Do you consider sex "sacred?"

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    Jan 29, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    I find the approach of many gay men to sex/relationships to be a bit crude and insensitive. Is sex something special to you? If not, when did it lose its wonderment for you (assuming, perhaps ambitiously, that it had any to begin with)?
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    Jan 29, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    I think it can be when your heart is into the other person. But I think sometimes it is purely carnal .. that is for quick pleasure. I would rather it be the former .. I prefer to feel something .. love .. connection .. with the person I am with - it seems to last longer that way too.
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    Jan 29, 2010 6:36 AM GMT
    I, personally - and I know some will disagree with this - can't enjoy sex with someone I don't actually like/love (beyond physical attraction). I am actually driven away and turned off by people who just want to hook up, it just doesn't make sense to me *shrugs* icon_rolleyes.gif

    So yes, I definitely consider sex sacred, to express your love for someone in such an intimate way....
  • CarbGoggles

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    Jan 29, 2010 6:38 AM GMT
    Yes it is a sacred bond LMFAO!!!
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 29, 2010 7:21 AM GMT
    Not really. For me sex in just having fun, something pleasureable and a biological need. I have sex with all kind of strangers, male prostituticon_question.gife and one night stand. It dont mean nothing to both of us.

    Probably those sex, that I do with my bf's, have some emotional attachment to it. The rest it just like shaking hand , nice to know you.
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    Jan 29, 2010 7:24 AM GMT
    essentialife saidI find the approach of many gay men to sex/relationships to be a bit crude and insensitive. Is sex something special to you? If not, when did it lose its wonderment for you (assuming, perhaps ambitiously, that it had any to begin with)?



    To me it is. It is very "sacred". I only leave it reserved for when there is a relationship, like my boyfriend. If someone really values me as a person and respects me, they will respect my point of view of sex being an act of my dedication and appreciation for our feelings.

    If not.. they can post their peen ads on craigslist haha
  • Little_Spoon

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    Jan 29, 2010 7:24 AM GMT
    Sometimes I like to talk like it isn't...but that's just the immature part of me I guess...

    I honestly think it's one of the most special things two people can do together.
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    Jan 29, 2010 8:00 AM GMT
    costaki saidI, personally - and I know some will disagree with this - can't enjoy sex with someone I don't actually like/love (beyond physical attraction). I am actually driven away and turned off by people who just want to hook up, it just doesn't make sense to me *shrugs* icon_rolleyes.gif

    So yes, I definitely consider sex sacred, to express your love for someone in such an intimate way....


    Wow! I thought I was the only one that felt this way. I think im in love, lol! Seriously, I get horny just like any guy but when im in a relationship; instead of the passion decreasing over time it increases for me. The more I fall in love with someone the more I crave them in every way! To me sex is something that should be saved for the one you love and care for. What better gift to give someone you love other than your own physical body and with that comes the emotions and intimacy.

    It is extremely sacred to me and as I get older it becomes even more so.
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    Jan 29, 2010 8:28 AM GMT
    sex sacred? 'course it is
    now come get ur holy protein milkshake
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    Jan 29, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    yes sex is special to me
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    Jan 29, 2010 9:19 AM GMT
    joshnyc saidsex sacred? 'course it is
    now come get ur holy protein milkshake


    Hold on babes, you gotta chew your blue "bubble gum" before.
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    Jan 29, 2010 9:27 AM GMT
    Cows are sacred too right?

    Like anything to much of a good thing can be made really bad.

    I say make each day special and really live in the now.....

    Tomorrow, you might not have that sacred cock to play with!!

    Enjoy,,,,,,

    J O Y...Remember that sacred word!!
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Jan 29, 2010 9:39 AM GMT
    Sex can be casual and fun, serious and intimate, or casual and intimate.

    Sacred, however, is not a word I would choose to describe sex.


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    Jan 29, 2010 9:41 AM GMT
    Depends on who Im having it with and why. If I really like the guy then yes, I want the sex to be something special. If Im just horny and want to cop a root, then no, it's just fulfilling an urge.
  • myklet1

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    Jan 29, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    I suppose some would consider me a whore in my past. Sex was sex and it was good. I did not want feelings and love and all that bullshit. I had been hurt so many times and thought why bother having feelings for someone, it's better to have sex and if I see you again than I do.......whatever. Then it got real lonely. Finally thought shit, I might as well just get myself off. Guess I would be looked at like a freak now, but what ever happened to faithful, loyalty, and love? Seems like it all passes with time. I wonder if it really ever existed. Now I poor my heart into my work. Hopefully improving the life of someone living with real problems. I'd rather be alone than hurt. What's that line.........better to be loved and lose, than never have loved at all. Bullshit! I would rather never be loved then. Life is painful enough - I don't need extra hurt.
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    Jan 29, 2010 7:12 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidNot really. For me sex in just having fun, something pleasureable and a biological need. I have sex with all kind of strangers, male prostituticon_question.gife and one night stand. It dont mean nothing to both of us.

    Probably those sex, that I do with my bf's, have some emotional attachment to it. The rest it just like shaking hand , nice to know you.


    Then why bother having BF'S. What is SOME kind of emotional attachment? Either you feel something or you don't.
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    Jan 29, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    Yea... Manhunt, Vatican... what's the difference?

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    Jan 29, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    essentialife saidI find the approach of many gay men to sex/relationships to be a bit crude and insensitive. Is sex something special to you? If not, when did it lose its wonderment for you (assuming, perhaps ambitiously, that it had any to begin with)?
    In a relationship its all about makin love for me.
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    Jan 29, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidYea... Manhunt, Vatican... what's the difference?

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    More closet cases in the Vatican.
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    Jan 29, 2010 7:21 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Jan 29, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    Sacred? No....
    Special and always "meaning something?" That's closer to how I feel about sex.
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    Jan 30, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    no, sex is not sacred.
    It depends on whom I am having sex with. Some guys are really precious, and some aren't.
    Sex is a healthy part of any relationship so if one isn't sexually compatible with his partner, I don't see how that relationship can survive and grow.
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    Jan 30, 2010 5:34 AM GMT
    . . . air quotes are sacred; sex is incidental . . .
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    Jan 30, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    Yeah, I don't know if sacred is the word I would use if it is in a religious sense. But I do like for it to be meaningful like I described earlier.
  • drypin

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    Jan 31, 2010 6:59 PM GMT
    Sacred is going a step too far for me, but I will say that intercourse with a man is more than simple physical pleasure for me. It is connecting with someone very intimately, lowering my guard and allowing someone to see and experience me in a way that isn't polished or censored for the general public.