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    Jan 27, 2010 10:48 AM GMT
    I need some real friends. Some Down Low friends.
    Any DL guys in Chicago say HERE.


    Oh and on a side note...BOYSTOWN the one place where even though Im pretty much Gay, I would be terrified of going in alone, or in any case expose my cute straight friends to go with me to a bar.

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    Jan 27, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    Of what are you terrified?
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    Jan 27, 2010 12:58 PM GMT
    Dude, Chicago is enormously gay-friendly... and there is a lot of fun to be had beyond North Halsted.
    Get out there and off the DL! You'll be much happier.
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    Jan 27, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    for what?

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    Jan 27, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    DL people in Chicago? Maybe in the 40s.
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    Jan 27, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    Rodmramer saidfor what?

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    Wouldn't it be something if everyone who believed in the premise of that song actually let go of the wheel the next time they're driving and asked Jesus to take the wheel? Fun fun fun!
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    Jan 27, 2010 4:13 PM GMT
    McGay said
    Rodmramer saidfor what?

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    Wouldn't it be something if everyone who believed in the premise of that song actually let go of the wheel the next time they're driving and asked Jesus to take the wheel? Fun fun fun!



    http://www.angelfire.com/id/hern/
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    Jan 27, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
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    Jan 27, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    the whole idea of 'down-low' is ridiculous icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 27, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    SantosMadrid saidthe whole idea of 'down-low' is ridiculous icon_rolleyes.gif


    Well Boystown is scary for me hahaha
    and Down Low is my way ,...im fine like that... for now. Im pretty new to this. Baby steps...baby steps. I still live with my fam, cant find a place of my own yet... thats why.

    i guess that, what ridiculous is for some, it is decent for me. everyone has a different way to deal with their preferences... icon_smile.gif


    And Chicago is not gay friendly, at least not all of them... because
    most of them expect some hot 6'2" tall person to hang around with them only or they're not cool enough. I attack how shallow the Chicago Gay Scene is.
    i bet not many of you guys would actually invite me to hang out with you guys.



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    Jan 27, 2010 6:24 PM GMT
    Pinny saidDL people in Chicago? Maybe in the 40s.


    Oh believe me...
    i know A BUNCH that are in their 20s...and still downlow ;)
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    Jan 27, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    ItsJhonnyBam said
    SantosMadrid saidthe whole idea of 'down-low' is ridiculous icon_rolleyes.gif

    Well Boystown is scary for me hahaha
    and Down Low is my way ,...im fine like that... for now. Im pretty new to this. Baby steps...baby steps. I still live with my fam, cant find a place of my own yet... thats why.
    i guess that, what ridiculous is for some, it is decent for me. everyone has a different way to deal with their preferences... icon_smile.gif
    And Chicago is not gay friendly, at least not all of them... because
    most of them expect some hot 6'2" tall person to hang around with them only or they're not cool enough. I attack how shallow the Chicago Gay Scene is.
    i bet not many of you guys would actually invite me to hang out with you guys.


    Psychologically, there is no 'time' sir. But you are right, my comment was harsh. My apologies.
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    Jan 27, 2010 6:47 PM GMT
    SantosMadrid saidthe whole idea of 'down-low' is ridiculous icon_rolleyes.gif


    thank you for saying that. it is ridiculous. I could see if you were in West Virginia ...
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    Jan 27, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    I can certainly understand and respect that you have to handle coming out in your own time and your own way, and can also see how Boystown can be intimidating for someone new to the scene. I think it's more intimidating by reputation though than reality.

    I'll take issue though with your generalization that Chicago gay guys are all shallow and seeking someone that looks like a fitness model to hang out with, refusing to give average guys the time of day. There are shallow gay guys in every city and every corner of the world, who, due to their own insecurity embrace the worst behavior possible.

    One of the things I came to love about Chicago when I moved here in 2005 is that average guys do exist, and they are comfortable going about their business in the gay bars of Boystown and beyond. Granted, the pretentious, vapid, shallow "pretty" boys exist here, but so do a lot of guys who are comfortable in a sweat shirt, jeans and a ball-cap.

    Chicago is a city where you can actually be yourself and find someone or several people who will embrace that. It's much more about personality and confidence than looks here.
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    Jan 27, 2010 9:01 PM GMT
    That feels much bette...r and please no apologies i totally understand where you guys are coming from. this is the time where i recognize that the one with the messed up concept of guys is me.

    I really need to take the first step. I just somehow thought it would be a little easier to come out with someone that is on the down low however i do apologize by saying that most chicago guys are shallow, i just said it based on the people I have met, like most of them get totally bitchy afterwards. I don't know why. Haha. Sadly it has happened.

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    Jan 27, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    jrs1 said
    SantosMadrid saidthe whole idea of 'down-low' is ridiculous icon_rolleyes.gif


    thank you for saying that. it is ridiculous. I could see if you were in West Virginia ...


    it might be to you Jrs1 but it isnt' to me and to many of the guys that are still down low. you totally have to take into consideration the may circumstances that cause many of the guys to still keep it down low. I guess its even more ridiculous to say its ridiculous before getting to know a bit more about someone ;)