I used to be really fat, and I thought no guy would like me beacuae of it. SO I lossed a lot of wieght, and got in shape. When I did that, I was expecting a lot of boys to fall for me. Unfortunately that was not the case.Right now, I'm finding out that it is more of how you put yourself out there. I've seen plenty of ugly guys, not fat, who have tons of partners, and a lot of heftier fellas with long lasting reltionships. TO quote my es room mate" hel I'm not all that great looking, but I have a lot of confidence in myself, and I put myself out there." So, instead of your friend just letting you do things for him, tell him to get out there. Don't be affriad. He needs to get sopme balls, because that is one of the best traits gay men love...LOL!