Have I EVER found gay men to be superficial? Hell fuckin' yeah! The obsession with hair product, designer labels, pop divas, the relentless pursuit of sex...not that there's anything's wrong with that!
But I've also seen gay men be incredibly deep and caring. Whether it's adopting children, taking care of an ailing parent, or a partner. I've taken to the streets in protests with thousands of other gay men, not just with Prop 8, but against Pete Wilson back in the 90's etc.
We could do much better at getting involved in other issues that have nothing to do with us as gay men, but everything to do with us as compassionate human beings.
We rule music, the arts, and fashion. Style and panache would be non-existent without us. But we also have a history of being caretakers, spiritual leaders, etc. Just look at all the gay men in houses of worship, healthcare, service industry.
Like Black people in America, most gay men have absolutely no idea of our history before the 60's. Our stories are just coming to light in recent years.
Blacks have only been considered citizens since 1964 in a country we'd been in for 400 years. Sodomy laws just got struck down a few years ago. LGBTs still don't have full protection and rights under federal law, so in a sense, we're still adolescent from a sociological perspective. Like teenagers, we've still got some growing up to do.
That doesn't mean we can't cast a critical eye on ourselves, but we can also cut ourselves some slack.