Leaving to Australia and finding it really hard to cope

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    Jan 25, 2010 9:42 AM GMT
    so I have been dating this guy since September. We have a very emotionally draining relationship. It has been full of its ups and downs. However, through it all, we seem to always come back to the simple fact that we literally care for one another and in some form or another, love each other (save it for those who think you cant love after a few months... I've dated many and been in one other LTR).
    anyway, the point is that yesterday I told him I'm moving to australia for school. I wasnt certain if thats where I was going to go till 5 days ago. I was banking on being able to pay to go to Columbia but it just isn't going to happens (250k in loans over three years and an NP license later... not worth it). Anyway, he was already overwhelmed by the other stuff hes having to deal with and i just threw a monkey wrench into an already overbearing situation (for him). He told me a month ago how hes scared because hes falling more and more for me every day and he knows in the end I'm going to leave. Anyway, he thinks I'll cope with it better because I'll be busy with school and in a new place. He will still be in LA doing what he always does... anyway, i leave at the end of February. I dont know what to do because im becoming neurotic. I want to keep him around and sleep with him, kiss him and pretend everything is fine. He wants to distance himself (at least he says he does) because this situation isn't fair for either of us. I want him to see that we will just end up running back to each other like we always do. Except this time we will have lost time we could have spent together. Any advice as to how I can approach this situation? I have a date with him tomorrow.
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    Jan 25, 2010 10:38 AM GMT
    to make matters worse... he was out tonight and his best friend got hit by a car and is in the emergency room. wtf?!?!?! this is like a bad movie!
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    Jan 25, 2010 11:10 AM GMT
    if moving to australia for school is something you really want to do, then you need to let him have that distance.

    You want him around, like nothings going to happen, but, for you, your going to somewhere new to do something great and have an incredible time (hopefully) for him, he's staying there, losing the man he has feelings for, experience the daily grind of life and still losing the man he has feelings for.

    Your going to have to let him do what he feels will be best for him, you can't have everything you want, let him have this.
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    Jan 25, 2010 11:53 AM GMT
    Listen to liltank... he's seldom wrong. (and you don't want to know what he does if he catches you not listening)
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    Jan 25, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    oh I'm so pissed right now. so he calls me from his house and tells me his friends left him alone at the club just to call him about he friend getting run over. I'm like, what happened to you friends? anyway, he was making out with someone... after a long heated arguement over the phone we both break down crying. not cute in the least bit..
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    Jan 25, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidif moving to australia for school is something you really want to do, then you need to let him have that distance.

    You want him around, like nothings going to happen, but, for you, your going to somewhere new to do something great and have an incredible time (hopefully) for him, he's staying there, losing the man he has feelings for, experience the daily grind of life and still losing the man he has feelings for.

    Your going to have to let him do what he feels will be best for him, you can't have everything you want, let him have this.


    this is very true. thanks liltank.