Help. I need help making friends in a new area

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    Jan 29, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    icon_cry.gifI just moved to Richmond and I go to VCU. Classes started about two weeks ago and so far I have not made any real friendships or anything. I know it doesn't happen fast...but I am so lonely I get seriously depressed it's not fun.

    I was wondering what are maybe some things I can try to "make" this happen easier for me. What usually ends up happening is almost always this. I am quite sociable when approached in public, and at times go out of my way to make conversation with what I think would be great friend material. The problem is, I'm not sure how to go about making the jump from just "chatting" to something like "hey...would ya like to hang out for awhile" or something beyond just chatting with them. Maybe just getting to know them a bit more so it won't just be another person I talk to for awhile and then they leave. I am always afraid of rejection or they will think I am a weirdo or something or desperate. Like I said I usually have no problem talking to people. But they don't know I am alone because I don't want to sound loserish etc and the other problem is I usually only see the same people for like maybe an hour a day then they are off to a different class. Hard to establish rapport. Im not a bad looking dude just kind of insecure.

    HELP!!! icon_sad.gif
  • inuman

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    Jan 29, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    Aww hugs mate icon_cool.gif

    best thing is say "hey anyone wanna just hang out sometime, maybe go see a movie or something after calsses?" most likely to one of your class mates not to some random person you are walking by, unless you know they are gay and into as well icon_wink.gif

    Looking online for social gay groups might help if they still have those, oh try a search on here for guys in your area.

    But yeah just throw the question at your class mates, its not that hard once you get the words out and are honest about it.

    Hope that helps a little matey icon_cool.gif
  • AtxBobOmb

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    Jan 29, 2010 5:29 PM GMT
    That is a tough one. I think it gets a little harder as we get a little older. I'm running into the same problem actually. I'm socialbe but I have some social anxiety about putting myself out there.

    Try a club...I just started with the local gay soccer club, and decided to just put myself out there, and right after the first practice people were super friendly.

    I would say if it's school related, maybe try to get a study group together, or if you have a class before lunch or dinner, that's a good time to strike up conversation. Everyone eats, and few people like to eat alone.

    Good luck. Have fun.