"I forgot you were gay"

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    Jan 30, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    I was thinking about this and didn't see it on any thread...so I thought I would ask.

    Chris Matthews comment about Obama during his speech the other night (I won't repeat it here because it was such a stupid remark), got me thinking.

    Gay are constantly stereotyped..has anyone ever been told. "For a minute there..I forgot you were gay."
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    Jan 30, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    Maybe because being gay is not the end-all, be-all, all-consuming part of my life like some on here seem.....



    no one has ever said that to me or about me.
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    Jan 30, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said Maybe because being gay is not the end-all, be-all, all-consuming part of my life like some on here seem.....



    no one has ever said that to me or about me.
    That.
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    Jan 30, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    baltdcguy said...Gay are constantly stereotyped..has anyone ever been told. "For a minute there..I forgot you were gay."

    Never those words. Now people HAVE expressed surprise when they learned I was gay, assuming I was straight because I hadn't acted stereotypically faggy, and more surprised if they knew some of my background, like the military and motorcycling. Many Americans still think all (or most) gays act like Jack from Will & Grace, and are amazed when we don't.
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    Jan 30, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said Maybe because being gay is not the end-all, be-all, all-consuming part of my life like some on here seem.....



    no one has ever said that to me or about me.


    Perhaps it's because you've never given anyone reason to forget you're gay.
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    Jan 30, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    Yea my mom says it to me all the time after she asks me about girls she thinks i like lol
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    Jan 30, 2010 6:34 PM GMT
    Yeah, I've heard this a couple of times out of humor among friends. It is a little odd when I stop to think about it, but then it is human nature to poke fun at a variety of differences. If it were said in contempt, spite, ignorance, etc., well.. it might irritate me a bit.
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    Jan 30, 2010 6:41 PM GMT
    Actually, I flip it around on my friends and make the quick comment..." Oh, I forgot, you're straight!.....sorry!" and then laugh at them....
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    Jan 30, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    working on my remodeling project last weekend a buddy says "Damn. You're so butch I keep forgetting you're a gay man....and not a lesbian."
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    Jan 30, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    "Dude - you're gay? WTF? Chicks dig you man! How fucked up is that? Why would YOU of all people want to be gay?"

    I've heard this a few times from a couple of H20-polo teammates. From others I've heard things like, "What's it like?" or "I could be bi - I think about it - a lot."

    BTW, I inform the unenlightened that our sexuality is not a choice.......but socio-biologically speaking - my genes demand men!

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    Jan 30, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 said"Dude - you're gay? WTF? Chicks dig you man! How fucked up is that? Why would YOU of all people want to be gay?"

    I've heard this a few times from a couple of H20-polo teammates. From others I've heard things like, "What's it like?" or "I could be bi - I think about it - a lot."



    The ones that ask..."What's it like?" or "I could be bi - I think about it - a lot."...you need to reach over and grab them and plant a big sloppy kiss on them and then see how they react and finish the conversation based on their reaction......and chuckle your ass off the entire time...icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 30, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    ChilaxinJOCK09> Yea my mom says it to me all the time after she asks me about girls she thinks i like lol

    I fear that my be categorized under "denial".
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    Jan 30, 2010 8:50 PM GMT
    I've never gotten "I forgot you were gay" but I was sitting in meal hall talking about girls and he remarked "you know you're a pretty straight gay guy" hahahah I laughed pretty hard. I've had to explain to him that there is a difference between being gay and being a fag
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    Jan 30, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    "I forgot you were straight"
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    baltdcguy said..has anyone ever been told. "For a minute there..I forgot you were gay."


    ALWAYS!!!
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:09 PM GMT
    Happens to me a work quite a bit. One of the many straight guys I work with will comment on some girl's ass or tits and look to me for approval or agreement. Then you can see it smack him right in the face as he realizes I'm checking out her boyfriend's ass, not hers.
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    menander saidI've never gotten "I forgot you were gay" but I was sitting in meal hall talking about girls and he remarked "you know you're a pretty straight gay guy" hahahah I laughed pretty hard. I've had to explain to him that there is a difference between being gay and being a fag



    too bad we stratify ourselves when what we often need most is unity.


    how will we ever achieve advancement when we call each other fags or drink the haterade if a guy enjoys being feminine or develops into adulthood with non-male specific mannerisms?

    i think we should let one another be.
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    Sometimes, it seems to freak guys out that i find some females sexually attractive..[Not many though]...
    I was backstage at a fashion show when a model [were all familiar with] looked at me then whispered into her makeup man's ear, afterwards, he told me that she was interested and he informed her that i was gay.... Funny thing was,,i would have screwed her lights out....icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said Maybe because being gay is not the end-all, be-all, all-consuming part of my life like some on here seem.....



    no one has ever said that to me or about me.


    I forgot you were a fuckwit.
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    Maybe because being gay is not the end-all, be-all, all-consuming part of my life like some on here seem.....

    I think it hard for it to not be that way honestly. Most people I know are consumed by their heterosexuality, talking about their relationships, their, husbands or wives, dates, socialization, talk of sex or who they are attracted to (guys about girls usually), even the clothes they wear to make sure boys wear what boys wear and girls wear what girls wear, etc. Oh and music is almost always about heterosexual sex, love, or relationships. I see heterosexuality all the time in commercials, movies, news, poetry, etc..

    Sexual orientation is obviously a major component of life, but if you are gay it is expected that you keep it in the background or quite. So I can see why a lot of gay guys might think sexual orientation is only a part of who they are when it has not been given the same kind of freedom to be as it has been for heterosexuals.

    Just the fact of this major rights war going on in regard to sexual orientation (gay) should show how much a part of of our lives sexual orientation really is.

    People develop mental health problems or commit suicide over their sexual orientation and how they get treated for it or how they treat themselves over it - it's everything because it's again a fundamental aspect of being human, gay or straight.
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    Jan 30, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    XCRunner336 said
    menander saidI've never gotten "I forgot you were gay" but I was sitting in meal hall talking about girls and he remarked "you know you're a pretty straight gay guy" hahahah I laughed pretty hard. I've had to explain to him that there is a difference between being gay and being a fag



    too bad we stratify ourselves when what we often need most is unity.


    how will we ever achieve advancement when we call each other fags or drink the haterade if a guy enjoys being feminine or develops into adulthood with non-male specific mannerisms?

    i think we should let one another be.


    I agree with you runner and its another symptom of the patriarchal society we were brought up in.
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    Jan 30, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    Nobody has ever said that to me.

    I have never hid the fact that I am gay. I never denied the fact of my ex for the 11 years I was with him. I always used “he, him, his, ours” when I discussed relationships with friends.

    But then, I’m one of those guys that fit the gay stereotype.
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    Jan 30, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
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    StudlyScrewRite said Maybe because being gay is not the end-all, be-all, all-consuming part of my life like some on here seem.....



    no one has ever said that to me or about me.


    I forgot you were a fuckwit.


    Me loves me some TigerTim.
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    Jan 30, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Jon Stewart had a brilliant take on this "I forgot you were X" thing:

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    Jan 30, 2010 10:43 PM GMT
    i was told that just the other night my one of my fraternity brothers....