Believe me, being positive is not fun, its not pretty and its not the most enjoyable thing to tell a person if you are getting to know them for fear of rejection. Its a shame that it is this way. It seems a never ending cycle...
People lie about their status because they don't want to be rejected, so they sleep around, possible spreading it to others and so on and so on.
If guys weren't rejected because of the stigma there wouldn't be so much fear or being honest about their status. It goes on and on.
When you meet someone do you ask them about all the other std's? How many times have you been asked "Do you have chlamydia?" "Do you have syphilis"? "have you ever had crabs"? you get the point.
Are these std's as deadly as HIV could possible be? No, I understand the reasoning why the emphasis is on HIV, trust me, I have it, I know.
I saw a guys ad on another site though the other day and he had admitted to me himself that he was positive and had been for 15 years! But on his profile he put HIV-. It really burns my ass up that people lie.
It makes me even more mad that we have to lie about it out of fear of not being accepted, loved and admired for the people we are instead of the disease we have.
HIV is much more manageable than it ever has been. But the stigma is still right up there at the top of the rejection pile.
I understand why guys lie but I dont think its right and it makes me so damn mad. Atleast dont put anything and wait for it to come to that point where you think you might have to tell someone before things go further.
Should someone have to lie? No they shouldn't feel like they have to. But I will tell you this, If I am going to be the type to sleep around, I would much rather be with someone that is upfront and honest and make sure I take precautions than to be with a liar and they infect me....because believe me fellows even in the small town that I live in there is ALOT of lying going on so I can only imagine what its like in the bigger cities.
Its like some guys say...assume everyone is positive until they can prove they are negative and even then you don't know if they are going to remain monogamous (if thats what you decide) and still give you something. Believe me I know from experience.