DUDE!...WTF?...you're wearing lipstick!

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    Jan 24, 2010 7:35 PM GMT
    So my BF of 3 months and I were getting together for a movie and dinner. I showed up a few minutes early and caught him removing makeup and still had a really obnoxious color and amount of lipstick on...I asked him who the drag show was for and he tried to deny anything was going on.....I dropped it, and we had our great evening out. I feel a bit unsure of where we are right now, because he never said anything about this in the past and is denying it even when I caught him with my own two eyes...I'm not sure what to think....Truth be told, personally, I prefer guys that don't need a drag persona, as I don't understand it...but at least be upfront and let me know..., the lack of information and denying it bothers me.... Trying to understand another facet of his personality and not getting any help from him on this. Are any of you into drag...got any suggestions? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 24, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    If he can't tell you why he was wearing makeup or let you know about his alter-ego, than it's better to just move on to a guy who can at least be honest with you.
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    Jan 24, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    I don't think wearing lipstick is a big deal. Particularly in this age of bronzer, spray tans, and guyliner.

    That said, I agree with the other poster that if he can't be honest with you, whether he's doing drag, has a fetish, or just likes lipstick, it would worry me.
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    Jan 24, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    Have you told him you don’t understand drag?
    If you have, maybe he is afraid of upsetting you, loosing you if he talks about it.
    I don’t understand why some guys can’t communicate.
    “I don’t want to talk about it”…is unacceptable.
    If I came home and found such a scene, there is no way I could just go to dinner and forget about it.
    I don’t quite get drag myself, but it isn’t a deal breaker.
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    Jan 24, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    NewAge saidIf he can't tell you why he was wearing makeup or let you know about his alter-ego, than it's better to just move on to a guy who can at least be honest with you.

    That's the potentially grim news in this. I've done drag myself, as have many of my gay friends, I was very much into the drag scene for a number of years. And none of them but one ever wanted to wear makeup & drag off the stage. And the one who did was so seriously maladjusted it was tragic. The stories I could tell (for another time)...

    So was he experimenting with some new stage makeup look? Does he do drag? In which case I say Brava, but he ought to just tell you, so you can support & encourage his "hobby." That would be OK with you, right?

    Or does he dress up at home alone for a sexual thrill? That gets into other areas that are more complex, and outside my own realm of personal experience. But I do think you guys need to talk, and I hope you keep an open mind. He may just feel guilty and ashamed, of doing ordinary drag in repressed Ohio, when it would be perfectly normal & acceptable elsewhere. Talk it over, give him a chance. Ask him does he do drag, and tell him you find that interesting and want to learn more, if you can honestly say that.

    Either he'll continue to refuse to discuss it (a bad sign), or he'll suddenly open up to you as a friend & ally, and your relationship will grow closer & stronger.
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    Jan 24, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    It might be that he just isnt ready to be "honest" about this yet. Give him time. Dont throw away an otherwise good man cuz this one hasnt quite gotten to the point of revealing all. You got a long time to be discovering things about each other. ... icon_biggrin.gif ... or ... icon_eek.gif ... icon_lol.gif

    Personally, I think drag queens often have the greatest sense of humor and are fun to be around. It aint me. But none of them asked me to be. ... icon_wink.gif ... You might find your man has a whole 'nother dimension to him that is funner than hell. ... icon_biggrin.gif ... or ... icon_eek.gif ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 24, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    Caslon13000 saidPersonally, I think drag queens often have the greatest sense of humor and are fun to be around. It aint me...

    Ain't you? Some of us drag cats beg to differ!!!

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