Significant other and imprtance of sex

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    Jan 22, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    Lets assume you do find your significant other in life can it be a sexless relationship or such relationhip doesnt hold without sex. whats more important the person or the sex
  • D972

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    Jan 23, 2010 1:37 AM GMT
    Well i do think that if you believe in partnering with someone monogamously then at one point or other your relationship will be sexless. Granted now with Viagra you can go on up until the twilight years of 80s having sex but I'm not sure I'd be interested in sex if my partner is equally 80s... I don't see my body holding up that well.

    But sexless in the 20s, 30s, 40s -- NEVER
    50s, 60s -- MAYBE
    70s 80s ---PROBABLY

    That's just me. At my age, if you are the one ... then you and I are going to be having sex and pretty frequently.

    If I'm not satisfied completely ... then why bother having a relationship? Ok well don't need to be completely satisfied, but atleast sexually... i dont think its asking too much.
  • Anto

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    Jan 23, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    arthurhunk saidLets assume you do find your significant other in life can it be a sexless relationship or such relationhip doesnt hold without sex. whats more important the person or the sex


    I think if you can have friends without having sex then even more so you can have a significant other without sex.
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    Jan 23, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    Why let an internet site full of strangers tell you what kind of relationships you can or cannot have?

    Look, if you can make it work, great. If you can't, move on.
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    Jan 23, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    Probably sex because you will eventually go and find it elsewhere. It's not being shallow either, just practical.
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    Jan 23, 2010 3:41 AM GMT
    They are equallly important!
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    Jan 23, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    I just got out of a 5 year relationship for, in part, this very reason. I wanted it and he didn't.

    I just turned 40 so maybe as I get older I may change my tune but to me a relationship, especially a "monogamous" one that sex isn't initiated usually means they are getting it somewhere else unless you know of a serious other problem such as depression or etc and in that case it should be dealt with.

    I put up with it for 4 1/2 years, finally took the blinders off and said enough is enough. I believe in my heart we loved each other very much. Soul mates if you will....but I'll be damned if Im going to lay next to my "soul mate" and he not want me in any other way than friendship....because to me thats what it all boils down to without the sex......friendship.

    My friends are awesome but thats usually why they are just my friends, because I don't want to have sex with them and I could be around them naked, sleep in the same bed or etc and never once want to have sex with them...because they are just my friends.

    Sex is more than just the physical act...its the sharing of your body with someone that you love, desire and care for more than anyone...atleast thats what it is for me when I am in a relationship. The more I fall in love with them, the more I want them in "every" way.

    I want a Husband, not a friend or roomate and thats exactly what you are without the sex...no thanks.
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    Jan 23, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    without or lack there of sex, they are just a "BEST FRIEND."
  • GQjock

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    Jan 23, 2010 10:06 AM GMT
    It should never have to be an either - or question
  • jrs1

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    Jan 23, 2010 10:13 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidWhy let an internet site full of strangers tell you what kind of relationships you can or cannot have?

    Look, if you can make it work, great. If you can't, move on.


    such is my thinking as well. I am young and have much to experience sexually. I do not know that I am mature enough to keep my hands, etc., off of my significant other; I would not want to do such.

    I would like to connect with my guy, when it's right for me to have a boyfriend, both physically and mentally. I'd like to say that a balance is integral: great, communicative sex tied with genuine, communicative, and thought-provoking conversation. but, as has been said, to each his own.
  • Anto

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    Jan 24, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    PusiKuracBre saidwithout or lack there of sex, they are just a "BEST FRIEND."


    You can be committed to someone more deeply than 'best friends' and not have it be contingent on sex.
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    Jan 24, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    Well arthurhunk, we'll put it this way, the level of sex or not has everything to do with consensual copacetic love.

    The worst thing we've seen is where one person wants no sex and the other needs it.


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    Jan 24, 2010 6:37 AM GMT
    The only way I would consider a relationship to be acceptable without sex would be after multiple decades of great sex. If I wanted someone to just sleep next to I'd date women icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 24, 2010 7:49 AM GMT
    erm, in a long relationship there will be times where the sex dies down, especially if you are both under pressure from work or external sources and are exhausted when you get home from work.

    Sometimes a couple will be having problems with each other and will diminish sexual interest for a while.

    These things are all quite normal and are part of having a relationship with someone.

    Sex in a relationship isn't the be all and end all, yes, it is important up to a point, but if you have found a good man who you love greatly and if he feels the same way in return you will both find a way to rekindle the sexual excitement for each other.

    A relationship should be about the two people not just one physical act, if you don't get absolutely everything in bed that you want then so be it, that's the price you have to pay to be with a good man who you love.

    To those who say that if you don't get sex at home, they will go looking for it else where, that's just a load of garbage, if you are in a monogamous relationship and you have agreed to a monogamous relationship then it's your responsibility to help your partner and your self redevelop sexual interest in one another through what ever means, no go cheat and break trust just because you got horny and weren't getting any at home.

    There is no justification for having an affair!