Do the gay help get too familiar when they find out you’re gay?

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    Jan 31, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    I'm wondering whether anyone else has had gay owners of small businesses with largely straight clientele be less professional when they know you're gay. Like landscapers expecting you to be supportive of skipped service calls because they're planning their lesbian weddings, stylists being no shows to appointments having left for gay cruises with no warning and assuming you'll understand, shop owners deploying attitude they'd never hurl at straights while reneging on warranties and so forth.

    Honestly, I've never had these problems with their straight counterparts. What's up with that?


  • Hunter9

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    Feb 01, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    huh?
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    Feb 01, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    Hunter9 saidhuh?


    Ditto.
  • bmw0

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    Feb 01, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Yes! I've had to fire gay owned companies before because they figured i would let shoddy work or lack of responsibility slide because we were gay owned and operated as well. I lost some friends because i gave them the work because they were gay, and they thought i owed them something for it or something. Sexuality don't matter, ill fire you if you slack off. .. period. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 01, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    I don't think it's a "gay thing" as much as a "small business thing" born from familiarity: "the 'real' clients come first, you - my friend - can wait a bit". I suppose if there's a reduction in rate that may be in order, but what you describe (going on vacation rather than honoring an appointment) is simply unprofessional.
  • AirForceGuy75

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    Feb 01, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    I know gay bar owners in fairbanks alaska that rather have a straight bar then a gay bar. But on the most part I've never had an issue with anyone one who is gay that does business for me from working on cars, renting a place or even getting my hair done to going out to eat at particular venues.
  • Celticmusl

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    Feb 01, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    I understand completely. Usually it is not the owners but the hired help, and their attitude is "that bitch can wait for it".
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    Feb 01, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    To the OP:

    I could see where some folks might let their guard down and be less professional....that said, however, I find that I believe that I get better service than the average customer from gay employees of mainstream companies with whom I do business and from staff from gay-owned businesses in large part b/c I'm out and involved as an out gay person in my community. So, for the most part, my experience has been the oppposite, but with the occasional slacker like you just described.
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    Feb 01, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    If a waiter, maitre d' or restaurant owner - or anyone else I can think of in the places I patronize - knows I am gay, I seem to get better service than I do from the straight places. I was a dinner waiter once in college, so you know I believe in tipping generously for a job well done.

    Sorry you've had the opposite experience. I've never had to give out a "Can I talk with you for a minute?" speech to a "family" member.
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    Feb 01, 2010 5:31 AM GMT
    Nah, incompetance is not exclusive. When you encounter it, vote with your feet.
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    Feb 01, 2010 5:33 AM GMT
    turbobilly saidNah, incompetance is not exclusive. When you encounter it, vote with your feet.


    Sounds kinky TB
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    Feb 01, 2010 9:50 AM GMT
    I'm a total fucking flake whether you're gay or straight.
  • josephmovie

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    Feb 01, 2010 10:27 AM GMT
    I don't think it's a gay thing. I've always found that the more easygoing you are the more likely they are to drop the standards of service and work. I've had this happen so many times that whenever I hire someone now I always remain aloof. And if they start to piss around, I start to question their rate of pay.

    Always remember, money talks!
  • DrewbieDoo

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    Feb 01, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    I'd like towork for a gay-owned business... I just applied to a fine dining restaurant (gay-owned), and they were so happy I applied because they have no gay wait staff... they also had no openings though...
    Too little too late on my part, but I made a good impression