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    Feb 01, 2010 8:38 AM GMT
    Hey guys so I'm an african american male and I seem to be virtually only attracted to WHITE GUYS, though I get flack for it from all my black friends I tell them I can't help it its what I like.

    So my question is Is there a ethnicity that your attracted to more than your ethnicity?
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    Feb 01, 2010 8:51 AM GMT
    My primary attraction is to Black people. I also like Asians and Pacific Islanders such as Samoans, Polynesians, Hawaiians, etc. Also American Indians.

    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone who may be of a different ethnicity than you. Viva La Difference!

    I'm lucky that my BF likes Klingons!
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    Feb 01, 2010 8:53 AM GMT
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  • jrs1

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    Feb 01, 2010 9:19 AM GMT

    I used to think that it was primarily caucasian males that did it for me ... but since reflecting with my friends and being on this site for a few months ... that that was a mistaken notion. true attraction comes from separating the idea of someone and who they actually are. but physical attraction tends to circle around what kind of physical features you would not mind seeing as your own or ones that you would not mind physically engaging. so ... what I have said reigns in that attraction and race can be correlated to socio-political ideology of thought ... but attraction in its simplest form is just seeing a fellow and your intuition telling you that his presence, and of what the both of you are capable, pleases you. so I'm not so sure if race has much more to do with it than lingering thoughts hanging in the cobwebs of your mind. then again, it could be just my own thinking.
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    Feb 01, 2010 9:25 AM GMT
    Nspyerf8 saidHey guys so I'm an african american male and I seem to be virtually only attracted to WHITE GUYS, though I get flack for it from all my black friends I tell them I can't help it its what I like.

    So my question is Is there a ethnicity that your attracted to more than your ethnicity?


    ............hi...
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    Feb 01, 2010 9:45 AM GMT
    I don't know If I'm the only one here,but everytime there is a thread about race. It takes me years to think of something to say.
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    Feb 01, 2010 12:10 PM GMT
    jrs1 said
    I used to think that it was primarily caucasian males that did it for me ... but since reflecting with my friends and being on this site for a few months ... that that was a mistaken notion. .



    I do agree with you....this site has a lot of Great Black guys and my opinion has really changed thinking that only white guys could do it for me. I am primarily attracted to White guys not because I found them more attractive but because they are easier to approach, to hook up with and to communicate. Even if some of them are discreet, they are more open when it comes to being gay…socially carefree. When it comes to black guys, despite being black myself I find it hard to approach them. Maybe because I lack swagger, hood or something but they are not my primary attraction due to Miscommunication not Misattraction.

    But Really White Guys are so Easy in Everyway, who would not want them as their Primarily attraction hahaha icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif or maybe I’m just the easy One, lol icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 01, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    Hmmm....I'm guessing if all white people were obese they wouldn't be so attractive. Simply put, what people are attracted to they have no control over. If it was that easy, many of us would be with women and have kids by now.

    My personal feeling is that the more we intermingle, the more that racial divides evaporate.

    My ancestors all hail from a country where the races freely mix. The slogan of that country? "out of many, one people"

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    Feb 01, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    I like white people only...I've spent years getting the colors in my bedroom in feng shui and having a black dude in there just clashes and throws everything off.

    Plus all this race drama just don't need it...I don't want my bf constantly goin OMG! the Starbucks girl gave you an extra pump, that's because your WHITE!, Or the check-in dude took your bag first did you notice? and you know why right, because your WHITE! You know why that new york times folds up nice and neat for you white boy! if you were me it would be all over the placeicon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 01, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    I'm attracted to men. Some are black, brown, white and shades in between. In the past I would get static from "brothers" that had concerns with whom I date or try to date. I ignore their attitude. icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 01, 2010 5:25 PM GMT
    Getting more interested in fellow Filipinos nowadays actually, or at least Latinos and South Asians. And that's more about behavior and compatibility rather than the color of the skin. I'd connect more with someone who comes from a background not much different from mine.

    And thinking about it, that probably was always the case for me, despite going through a phase where I thought that the bronzed and larger-than-life hollywood white people represented all caucasians. All the guys I've found really attractive in real life have features which can't be found or are rare among other races. 'Sides, I don't want to be with someone who thinks I'm lucky just to date him because of his race, nor be constantly reminded of the perception that I am of an inferior race (and worse, be mistaken for a boytoy).

    That said, in physical terms, the stocky body type and facial hair does it for me first, not the color of the skin. Also a good-looking guy is a good-looking guy and that's that.
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    Feb 01, 2010 5:26 PM GMT
    Fable said
    Nspyerf8 saidHey guys so I'm an african american male and I seem to be virtually only attracted to WHITE GUYS, though I get flack for it from all my black friends I tell them I can't help it its what I like.

    So my question is Is there a ethnicity that your attracted to more than your ethnicity?


    ............hi...



    Lol see I am totally and completely 100% attracted to you well.... maybe 95% because I cant see your face but nonetheless your hott

    and i was mainly just curious in this forum not trying to be racist nor call anyone racist in anyway I just think there's someone for everyone but not necessarily everybody is for someone
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    Feb 01, 2010 10:42 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidI like white people only...I've spent years getting the colors in my bedroom in feng shui and having a black dude in there just clashes and throws everything off.

    Plus all this race drama just don't need it...I don't want my bf constantly goin OMG! the Starbucks girl gave you an extra pump, that's because your WHITE!, Or the check-in dude took your bag first did you notice? and you know why right, because your WHITE! You know why that new york times folds up nice and neat for you white boy! if you were me it would be all over the placeicon_twisted.gif



    You should Date me then...Most Drama Free dude here,lol hahha icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 01, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    The reality is:

    White people, in general, based off of entertainment, have become the ideal appeal.

    It has nothing to do with how one acts. Some white people act just as crazy as black people, in their own special way.

    It has something to do with features.

    Small noses, small lips, and square face are the ideal "image of perfection" for male. Based on our culture and entertainment, that is true.

    What makes me laugh is these women who promote "Black is beautiful" like Tyra Banks, Oprah, etc.

    Then they go out and buy the straight / wavy wigs, and bleach their skin. Not promoting "Black is beautiful" that's for sure.

    As of right now, white people are what we are "supposed" to like or want to look like. It's unfortunate, but true, especially in the gay community, many black guys only want to date white guys. Sad, but true. I mean okay that you don't want to date other black guys, but there are some SEXY hispanics, middle easterners and asians out there too... but then again, I believe, if anything, the average person is closed minded to such things.

    but there are those who are individuals and like all sorts of people.

    for me... I have a habit of only dating people with ACCENTS. I think it's one of the sexiest things in the world! haha
  • lovemymen

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    Feb 01, 2010 11:02 PM GMT
    I like all races I don't care what race you are if you're Hot you're Hot!
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    Feb 02, 2010 12:49 AM GMT
    My preference has always been blk guys, but I'm definitely open to all races. But when I was a young lad there was nothing finer than Bo and Luke Duke!
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    Feb 02, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
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    Fable said
    Nspyerf8 saidHey guys so I'm an african american male and I seem to be virtually only attracted to WHITE GUYS, though I get flack for it from all my black friends I tell them I can't help it its what I like.

    So my question is Is there a ethnicity that your attracted to more than your ethnicity?


    ............hi...



    Lol see I am totally and completely 100% attracted to you well.... maybe 95% because I cant see your face but nonetheless your hott


    woop woop!

    and now you can see my face icon_biggrin.gif

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    Feb 02, 2010 6:16 AM GMT
    Haha I totally was not trying to meet hott guys through this forum but hey

    Lol...
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    Feb 02, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    PusiKuracBre saidThe reality is:

    White people, in general, based off of entertainment, have become the ideal appeal.

    It has nothing to do with how one acts. Some white people act just as crazy as black people, in their own special way.

    It has something to do with features.

    Small noses, small lips, and square face are the ideal "image of perfection" for male. Based on our culture and entertainment, that is true.

    What makes me laugh is these women who promote "Black is beautiful" like Tyra Banks, Oprah, etc.

    Then they go out and buy the straight / wavy wigs, and bleach their skin. Not promoting "Black is beautiful" that's for sure.

    As of right now, white people are what we are "supposed" to like or want to look like. It's unfortunate, but true, especially in the gay community, many black guys only want to date white guys. Sad, but true. I mean okay that you don't want to date other black guys, but there are some SEXY hispanics, middle easterners and asians out there too... but then again, I believe, if anything, the average person is closed minded to such things.

    but there are those who are individuals and like all sorts of people.

    for me... I have a habit of only dating people with ACCENTS. I think it's one of the sexiest things in the world! haha



    I really agree with a lot of what you said especially that image of perfection to me it has more to do than just physical though

    and thats what I cannot figure out
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    Feb 02, 2010 6:26 AM GMT
    I have pondered this greatly and ultimately the question comes down too

    Why are people of a different or same (as in this case) good enough to friend but not good enough to date???

    I don't believe it comes down to a simple choice
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    Feb 02, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    The problem with saying IM ONLY ATTRACTED TO [PLACE RACE HERE] is that you start forming a certain barrier and stereotype of the other races you dont seem attracted to. Maybe not consciously but you tend to find defects faster on those races than the ones youre attracted to the most.

    generally everyone has the right to do what they please ONLY IF the other person's well being is not threatened by your choices

    thats how i see it

    Im attracted to many type of guys and I won't say no to one because of their race, it ends up being racist. I don't discriminate I would much rather focus on finding the person's best attributes and features rather than finding what the other race has that he doesn't. you get me?
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    Feb 02, 2010 7:12 AM GMT
    ItsJhonnyBam saidThe problem with saying IM ONLY ATTRACTED TO [PLACE RACE HERE] is that you start forming a certain barrier and stereotype of the other races you dont seem attracted to. Maybe not consciously but you tend to find defects faster on those races than the ones youre attracted to the most.

    generally everyone has the right to do what they please ONLY IF the other person's well being is not threatened by your choices

    thats how i see it

    Im attracted to many type of guys and I won't say no to one because of their race, it ends up being racist. I don't discriminate I would much rather focus on finding the person's best attributes and features rather than finding what the other race has that he doesn't. you get me?



    Yea I get ya but its not that I only approach white guys, hell i'm too afraid to talk to any guy and if any guy approached me I would give them the same fair chance
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    Feb 02, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    Why are you only attracted to White guys?

    Have you ever dated or even been attracted to the Blacks?

    What do you have against the Blacks?

    I am open to date whom I choose be it a White, Black, Latino, etc... as long as he respects me as a man, a person of color and that he is a respectable person himself.

    I do however, disagree with a person of color only dating the Whites simply because he/she thinks negatively against that person of color(Blacks are all gang members, Mexicans are all illegal, Koreans own all of the Liquor Stores and Hair Products, etc...) Don't knock him til ya try him. Just make sure you are honest with yourself.

    I prefer the Blacks because we all as Blacks(men&women)share a spiritual bond, a common thread based on our History as a people. I'm not saying you can't have a bond with the Whites, it's just different, that's all.icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 02, 2010 8:12 AM GMT
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    Feb 02, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    Well now, there's this: Many of you are here because you have a distinct preference for the body beautiful. This is a 'type' like another.

    Is it prejudice? Nope. It's preference which you have little or no control over.

    Consider for a moment chubby-chasers. Are they wrong? Nope, not to us. Same with guys that are completely into cross-dressers.

    If you attempt going after guys that are not what your penis stands up for you run a huge risk of hurting them very badly.

    We think that by stating your preference you save a lot of heartache for a lot of people. The trick here is HOW you state your preference, there are offensive ways to say it, and kind ways.

    Pick one.

    -Doug of meninlove