Real Ages on Real Jock

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    Jan 28, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    I've got one friend, who shall remain nameless, whose real age is 57 yet his profile states that he is 47. He's attractive and might even convince a few guys that he is ten years younger.

    But is it really necessary? Do other guys here feel the need to lower their profile age?

    I ask because I've looked at a number of guys who are great-looking and to me look 50+, but they state that they are in their 40s. If it was one or two guys, I wouldn't ask.

    I'd be interested in hearing from guys in their 50s who don't lie about their age but might have an insight.
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:51 PM GMT
    It's not always to get young tail and it's not all about ageism. Many do so out of a misguided attempt at discretion - the same reason you post private photos only.
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    Jan 28, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    LikeableGuy saidI'd be interested in hearing from guys in their 50s who don't lie about their age but might have an insight.

    First, I never cheat about my age. On the contrary, for over 10 years now I've called myself by my next birthday, at New Year's, January 1st. It's easier for me to calculate from 1949 without the months, plus it's the same as Queen Elizabeth II does, who has both an official birthday, and an actual birthday.

    I figure that what's good enough for the Queen of England, is good enough for the Queen of Wilton Manors. LMAO!

    When you get to my age, hun, what's a few months?

    Yet I had a BF who still tries to this day to pretend he's 10 years younger or more, now in his late 50s. And it doesn't work.

    The first night I went to bed with him, after a bar pick-up, he told me he was 42. I was 55, making him way out of my usual "price range" and meaning I saw no long-term future in him.

    The next morning in bed he reluctantly confessed he was really 52. And when I cried and cried in my pillow he thought I was angry and disappointed with him. No, I told him, I was crying for joy.

    I WANTED him to be close to my own age, what I wished when I had gone to bed with this lovely man, because 13 years difference is too much for me. And when I woke up, my dream had come true, a miracle.

    Foolish man, he never believed me, and always insisted I pretend he was early 40s with everyone. And to this day he doesn't realize how much I loved him, for who he really is, and he's still chasing guys that he tells he's just 40-something, who know better and mock him behind his back. So stupid, and such a waste... icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 28, 2010 6:46 PM GMT
    We're in our 50s...but we're not single. That could make a difference, eh?



    Perhaps he found that cranking down his stated age suddenly got him more responses?


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    Jan 28, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    OK OK!!! GEEZ... I'm actually 23. Happy now?

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    Jan 28, 2010 6:59 PM GMT
    LikeableGuy saidI've got one friend, who shall remain nameless, whose real age is 57 yet his profile states that he is 47. He's attractive and might even convince a few guys that he is ten years younger.

    But is it really necessary? Do other guys here feel the need to lower their profile age?

    I ask because I've looked at a number of guys who are great-looking and to me look 50+, but they state that they are in their 40s. If it was one or two guys, I wouldn't ask.

    I'd be interested in hearing from guys in their 50s who don't lie about their age but might have an insight.


    Im really 17 guys
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    NOT!
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    As of this writing, I'm 52.

    I'd rather have people think I look 'ok' for 52.

    It's better than saying that I'm 42 and have people think:
    "Man, he must have had a bad life! Mr. Gravity has not been kind to him."
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    LikeableGuy saidI've got one friend, who shall remain nameless, whose real age is 57 yet his profile states that he is 47. He's attractive and might even convince a few guys that he is ten years younger.

    But is it really necessary? Do other guys here feel the need to lower their profile age?

    I ask because I've looked at a number of guys who are great-looking and to me look 50+, but they state that they are in their 40s. If it was one or two guys, I wouldn't ask.

    I'd be interested in hearing from guys in their 50s who don't lie about their age but might have an insight.


    There's never an excuse for being a dishonest dirt bag.

    Next item.

    I always act preemptively, against the folks that clearly lie about their age, the picture-less, the profile-less, and so on. I block them ahead of time. I have no wish to associate with those sorts of people.
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    bgcat57 saidAs of this writing, I'm 52.

    You look great for 52. But I gotta tell ya, almost everybody has gotten a 10-year bonus on appearance & longevity in the last few decades.

    You hear about "30 is the new 20" and "40 is the new 30" etc. Makes sense, since fewer of us are smoking, more of us are concerned about healthy exercise and eating, and medical care is getting better. My late father, born in 1911, couldn't imagine going to a gym at my age (61) or riding a bicycle at all, much less 165 miles down to Key West over 2 days.

    It's a new world, and we reap the benefits. icon_biggrin.gif
  • drypin

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    Jan 28, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    “We are so vain that we even care for the opinion of those we don't care for.”
    - Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach
  • drypin

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    Jan 28, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    Please gods let me look like Tony when I reach that magical age.
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    53 as of December .
    we're all vain and narcissistic to various degrees.
    but it's obvious i' d end up tripping over my own lies would i ever be tempted to use some, therefore let's keep things simple.


    some men probably lie here because they're desperate to make an impression.
    bah, they hurt no one but themselves
    and i don't know if they realize it.







  • Stephan

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    Jan 28, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    Well, I am happy at 42yrs of age, and don't lie about it either.
    Why some men do, maybe like women, don't like to tell or talk about their true age.
  • over40nfit

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    Jan 28, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    I'm 58 and proud of it.
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:40 PM GMT
    I will soon celebrate the 27th Anniversary of my 26th Birthday.icon_lol.gificon_cool.gif
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    Jan 28, 2010 7:53 PM GMT
    I'm actually 58 years old
  • drypin

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    Jan 28, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidI'm actually 58 years old


    What? You're dropping 20 years now? icon_wink.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jan 28, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
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    Patsy, I'm 72!
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    Jan 28, 2010 8:13 PM GMT


    <--- 147 in gay years
  • DuggerPDX

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    Jan 28, 2010 8:15 PM GMT
    I feel 30, that's all that counts, right?!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 28, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    The age question seems to come up frequently. I always say, "who cares"... its amazing how many seem to or say they favor men from a certain age to a certain age, they probably would be elimated from my list.

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  • Ironman4U

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    Jan 28, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    I'm 52 and proud. Honesty is the best policy in my book.

    But that being said, I think lots of guys do it because of ageism in the gay community. It's real for sure. I can show a guy a pic of me (without the age attached and they'll say "man you're hot" and then with the age and it's "I don't like guys over 40."

    You can just look at all the profiles on here that give an age range of guys they're interested in. There's usually a cut-off in the 30's or 40's. It's sad but true. And so guys who are less secure with their age will simply lie to make the cut-off.

    But I figure if someone doesn't want to be with me because of my age, I sure as hell don't want to be with them.

    Guys who lie on here do us all a disservice. I see guys on here that are clearly in their 50's trying to pass for 40's. Either that or they've been rode hard and put up wet a few too many times.

    Have some integrity guys and be happy with who you are and own your age!
  • Muscmasmat

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    Jan 28, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    57 here. I personally don't feel the need to lie.

    I think the reason some men lie is that if you are over 50, many guys will not even give you a chance by looking at your profile. You are just discounted out of hand.

    If it is just sex you are looking for and the men are attracted to each other, what does age matter? Unfortunately, when you are on sites like RJ, you are asked to provide your age. Whereas in person, you can quickly assess attractiveness, and age probably does not come up.

    In the end, it does not work to lie about your age. If you lie and then meet someone in person who interests you for more than a quick trick, you will be starting out your relationship with a lie; and they will eventually find out.

    It's just better to accept your age and deal with the consequences.

    And frankly, I can understand that a younger man might not want to mess around (physically or in a relationship) with an older guy. There are differences physically and also culturally that are difficult to deal with.

    However, there are younger men that are attracted to older men, and I think this is great for them. But it is not for everyone. And I do know of a couple with one in their 50's and the other in his 20's that seem to be working fine....for now at least.
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    Jan 28, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    this thread is pointless unless we start naming names...
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    Jan 28, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Ironman4U said[/cite...I see guys on here that are clearly in their 50's trying to pass for 40's. Either that or they've been rode hard and put up wet a few too many times.

    Have some integrity guys and be happy with who you are and own your age![/quote]
    LMAO!!! Bravo, and let's have some honesty. I don't like being old myself, but that's what I am, and no getting around it. In fact, I HATE being old. Well, too bad, nothing I can do about it.

    Lie? Pretend? Put up pics that aren't me, or me from 20 years ago? Yeah, right. Then you finally meet me, and see the awful truth.

    I will say though, that of all the RJ guys I've met in person, no one has ever faked their pic. And I hope they can say the same about me. That kind of deception is so stupid. yes?