Assistance with a class project, please!

  • scothman

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I am doing a report on coming out and I would love to get some of your input. If you could, please just give a real quick response to the following questions. I appreciate all of you that help me out, thanks!

    At what did you come out (if not out, please indicate)?

    How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out?

    Who did you first tell?

    How did it go:
    Great
    good
    poorly
    awful

    Is it what you expected?


    Thanks again for you help!

  • Nicobx15

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    Mom, great, yes
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    Jan 24, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    Came out at 21.

    Knew at 5, so 16 yrs difference.

    Told sister first, at the salad bar of a restaurant. Family at table asking all kinds of questions about when I was going to start dating, so couldn't stand it anymore. She seemed a little stunned at first. But everyone was absolutely great. We're a very loving family.
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    Jan 25, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    scothman saidHey guys, I am doing a report on coming out and I would love to get some of your input. If you could, please just give a real quick response to the following questions. I appreciate all of you that help me out, thanks!

    At what did you come out (if not out, please indicate)?
    At what age? 25 ... that seems so long ago

    How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out?
    Since puberty...around 12. So 13 years or so.

    Who did you first tell?
    my mom....she didnt know what gay was, so I had to explain it to her

    How did it go:
    Great
    good
    poorly
    awful

    Is it what you expected?
    no. I expected a little more drama in return for my being in the closet all those years.


    Thanks again for you help!

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    Jan 25, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    > At what age did you come out (if not out, please indicate)?
    23.

    > How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out?
    Started suspecting around 13 but thought I'd outgrow it and wasn't really sure (I wasn't "gay", just attracted to other guys). Let's say 10 years.

    > Who did you first tell?
    Technically, my boyfriend-to-be.
    Otherwise my mom (nearly 1 year later).

    > How did it go:
    Great

    > Is it what you expected?
    I knew she (a social worker) would be OK with anyone else being gay - just not sure how she would react when it was her little baby boy....
  • jonhyboy

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    Jan 25, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    scothman saidHey guys, I am doing a report on coming out and I would love to get some of your input. If you could, please just give a real quick response to the following questions. I appreciate all of you that help me out, thanks!

    At what did you come out (if not out, please indicate)? 15 years old

    How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out? I realized that I was gay when I was 15 but in a way I think I always knew... but the time between I realized it and the time I came out... 1 week or so

    Who did you first tell? a friend

    How did it go:
    Great
    good
    poorly
    awful

    Is it what you expected?yes and no... I knew she was someone really open minded but in a way I think I expected a little more drama (I was so nervous to tell her lol)


    Thanks again for you help!

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    Jan 25, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    Came out at 21

    I knew for sure when i was 18...i think.

    Told my roomate

    It went amazing! (great)

    It went really well and it is what i expected because my roomate and i are at university in a very knowledge based upper middle society...basically not a hillbilly or ignorance based society.

    yay!


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  • ScotXY

    Posts: 117

    Jan 25, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    At what did you come out (if not out, please indicate)?
    I knew something was different 6yo
    Started having lots of feelings for guys at 9yo
    came out to myself 14yo
    came out to people at Gay Lesbian Community Center of colorado at 18yo
    came out to parents 21yo


    How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out?
    12years
    Who did you first tell?
    CeCe (Young gay mens coming out group Leader Counselor)
    How did it go:
    Great with CeCe 18yo
    good
    poorly
    awful with parents 21yo

    Is it what you expected?
    To Cece and others in group yes.

    To my parents at 21yo Yes ... Have not heard nor seen them since.
    Been on my own only child and no help ... there for no family since.
    17 years now.
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    Jan 25, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    scothman saidHey guys, I am doing a report on coming out and I would love to get some of your input. If you could, please just give a real quick response to the following questions. I appreciate all of you that help me out, thanks!

    At what did you come out (if not out, please indicate)? 22

    How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out?
    2 years
    Who did you first tell? flat-mate

    How did it go:
    Great X
    good
    poorly
    awful

    Is it what you expected? No, all my fears were unfounded.


    Thanks again for you help!

  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jan 25, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    At what age did you come out (if not out, please indicate)? 24, 25 to family

    How long between the time you knew you were gay and when you came out? 12 or 13 years

    Who did you first tell? Best friend, also ex gf.

    How did it go:
    Great
    good
    poorly
    awful

    Is it what you expected? Yes for my friend, I knew she already had a hint and would be very supportive. Family, not at all. Family was surprisingly accepting. My father is very religious, so complete surprise he's so cool with it.
  • RedCedar

    Posts: 42

    Jan 25, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    When I came out: Told a few friends at 19.
    When did I realize: Technically 19, but I still remember my first crush at 5 years old.
    Response: They said and I quote: Alright. Best reaction ever.
    What I expected: Yep ... real friends won't care.