To Fu*K or Not To Fu*K

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    Jan 20, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    Hey guys I need your advice? On when to have sex. I am newly out and was in a relationship, but now i am single and unsure of our gay sexual protocal?
    I met a hot guy tonight at the spa and we spent about an hour together talking. When he droped his towel to take a shower he had a rock hard dick and smiled at me.
    I wanted to invite him to my place and jump his bones, but instead I suggested we get together some other time and I gave him my cell number. This almost seemed lame as I really wanted to have sex with him and he was so freakin hot! but i liked him enough to be a possible friend or boy friend. Is this a straightness coming out of me?
    Here is my question?
    Should I of went for it? because I might not get another chance? and lets say i went for it, does it kill the chance for a second time or any kind of possible friendship? What are the rules or the gay guidelines?

    Is okay just to fuc*k casually or will i be considered a slut in the community and blackballed or is this normal? or if I am selective and wait does that mean I never get to have sex, but a few times a year?
    Sorry for not already know this..
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    Jan 20, 2010 9:41 AM GMT
    man2muscle saidHey guys I need your advice? On when to have sex. I am newly out and was in a relationship, but now i am single and unsure of our gay sexual protocal?
    I met a hot guy tonight at the spa and we spent about an hour together talking. When he droped his towel to take a shower he had a rock hard dick and smiled at me.
    I wanted to invite him to my place and jump his bones, but instead I suggested we get together some other time and I gave him my cell number. This almost seemed lame as I really wanted to have sex with him and he was so freakin hot! but i liked him enough to be a possible friend or boy friend. Is this a straightness coming out of me?
    Here is my question?
    Should I of went for it? because I might not get another chance? and lets say i went for it, does it kill the chance for a second time or any kind of possible friendship? What are the rules or the gay guidelines?

    Is okay just to fuc*k casually or will i be considered a slut in the community and blackballed or is this normal? or if I am selective and wait does that mean I never get to have sex, but a few times a year?
    Sorry for not already know this..


    personally i would never just fuck with someone on the spot like that because you never know if he might have a disease or something. even with protection on the line, i still wouldn't feel comfortable about it. but that's just me.

    i say get him to get tested with you first and if he's clean, then by all means go for it! unless you don't care about diseases and all that then, yeah, you should've went for it...
  • drypin

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    Jan 20, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    There ARE NO RULES about this sort of thing. You were fine to handle it as you did.
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    Jan 20, 2010 5:15 PM GMT
    i appreciate your thoughts and i am careful, but sometimes it feels like maybe i am doing this wrong. That maybe this is more of a female thing, that all us guys go out and screw everyone, while the ladies are selective..so frustrating when your mentally as sexual as i am
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    Jan 20, 2010 5:56 PM GMT
    I think that guy only wanted sex, which is typical when you meet guys at such places,

    but the thing is, you need to fulfill your emotional and sexual drive. There is nothing wrong with having sex with people, WHILE you are looking for the one.

    Many guys, in general, are looking for sex. Some may become good friends / lovers from it, but others, you will never talk to again.

    You'll never know till you try. If you wanted to sleep with him and he obviously did with you, then you should have. Not like you are in love with him and he may never talk to you again. Be more spontaneous.

    Just have fun and enjoy life. Have these experiences that you can learn from.