Alabama

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    Jan 23, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    So me and the other half are quite possibly moving to Alabama, Montgomery area, and I was wondering if anyone had any kind of information on the city. Possibly guys who live there could respond and tell me how "tolerant" the area is, etc. Thanks in advance!
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    Jan 23, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    I'm studying Visual Arts here at the local state university and four of my classmates are from the Montgomery area. They are not returning after graduation and are opting to stay here in Louisiana. Three are African Americans and one is gay, and I've never bothered to ask about the details re AL, because they are so adamant in the way they speak about not going back. The idea being that LA is somehow more tolerant that AL (?....I guess it's all relative).
    Keep in mind that these are art students and that maybe being in their early 20's, they wouldn't be going home no matter where that might be. Good luck with your decision.
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    Jan 23, 2010 5:07 PM GMT
  • Iluros

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    Jan 23, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    My sister lived in Alabama for a few years because her husband was stationed there. I happened to be visiting Missouri around the same time... I think our parents thought we were crazy.

    According to her, the people there were very polite and nice. So as far as Southern Hospitality goes, they're probably more pleasant than the typical American. Just not to gays. So I'd say it's probably not a good place to move to.
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    Jan 23, 2010 5:35 PM GMT
    Oh lil'man .. go west! and Alabama is not west enough! icon_lol.gif

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZSwQmqvtPw

    Other than that I would consider a larger urban area like Atlanta if you want to stay in the south.
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    Jan 23, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    I lived in AL for a little over a year, transferring there for work. With no disrespect to anyone living there: I knew within a few months that I would not stay any longer than I had to.

    I lived in Birmingham, which was supposedly the most progressive part of the state. Taking that assumption with me, I was severely disappointed. It felt as though no one was "out" until they walked through the door of the gay bar/club.

    I work for a very lefty company and at least expected some comfort there. I was wrong on that account as well.

    In general, most people weren't openly hostile to anyone (pretty high crime rate though, fyi). The prevailing mentality was "if you're not from here, I don't care to know or talk to you". The majority of people I came into contact with had passive-aggressiveness down to a science.

    I could say more, but I'm trying to forget that year and a half of my life. My social life was miserable, and that was about all I had the energy to try to change. You're with someone, so that will help immensely!!

    And you better love, and I mean seriously love hot summers. I'm from NC and no stranger to the heat and humidity. However, AL was a new level of hell in the summer.

    Good luck, and if you decide to go there, I hope you will have a much better time of than I did. I feel the difference will be going there with your partner.

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    Jan 23, 2010 7:37 PM GMT
    DON'T DO IT!!!

    'Bama is basically stuck in the 70s. Conservatives still rule the roost and Church is the main social outlet -most of them Protestant, most of those Baptist.

    Racism still runs rampant and there is still an "us/them" mentality.

    True, you'll find some liberal pockets and glimmers of culture and the arts but for the most part AL is pretty behind the times.

    I lived in Montgomery for three years and the "big "city" of Birmingham for almost two and the main thing for the gays to do is one gay bar in either city and shopping.

    I never want to go back!
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    Jan 23, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    Alabama?

    Ew.
  • Southern_Draw...

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    Jan 24, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    I have visited Montgomery and I know several people from Alabama. I would really think twice about moving there. When I was looking for a southern city I was considering Dallas, Houston, Charlotte and finally chose Atlanta.
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    Jan 24, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    LDN1 saidAlabama?

    Ew.


    OM-G

    I completely agree. Ew x2!

    Like who would voluntarily go there? Raunch!

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  • Webster666

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    Jan 24, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    I took a lot of law classes.
    The various instructors ALWAYS cited Alabama as being the most backward and uneducated state in the country, and the least tolerant of minorities, like gays, for instance.
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    omg i live in Alabama.

    its not that badicon_exclaim.gif
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:24 AM GMT
    hey lilZ, you and the other half...music.
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    Feb 04, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    So we visited the area. Bf got a job just south of Montgomery. It's not bad at all lol. Will be moving in a couple of weeks!
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    Jul 12, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    holdenout saidDON'T DO IT!!!

    'Bama is basically stuck in the 70s. Conservatives still rule the roost and Church is the main social outlet -most of them Protestant, most of those Baptist.

    Racism still runs rampant and there is still an "us/them" mentality.

    True, you'll find some liberal pockets and glimmers of culture and the arts but for the most part AL is pretty behind the times.

    I lived in Montgomery for three years and the "big "city" of Birmingham for almost two and the main thing for the gays to do is one gay bar in either city and shopping.

    I never want to go back!


    Holdenout is right, but I'm Bama born and raised, and I still love some parts of it. Montgomery leaves MUCH to be desired, but living in Huntsville has reinvigorated my love for Alabama's beautiful scenery, and my hope for Alabama's future. HSV is a progressive city, and frequently listed on "Top 10, etc..." lists of places to live, especially in rocky economic times.

    I hope you've been enjoying yourselves since the move! I wouldn't live in the Gump again =oP
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    Jul 12, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    If I had a partner who even THOUGHT of moving to AL, I'd drop him faster than a 500 lb dumbbell.