How Long Did It Take...?

  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:34 PM GMT
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    How long did it take for you to move ahead with your own life after a break-up with an ex? A close friend's relationship with his lover ended over 3 years ago because my friend had a problem with infidelity. He still refuses to date or even try to meet someone else because he is waiting for his ex to "take him back".
  • GQjock

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:41 PM GMT
    A problem with "infidelity"?

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:45 PM GMT
    I'm still not ready, I'm not looking to be taken back, that's not gonna happen and I know it, but, I'm not ready to try anything, I don't want anything....
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    Jan 24, 2010 11:47 PM GMT
    two...no wait..three days

    Smack some sense into him.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:49 PM GMT
    GQjock saidA problem with "infidelity"?



    Maybe I phrased it wrong..(heaven forbid...lol) but my friend was "unfaithful" to his lover.
  • baldone

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    Jan 24, 2010 11:54 PM GMT
    i guess in a different way, i still have not moved on, although if the right guy were to come along......i still feel tremendous guilt for what i did to her, my family and the whole picture......people tell me to stop blaming myself but that is hard to do......
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    Jan 25, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    Some people are way too emotionally attached to their partners and thus are scared to move on. Your friend sounds like them. Also am no Oprah, so could be wrong.
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    Jan 25, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    It's been almost eight months... and I'm pretty much over the whole shitty, abusive relationship, but I'm just not ready to get back into that whole dating game yet. I got burned pretty badly.

    But one day, I will... Make no mistake. Until then, I'm content to love myself until I can love another again.
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    Jan 25, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    Took me roughly a year
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    Jan 25, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    I guess everyone is different in how they handle it. My ex and I were together for 15 years - luckily it ended amicably - back in the end of last summer. In all honesty though the "relationship" had been over for quite a long time. We each made mistakes and learned from them. I really try and see things with a positive point of view - I am definitely ready for love again. As the old saying goes "When you fall off of the horse - you pick yourself up and get right back on again" - if we keep hiding behind a protective wall there will be so many things we would miss out on. Speaking for myself life is way too short to miss out on spending it with someone special. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 25, 2010 4:33 AM GMT
    Everyone's different and every relationship is different too.
  • drypin

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    Jan 25, 2010 7:48 AM GMT
    Well, I was the break-upper so you might claim that I did much of the emotional work while still in the relationship and was ready to move on soon after the event.
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    Jan 25, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    Two years.

    I take a long time to heal. icon_mad.gif