting stage, so I don't put myself out there much or actually mess around with guys. Anyways, I starting hanging out with a guy and we eventually decided to mess around. All things were good until he took off my pants and discovered that I was uncut. He said that was a major turnoff and then left.

    I don't care about that guy, but I am wondering what is the protocol for uncut guys out there? Am I supposed to tell a guy I am interested in that I am uncut? If so when? I am white in a Southern state, so I know guys won't expect that I am uncut. I also know that there is an anti-uncut prejudice among gay guys (especially in the South).

    How have you other guys dealt with this situation (if it happened to you)?

    The guy was a jerk, likely highly immature. Good riddance, but nevertheless an unpleasant experience for you.

    Life is full of these bumps in the road, that you have to ignore them and keep moving forward. As it happens, some guys adore uncuts, as I do.

    Perhaps not in the majority, but they exist. Feel good about yourself, and wait for those guys who have a broader outlet and not a bigoted obstinacy. They're worth it when you find them.

    Or just move outside the US, where most men are uncut. Increasingly you'll find, in this and in more substantial things, that the US is being marginalized and isolated. We are the declining & discredited past, the rest of the world the future, in more things than just gay sex.
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    Jan 19, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    faceless saidEmbarrassing moment for me a few nights back. I'm not out and still in the experimenting stage, so I don't put myself out there much or actually mess around with guys. Anyways, I starting hanging out with a guy and we eventually decided to mess around. All things were good until he took off my pants and discovered that I was uncut. He said that was a major turnoff and then left.

    I don't care about that guy, but I am wondering what is the protocol for uncut guys out there? Am I supposed to tell a guy I am interested in that I am uncut? If so when? I am white in a Southern state, so I know guys won't expect that I am uncut. I also know that there is an anti-uncut prejudice among gay guys (especially in the South).

    How have you other guys dealt with this situation (if it happened to you)?


    His loss. I'd be intrigued.
  • rnch

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    Jan 19, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    BTW, faceless.....pics of the skin, pls! icon_wink.gif
  • Quirky

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    Jan 19, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    What a dick.


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    Jan 19, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    Shit like this makes me mad.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 19, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Don't let The Foreskin Nazi's attitude get you down. Not everyone has issues with foreskins or lack there of.
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    Jan 19, 2010 2:10 PM GMT
    i am an equal opportunity cock kinda guy. Cut/uncut its a cock. YUMM...his loss babe.
  • ndbilly

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    Jan 19, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    weirdly in the UK, i have found that there are more uncut guys than cut guys, and some uncut guys are also weirded out by cut guys, to the extent that one guy I know will not be with someone that is cut.

    I think it is a matter of it being different, so talk about it. Things do react differently, but different makes for new adventures rather than a bad thing. Totally his loss as you seem like a top man!
  • rnch

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    Jan 19, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    faceless, you appear (in your profile pics) to be a very appealing, attractive, likeable guy. the fact that you are not circumsized only ADDS to your potential appeal, in my opinion. very sorry that your initial experience was with a narrow minded, bigoted fool. he is NOT representative of all gay men out there in the real world!


    if you are ever in new orleans, lemmie know!


    you should have NO problem finding someone to appreciate you for ALL you assets.
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  • MilitaryWolf

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    Jan 19, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    Yeah as everyone else said, it's definitely his loss and he's a douche.

    Personally I had a preference towards cut guys just because it's what I'm used to but not too long ago I was seeing this guy and found out (through a similar scenario) he was uncut. I was surprised but not exactly turned off, I mostly just found it interesting at the time. I got over it real quick... kinda helps that he was fu**in hot.... not unlike yourself ;)

    so yeah... forget about him
    You probably won't meet too many guys like that. So unless it comes up in conversation you shouldn't feel that it's necessary to tell a guy that you're cut or uncut out of fear. If he's a real man he'll deal with it.... and it'll probably grow on him icon_smile.gif (no pun intended)
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    Jan 19, 2010 2:53 PM GMT
    That's not the norm. The guy you brought home sounds like a flake and an asshole. If it hadn't been that it would have been something else, I am sure.
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    haha sorry but thats so ridiculous if it happened to me (even tho im cut) i would just laught cuz theres not much else to do, hes the one that missed out on a hot night of XxX lovin
  • Celticmusl

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    Jan 19, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidThat's not the norm. The guy you brought home sounds like a flake and an asshole. If it hadn't been that it would have been something else, I am sure.



    Eh.....A guy being a jerk is kinda the norm, especially in a hook-up situation.
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    SAHEM62896 saidThat's not the norm. The guy you brought home sounds like a flake and an asshole. If it hadn't been that it would have been something else, I am sure.



    Eh.....A guy being a jerk is kinda the norm, especially in a hook-up situation.


    True, but to flounce out over something that ridiculous seems not-the-norm to me. Maybe I just need to get out more.
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    maybe with all these ridiculous studies of how being circumsized prevents HIV guys are swearing off anteaters
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    Jan 20, 2010 7:12 PM GMT
    I am uncut in the U.S. currently. IME most guys here don't care that I am uncut. You were just unlucky to run into a weirdo.

    No reason to tell them beforehand. I never do.
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    Jan 20, 2010 7:29 PM GMT
    Some guys are like that but I don't think it's the majority. Most guys don't care whether you're cut or uncut. There are guys who prefer one over the other. You shouldn't worry about it though. The guy you were with is the one that missed out. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 20, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    Protocol dictates that you should wear a large pink letter "U" sewn into your clothes...and you should bring it up the moment you begin a conversation with a guy.

    Like the second or third thing you say...you shouldn't let it get past this point:


    You - "Hey, how's it going?"

    Him - "I'm good...you?"

    You - "Good..just got done at the gym."

    Him - "Ya? Good workout?"

    You - "Sure was...I'm uncut."



    Or, you could just go out with me...I like 'em uncut.
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    Jan 20, 2010 8:12 PM GMT
    How shallow is that man. Even if it were something that he was not comfortable with, then be a man about it and enjoy the evening and other stuff. I personally find it very sexy icon_smile.gif I think most guys do so don't let it bother you.
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    Jan 20, 2010 8:19 PM GMT
    His loss. Good riddance to the jerk.
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    Jan 20, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    What a weird turn-off.
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    Jan 21, 2010 1:02 PM GMT
    that's happened to me a few times...at first I was kinda wigged out...then, I thought..."...better to find out he's a jerk now, than later"...my protocol is they find out when I pull my pants down...same way they find out how big it is...

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    Jan 21, 2010 1:13 PM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidProtocol dictates that you should wear a large pink letter "U" sewn into your clothes...


    Best. Response. Ever.

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    On the other hand, I wouldn't know about the issue at hand as most guys (the overwhelming majority in fact) here in Mexico are uncut. But I concur, that guy is not worth worrying about.