joshnyc saidcurious about when people lost their virginity.
Well, just to be contrary (and what gay man isn't?), I don't think I LOST anything. Rather, I GAINED my sexual adulthood, not once, but twice.
The first time was at 26, with a woman. First sexual relations in my life, as well as the first person I had ever dated in my life, for that matter.
Yeah, I was fucked-up, assuming in my mind I had to do what other men did, but finding no interest in women, never dating one, no high-school prom, no dances, no nothing. But unable to accept that men were my true interest, I just went without, rationalizing that I was somehow asexual, lacking any sexual interests at all.
Then one day a tom-boy provided the answer. Rough & tumble, an outdoors person & motorcyclist like me, she was more boy than girl (she later became a US Army Colonel, just like me). Indeed, we'd swap each other's jeans & shirts, and a few times people addressed us as "you two fellas" and similar, thinking we were both men, her short hair and small bust aiding the illusion.
Then 20 years later at 46 I had my first gay sex, still the most intense and best sexual experience of my life. When did I lose my virginity? For me the question is better phrased: when did I lose my delusions about myself? That would be 46.