"I'm a nice, down to earth guy, but..."

  • dannyboy1101

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    Jan 19, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    "deep down inside, I'm just an asshole."

    This forum stemmed off my thoughts from another post. So many men claim in profiles to be "grounded," "down to earth," "nice," "friendly," "positive," etc. Are we really? Or are we telling ourselves that because the alternative seems scary? Could we really be bastards just as sinister as those assholes we seem to always meet?

    I will say that there are times that I act not so nice to those around me whether alcohol is involved or not. I do believe, however, that I am very empathetic to the pain of others and do my best to help those in need. I have a big heart, but it has been stepped on many times and sometimes I do lash out at others who have hurt me or not. It's not something that makes me proud, but I will say that's it's something I am working on just as I work on so many facets of my life. Not many other people see it as something to work on. They think that judging anyone and everyone is perfectly alright, even here (masculine requirement? is there a standardized test I can see your scores to?). The only person they won't judge in public is themselves because then they have to look in the cold hard mirror of reality (am I athletic build or average?). Sometimes the truth can hurt ourselves just as much as it can hurt others.

    Are you a nice person? A total bitch? Why? Is it delayed childhood bullying behavior? Do you just find it fun, humorous? If you are nice, what are your friends like? Are you in mixed company? Other thoughts?
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    dannyboy1101 said...Are you a nice person? A total bitch? Why?

    I'm a terrible person, selfish and mean. I destroy anyone who gets in my way if I can. The US Army did not promote me all the way from buck Private to Colonel because I was nice, but because I am cruel, vindictive, and ruthless.

    Have a nice day! LOL!!!
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    I am a nice person, but I reckon there are heaps of gay men who want those that tell funny jokes all the time, have great bodies and are positive thinkers 24/7. I do believe I will make someone very happy one day, as I am as loyal as they come and am very passionate when it comes to giving myself to another man.

    Cheers
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 19, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    I consider myself to be a nice person. I try to go out of my way to keep from causing another person distress because I personally know what it is like to be hurt by the unthinking cruelty and sometimes thinking arrogance of others. At the same time, I am also able to hold my own. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    We're all human. Most people have someone out there who thinks they're great, and someone else out there who thinks they're a complete and total a-hole. I think when people describe themselves in online profiles, they do tend to dress it up.

    I consider myself a decent person with good intentions, I have my asshole moments, and I'm quiet at withdrawn around people I don't know well so that leaves a lot of room for interpretation.
  • JP85257

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    Jan 19, 2010 3:37 AM GMT
    I have people that are terrified of me. Dunno why.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 19, 2010 3:41 AM GMT
    jprichva said

    Nice? Me? Are you kidding? I'm a cranky old man.


    I know of several ways to change that....at least temporarily icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:48 AM GMT
    Yeah Danny, I know what you mean. A lot of guys also include in their profile that they do not bite when, between you and me, I'll bet they do, and HARD. We know ourselves better than anybody else does and yet how objective can we be about our qualities as human beings? I'm sure Hitler thought he was a swell guy. Some people will describe their many character flaws on their profile but I think most of them are joking, or are they?
    Most here just look at the pictures, anyway.
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    Jan 19, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    When it comes to profiles.. You can attract more flies with honey than with vinegar. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 19, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    I do try to be nice, but I realize how often I come up short. Soooo... I don't try to label myself as being a 'nice guy'... because trying and being are two totally different things icon_smile.gif. Also I'm sure there are people who think I'm nice, and people who think I'm a totally stuck up asshole elitist bastard. icon_lol.gif And I'm fine with that, so long as I do my best to be nice and don't try to pretend that I'm something I'm not.
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    Jan 19, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    I'm usually friendly/nice,but I don't play peoples games.


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    Jan 19, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    dannyboy1101 said
    Are you a nice person? A total bitch? Why? Is it delayed childhood bullying behavior? Do you just find it fun, humorous? If you are nice, what are your friends like? Are you in mixed company? Other thoughts?


    I'm initially nice to everyone i meet, until they give me a reason not to like them. Only a bitch to the people that have wronged me somehow, but when I say "bitch" I mean sour, not raging PMS queen.

    My friends are a mixed bag, my closest ones are nice too, I do find most of my gay guy friends are meaner than me.
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    Jan 19, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    I'm told often that I'm a really nice guy -- and I know that I go out of my way to be kind to people, even strangers. Sometimes, I think I'm way too nice.

    That said, I have finally FINALLY learned to smack someone down nice and hard when they say or do something offensive, particularly when it's calculated and deliberate. And I've got to say it works everytime. Put people in their place, when they deserve it, and they stop messing with you.

    But I only do that on rare occasions, and it's always after the other person starts it.
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    Jan 19, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    I'm generally very nice...to the point that people are surprised that they can't push me around. It seems a lot of people confuse "nice" with "doormat".
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    Jan 19, 2010 5:02 AM GMT
    Not to put too fine a point on it, but, I am a cunt, I'm critical, incredibly demanding and very short with people.

    But with my mates I'm none of those, with my mates well, I sorta melt, they can't do nuffin wrong and I love'em for it icon_smile.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Jan 19, 2010 5:04 AM GMT
    xrichx saidWhen it comes to profiles.. You can attract more flies with honey than with vinegar. icon_lol.gif


    Amen to That....Now the Real Question is.....Do you Get what you Want Being Nice or Not, Do you Nice guys here Always Finish Last? if So ..Stop That Hahaha icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 19, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    this may sound weird to some of you but i find men who are total assholes more attractive than guys who are way too nice

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  • Hunter9

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    Jan 19, 2010 5:28 AM GMT
    i think i am nice, considerate, and friendly... but im sure there are some that think im an asshole... can't please everybody, ya know?
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    Jan 19, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    chad_cro_cool saidthis may sound weird to some of you but i find men who are total assholes more attractive than guys who are way too nice

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    hahaha that will change in a few years icon_smile.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Jan 19, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    chad_cro_cool saidthis may sound weird to some of you but i find men who are total assholes more attractive than guys who are way too nice

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    hahaha that will change in a few years icon_smile.gif



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  • jrs1

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    Jan 19, 2010 5:33 AM GMT
    I can be a jerk and truly self-centered ... but it's more of a balance with me. I'm as nice as I am mean ... and so on. I'm rather predictable, however ... so it does not catch my close friends off guard.
  • FredMG

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    Jan 19, 2010 5:40 AM GMT
    I'm a nice enough guy until...

    ... act as though you are above common courtesy.

    ... elevate yourself by putting others down.

    and then you aren't worth my time.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 19, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    I try to be nice to everybody, and most of the time I have an upbeat positive outlook on pretty much everything. That's not to say I don't have my moments, but they are rare...and if you don't believe me I SWEAR TO GOD I WILL BREAK BOTH YOUR ELBOWS!!!!! icon_evil.gif
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    Jan 19, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    Im a nice person that loves me a good time, who really doesn't like clubbing anymore, who says Oh, yum, awesommmmm, butch, bam, lol and HEY a lot.
    I consider myself a good listener but sometimes a TREMENDOUS speaker...can you tell? haha, i like to be somewhat sarcastic and spontaneous. I do confess i do complain once in a while about things. i used to be critical of how people can be so judgmental and tacky in many things, but who am I to keep doing so? I also love keeping someone smiling and laughing because that smile turns into my sun and positive energy, who also loves to make his friends feel loved and important and who stopped wishing to be perfect because he recognizes that as humans, we can never be so, My life and personality is a learning process and im a dreamer as far as my ambitions go, so as far as being a down to earth guy... i guess thats a no? [oh my god it kinda rhymed! Bam!]
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    Jan 19, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    Read the way people talk to each other on here...

    It appears that there are a lot of assholes on RJ.