Body Dismorphia

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    Jan 21, 2010 4:51 AM GMT
    Has anyone had the feeling that they've gotten too big, when they're really tiny or v.v. (think they're too small, when they're HUGE)?

    I've always been small and unhappy about my body size, but when I try to bulk up...I start feeling like I've gotting too big/or fearing that I've gotten or will get too big, so I stop....and get no where in progress.

    Other times, I feel like I'm "big" or not cut enough. Everyone tells me that I look good, but I just don't believe them.

    Am I the only crazy one who gets this way?
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    Jan 21, 2010 11:48 AM GMT
    I think you look very good - but you have to be happy with your own appearance. The best thing I ever did in terms of objectively looking at my own body was to ask another guy to look at me. He was someone who I thought was not only well built, but who was built the way I would like to be.
    Now I have to mention that this guy had really different proportions from me.
    Even though we were the same height and weight, he had longer legs and a smaller waist and hips, so I had to understand that I would never look as good as him, no matter what I did. I made friends ( like a gym buddy/acquaintance ) with him expressly to learn some training tips and eventually I asked him to look at my build when I felt comfortable with our friendship.
    He pretty much told me what I'd always known, that I needed more mass in my legs. He also added something really important about definition in my shoulders, which I've added and the result of that has been a better looking proportion relative to my waist ( making my waist look smaller than it actually ever will be) So ask someone whose opinion you trust & take some pictures of yourself as often as possible.
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    Jan 22, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    jawrhed saidI think you look very good - but you have to be happy with your own appearance. The best thing I ever did in terms of objectively looking at my own body was to ask another guy to look at me. He was someone who I thought was not only well built, but who was built the way I would like to be.
    Now I have to mention that this guy had really different proportions from me.
    Even though we were the same height and weight, he had longer legs and a smaller waist and hips, so I had to understand that I would never look as good as him, no matter what I did. I made friends ( like a gym buddy/acquaintance ) with him expressly to learn some training tips and eventually I asked him to look at my build when I felt comfortable with our friendship.
    He pretty much told me what I'd always known, that I needed more mass in my legs. He also added something really important about definition in my shoulders, which I've added and the result of that has been a better looking proportion relative to my waist ( making my waist look smaller than it actually ever will be) So ask someone whose opinion you trust & take some pictures of yourself as often as possible.


    That actually really helps. Thanks.
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    Jan 22, 2010 6:24 AM GMT
    I feel like sometimes I'm too big compared to some guys, and then when I do lose weight I and don't want to get any smaller.

    I think it's all about keeping it in perspective, as long as you can fit your clothes, look good, and people see it then you have nothing to sweat.

    In my opinion your just fine man, unless your someone else hiding behind those photos. icon_razz.gifJust kidding lol
  • drypin

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    Jan 22, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    Yes, it took me many months of hearing how good I was looking to start wondering if I wasn't the blind one (instead of having lots of well-meaning friends who were lying through their caps). We finally took some "before" photos of me and I saw one of my back and thought, "who the hell is that?!" Without my (ever dwindling) belly blinding me, I was able to finally acknowledge the progress I was making and it felt great. Yes, I was the blind one.
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 22, 2010 6:42 AM GMT
    I'm not gonna lie.. I kind of obsess over my body. I work out about 3 hours a day, 7 days a week, analyze everything I eat, and no matter how ripped I get I always want it to be better. I don't think it's a problem. I don't throw up after I eat or starve myself or anything like that. Other peoples opinions of what I look like mean absolutely nothing to me, so I definitely don't want my ego stroked. I know what I look like and what I want to look like.
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    Jan 22, 2010 7:51 AM GMT
    yea i think i have this sorta thing going on to a mild degree...
    I dont really think of myself as muscluar or that big even when, in the vast majority of situations, I'm the most muscular and fit person around.
    I think part of it is that when i was growing up i was scrawny, pudgey and short, so i still kinda feel small or something. I try to look at myself objectively, that tends to help

    i'm also obssessed with working out, I'm sorta addicted to it. To be honest though i dont really work out to look good, that's just sorta a perk. I really honestly enjoy being fit and working out to get better at sports.
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    Jan 22, 2010 9:49 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidI'm not gonna lie.. I kind of obsess over my body. I work out about 3 hours a day, 7 days a week, analyze everything I eat, and no matter how ripped I get I always want it to be better. I don't think it's a problem. I don't throw up after I eat or starve myself or anything like that. Other peoples opinions of what I look like mean absolutely nothing to me, so I definitely don't want my ego stroked. I know what I look like and what I want to look like.


    Wow 3 hours a day for 7 days a week. thats dedication! icon_biggrin.gif
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 22, 2010 10:28 AM GMT
    I feel huge. . and I love it. I remember when I played my first season of volleyball in high school as a freshman. I didn't do any lifting and from the games and practices I went from 140 to 180 in three months.

    All muscle.

    After I got out of college and finished playing there I was 200.

    Then I recently completed the muscle building workout and now I am about 210.

    I bump into people all the time. I have to eat a ton to match my level of activity. I feel like my legs are the size of tree trunks.

    It use to bother me, but at some point I just started loving it.

    I am a big boy and I am damn proud.
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    Jan 22, 2010 11:36 AM GMT
    I don't get any bigger or more ripped in my mind and perceptions. Other people just seem to get smaller. It's down to who you compare yourself too

    Strictly speaking almost everyone I know is varying degrees above the average I first compared myself too when I was overweight. As that faded I started comparing myself towards the general gym population, most of RJ and an athletic peer group. That starts to fade and I start comparing my self with fitness trainers and the dedicated gym elite.

    In the future I'll probably start gravitating towards the people presented on fitness magazines and websites and still think I look shit by comparasin