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    Jan 24, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    say what you will- i'm sure this'll get a lot of ire, but i need to put it out there in the ether, since its too late to call any friend and rant to them.
    just had the worst birthday ever, followed by the worst date i've ever been on.

    my birthday was yesterday. 23. most people i know forgot about it- which is understandable. it was completely ignored in here. the card my parents swore they sent 4 days ago hasn't arrived yet, and i have no letters or packages waiting for me at the front desk at all. none of my fraternity brothers were available to go out with me last night, so i had one underage friend agree to try his luck with his fake id at the bars with me. it got confiscated by a bouncer at midnight, ruining the evening early. came back home and passed out alone.

    today, part two: worst date in experience. a guy who's been in remote 'friend' status with me for a while now wanted to try and take me on a date, for my birthday, specifically to inspire me to take the next step and hopefully generate some romance between us.... he failed utterly. he was late getting here by an hour, so he took me to the restaurant he'd picked from the internet at 10pm, and i was starving. it was a hole in the wall japanese restaurant in a bad part of town, and it smelled awful (dead fish and mildew). the menu was small, and they were out of eel so most of the available sushi choices were crossed off the already short list. immediately, i suggested we drink our saki and go somewhere else. he wouldn't let us- said he liked it and wanted to give it a shot- one of those annoyingly optimistic people. he got all sullen and grumpy after that, like my wanting a different venue was a personal attack on him. guess he forgot we were there for MY birthday. when i said i wanted to order two rolls of sushi and an appetizer (i usually eat 3 or 4 rolls, and the ones i'd picked tonight were $5 each), he made some awkward remark about me being able to pack away a lot of food (in his mind i guess two rolls is a lot), and gave me a look like i was a pig. the food was awful, and so was his conversational ability. when we left i had a stomach ache. we went next door so i could get a tea to sooth my stomach, and he let me pay for it. we decided to see a movie i've desperately wanted to see for months- The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus. he missed two major turns getting there so we arrived 15 minutes after its start time. i had to buy both tickets while he parked the car, with my own money, and then buy all the concessions as well ($35 total). missed the first part of the movie and had no idea what was going on for a while. afterwards, he gave me his birthday present- a cheap water purifier. now, don't get me wrong, i appreciate the thought of giving a gift at all, so its not that i'm ungrateful.... but a water purifier? that flavors your water like strawberries? icon_evil.gif and this from a guy who's trying to woo me.
    then he wanted to sleep over for the night. i was like, 'nothing's going to happen you know, just so that's out there.' after a brief awkward silence, he announced he was driving home after all. thank god.

    i feel like crying icon_sad.gif and i'm already on Zoloft.
  • creature

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    Jan 24, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    Happy belated birthday.

    Sorry to hear you didn't have a swell time. But when you think about it, everyday should be a celebration of your birth, not just the day that marks its anniversary.

    So continue celebrating!
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:03 AM GMT
    um......birthdays are over-rated...but I am sorry you had such a rough time.
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    Jan 24, 2010 11:31 AM GMT
    I'm sorry but......


    HAHAHAHA
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    Jan 24, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    Life is filled with disappointments and happy surprises. icon_wink.gif
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  • baldone

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    Jan 24, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    what a douche...if i am taking someone out for their b-day, i make damn sure that i make that night special for that guy....birthdays are just birthdays..but to most people, including me, its important and want it to be recognized...and a water purifier...nice product but not as a birthday gift for someone your taking out...
    anyways happy belated birthday hope rest of your wekend is a little bettericon_smile.gif
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    Jan 24, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Wow, my birthday is a holiday I take really seriously. That would piss me off to no end. The sushi business is grounds for dismissal. I order the family boat for myself.

    Did you ever see "Bullets over Broadway"? I love the line when Diane Wiest orders two martinis in a speakeasy. John Cusack says "wow how did you know what I drink". She replies, "Oh, you're having one too". She then tells the waiter to "make it three".

    You're a boy who likes nice things. Why don't you go shopping? Buy yourself something pretty, it will make you feel better and be a great way to celebrate your birthday.

    Happy belated birthday,
    T
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    Jan 24, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    If you lived close, I'd take you somewhere to paint the town red, or the color of your choice.

    Happy belated.

    Sorry it sucked.
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    Jan 24, 2010 2:57 PM GMT
    Before long you'll look back and laugh at the whole thing. It was definitely an awful series of events, but with so much life ahead you'll be overjoyed more than you can imagine.

    Have you listed the water purifier on ebay yet? The back story might increase interest in the item.

    Happy belated birthday. icon_smile.gif
  • lacrosse_port...

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    Jan 24, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    I just feel for you... that is awful, A water purifier... brilliant though lol. Wonder what he would get you for xmas, coffee filters possibly lol. Sorry you had a sucky birthday, birthdays may not be special to a lot of people but I understand. Sorry to hear dude
  • Celticmusl

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    Jan 24, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    Lol, yeah, and I also feel sorry for the other guy as well.
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    I'd suggest you repurpose this negative birthday into a positive birthday for next year. Do a destination birthday. Start planning now. Start a birthday fun fund. Pick a nice hotel, go alone or with a pal, stay in a nice hotel, dine out, enjoy a spa day, treat yourself, etc. Then, every time you remember the bummer 23, you'll also remember the amazing 24 when you visited Place A and did Things B-R.

    Belated happy birthday.

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    Jan 24, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    maybe you guys should have gone to the zoo ;)
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    Momma said there would be days like this, there would be days like this my momma said.
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    Damn man, nobody deserves to have a crappy birthday. I'm sure you'll have much better days from here on. Hope you start feeling better soon
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    Ok, so your birthday nor did the date quite turn out to be a fun or great experience, however, it's not the end of the world! Sometimes days and events like this happen so you can re-evaluate who'e in your life and why and maybe time to acquire new people that fit your lifestyle better. Birthday's for me are like a HUGE Holiday and I enjoy them immensely but it wasn't always like that, I just had to take control of what I wanted, when I wanted and with whom.

    Look, don't let this beat you down longer than it already has, it happened and it has passed. Go out and treat yourself to something nice and/or fun and make the MOST of it!!!



    HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!!
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    Jan 24, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    Stories like this is why I make my birthday, my day. I do what the hell I want to do. You can come along, or you can opt out.

    And agree with what Rob said above me.

    You should have made it about you. If you had gone to club/bar alone, I guarantee you, some guys would have bought you birthday shots or drinks.

    Happy Belated Birthday
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    Jan 24, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    Dear Czarodziej, consider a birthday hug?


    ***** HUG****


    Nice fur on the face by the way! Grrrrr!


    Lol, I think most of us have a few stinky birthdays under our belts, but there are many many many birthdays ahead of you. I'll willing to bet lots of those will be pretty Ace, eh?


    -Doug
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    Jan 24, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday & about that date - Ugh - when it rains it pours. The Dating game is rough & that's a great story ( I think I dated that guy - or maybe it was his uncle).
    So here's the deal little brother - First the bad news - there will be WORSE dates than that one ( hard to believe - but true) & there will be better - Some will be so good you'll think you're dreaming - those are the ones you have to remember. The only way to have the good ones is to stay in the game and go out on the bad ones.
    You are in a position to do something I didn't think of - WRITE them down & after a while you'll have a best seller! You can start with this one - have Fun!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 24, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    Happy birthday. Your date sounds like a night of hell, but I bet your sense of humor will take hold of it before long. A stingy date who says you eat too much, makes you buy his movie ticket, gives you a strawberry-flavored water filter and then asks to stay over? You must be super-polite to have endured that without blowing up. I can't want to see the movie.

    During my single years, if I found myself in a situation approaching that, I just left.

  • DCguy2001

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    Jan 24, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    That sucks. Happy belated birthday. The only silver lining is your next birthday will be much better...because there's nowhere to go but up!
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    Jan 24, 2010 4:47 PM GMT
    I commend stoicism, but realise that it offers little comfort. :-/

    I've had a couple of dates in the past that I've cried over --- because they were so horrendously bad. With a little time, you come to realise that they're actually quite comical. The upshot of it was that he obviously doesn't really know you... and that is that! As you say, a rant is a good idea to get it all out of your system.

    I stopped celebrating my birthday after 25, deciding that to so was an exercise in vanity.
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    Jan 24, 2010 4:54 PM GMT
    TigerTim saidI stopped celebrating my birthday after 25, deciding that to so was an exercise in vanity.


    OMG.
  • bryjeepguy

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    Jan 24, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    Happy belated birthday, sorry it didn't work out that, well for you, I have been there it sucks i know *HUG*, hope your next one does
  • cowboyathlete

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    Jan 24, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    The only time i ever hear from folks about my birthday is by way of Facebook. That is enough for me. Sure, a big party would be nice sometime, but I would rather treat myself than rely on someone who flakes out.