Turn your gaydars on

  • DrobUA

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    Jan 27, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    Alright here is the situation. Mon, wed, fri, I have an hour to kill between classes and its at lunchtime so I eat on campus. Everyday I see the same guy and I thought he was cute so I asked him if he wanted to eat together and he said yea. So we talked for an hour, he gave me his number and we planned on hanging out at some point. I don't like to assume guys are gay but I'm usually pretty intuitive when it comes to that kinda thing. We text back and forth a little, start making the lunch a regular thing and we are really hitting it off. He's quick witted, funny, we get along great and even have some mutual friends. So today I got lost when I was driving and found this really sick looking mountain so I texted him a picture of it and asked him if he wanted to go hiking this weekend. He said he can't wait. His facebook says he is straight but he is only a freshman so its a definite possibility he's just not out yet. We were texting later today and I said, "Just out of curiosity, are you religious?" (Thinking that it could be a factor as to fighting sexuality). He said, "Interesting question. I feel that's one to be talked about in person, maybe breakfast tomorrow? At this point in my life I'm undecided, confused, Indifferent, but I was raised very christian... Why do you ask?"

    Anyways.. I'm thinking maybe he will come out to me tomorrow but I'm not sure. I haven't told him I'm gay but it is on my facebook so idk if he knows. It's not that I'm afraid to tell him it's just a little soon and if he is straight I don't wanna give him the wrong idea.

    What do you think? Gay or Ney?
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    Jan 27, 2010 5:35 AM GMT
    Don't discount the fact that he IS a freshman. And maybe just looking for new friends and you did approach first. Plus, having had to hang out with you at lunch, it's not really surprising that you guys become good friends.
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 27, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    I know... I'm kinda hoping thats not the case.
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    Jan 27, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    It's so not the case.

    At the last part, he said he was raised very christian, right?

    That alone, in my opinion, justifies his "Straight" status on facebook. He probably has family friends on there or some people who are religious and so he keeps in hiding.

    He may just be a really nice straight guy, but in this generation, anyone could be gay, so I'm excited to hear your update from breakfast tomorrow.
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    Jan 28, 2010 4:17 AM GMT
    Any update? I'm kinda curious...
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    Jan 28, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    sjv209 saidAny update? I'm kinda curious...


    they are probably doing it...so don't interrupt lol
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    Jan 28, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    I am interested in this. What happened between you and this guy?
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 28, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    haha he slept through his alarm and missed class so we postponed it to fri.. Don't worry I'll update. But what are your thoughts from what I said?
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    Well, my gaydar does not work that far away .. maybe you should try noaa.gov icon_lol.gif
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 28, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidWell, my gaydar does not work that far away .. maybe you should try noaa.gov icon_lol.gif


    Does google maps not have gaydar yet?

    .. They should work on that
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidhaha he slept through his alarm and missed class so we postponed it to fri.. Don't worry I'll update. But what are your thoughts from what I said?


    I won't speculate on the sexuality of a guy that I've never met, but I think that if you wanna see if you can take things further with him you should bring up dating or relationships in a casual way.
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    DrobUA said
    ActiveAndFit saidWell, my gaydar does not work that far away .. maybe you should try noaa.gov icon_lol.gif


    Does google maps not have gaydar yet?

    .. They should work on that
    actually, if you have an i-phone .. there is an application called grinder a friend told me about .. it lets you know who hear you is looking for uh "meeting" icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:51 AM GMT
    My gaydars broken.
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:52 AM GMT
    kscott6671 saidMy gaydars broken.
    Maybe it has been "jammed" icon_biggrin.gif
  • WILDCARD73

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    Jan 28, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    ask him if about music
    generaly if he has no main male idols, and he prefers the women divas , then shes a gay
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    Jan 28, 2010 6:05 AM GMT
    He's not a gay. He slept thru his alarm? Yeah righticon_wink.gif
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    Jan 28, 2010 6:19 AM GMT
    dunno him, but you're pretty gay icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 28, 2010 6:26 AM GMT
    I'd wait until he says what he has to say on Friday before I comment on his sexuality... but I like where this is going.
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 28, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    djohn767 saidHe's not a gay. He slept thru his alarm? Yeah righticon_wink.gif


    haha he did. He asked me if I wanted to come over because the rest of his classes today don't take attendance... mine unfortunately did.
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 28, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    joshnyc saiddunno him, but you're pretty gay icon_lol.gif


    Last time I checked
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    Shirtless pics of him would really help icon_rolleyes.gif
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 30, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    Alright heres how it went down. There was a little mis-communication, he thought we were meeting at 10, I thought we were meeting at 11. So around 10:30 he texts me and says, "Are you still alive?" So we got that figured out, I was only about 5 min away but I guess while he was waiting a girl he knew saw him and sat down. So the 3 of us are having breakfast... awesome. Anyways we are talking and somehow me checking out a girl came up and I saw my chance so I took it. I said, "Well I'm gay, so looking up a girls skirt isn't that high on my priority list." I was planning on reading his reaction but he didn't really have one. Anyways I had to go to class so we are texting after and I was like sorry if I made that awkward for you. (Coming out to him in front of his friend wasn't really my plan). He said , "No worries". I asked if he already knew and he said, "Yea Carly told me last night" Carly is our mutual friend who I accidentally let it slip to earlier this week (knowing she'd probably tell him). I was like, "oh cool, if you have any questions I'm an open book" He said, "How long have you been out?" before I could answer he said, "Actually I don't wanna talk about this over text, we'll talk mon. when I'm back in town" (Last min snowboarding trip came up).

    Anyways.. analyze
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    Jan 30, 2010 2:24 AM GMT
    Lostboy saidShirtless pics of him would really help icon_rolleyes.gif


    haha yup..
  • inuman

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    Jan 30, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    Well a few things come to mind...


    First off is this real or are you dreaming it up in order to gauge our responses? If so good work so far on getting responses in all different manners icon_cool.gif


    Secondly, what if he wants to try and "turn" you by offering to sign you up to one of those oh so fame America Conversion Camps icon_razz.gif If that's the case he's a genius for luring you in to thinking he is gay icon_twisted.gif


    Lastly what if he is gay but what if he's not interested in you sexually at all, just likes to think that your a bromigo icon_confused.gif


    I know everyone is just on the edge of their seats cause we could have a possible new couple or a new gay to the fold but what if he turns the tables and says, "Look I'm sorry but I can't hang with you anymore because your gay!" I mean the list could go on, on how variations might occur but one thing is certain you are the one who is pursuing him......so I say go get him icon_cool.gif
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 30, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    inuman saidWell a few things come to mind...


    First off is this real or are you dreaming it up in order to gauge our responses? If so good work so far on getting responses in all different manners icon_cool.gif


    haha that would be a pretty elaborate and detailed story to dream up.. I wish I had that good of an imagination

    inuman saidLastly what if he is gay but what if he's not interested in you sexually at all, just likes to think that your a bromigo icon_confused.gif


    This has obviously crossed my mind.. only time will tell.


    inuman saidI know everyone is just on the edge of their seats cause we could have a possible new couple or a new gay to the fold but what if he turns the tables and says, "Look I'm sorry but I can't hang with you anymore because your gay!" I mean the list could go on, on how variations might occur but one thing is certain you are the one who is pursuing him......so I say go get him icon_cool.gif


    The more time I spend with him the more certain I am that he's gay. The only questions left are.. is he ready to do anything about it? and is he interested in me? We will see..