Do you have a workout partner?

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    Jan 13, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    I recently got a workout partner but I'm not sold on the idea. I'm finding my workouts are not as intense since I'm working in with someone and we are at different levels and size. But I do like the motivation it provides, I'm just wondering if he's the right partner. I found him on craigslist but are there any other workout sites to find partners?
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    Jan 13, 2008 4:54 PM GMT
    <------interested in finding one, too.
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    Jan 13, 2008 5:21 PM GMT
    Had one in another city a few years ago. Would really like to get one again. Any volunteers?
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    Jan 13, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    I never found a partner to be very effective for me. They can be helpful if you need someone for motivation but no one pushes me harder than I push myself. I'm pretty focused and intense about my gym time so someone else usually just distracts me. If I think I'm going to need a spot, I just ask one of the guys working there or one of the guys working out. If you're going to have one, you really should be at the same strength level. It just makes it easier, more efficient, and safer when it comes to spotting the heavy weights.

    Don't know of any good sites though. If I happen to find any, I'll let ya know.
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    Jan 13, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    I used to favor them but since I started doing drop and strip sets, pushups after bench etc., I feel I can go beyond the forced reps a spot provides. The only thing that a spot would be good for is squats and sometimes ham curls to make sure you get up all the way.

    workout partner (def) = someone you want to get to know cause you like them.
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    Jan 13, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
    Workout partners tend to be a distraction for me. Too much chat when I'm trying to stay focused. I also don't like the idea of a set workout time. I go when the mood hits me during the day. A good traffic jam or stressful day at work provide lots of energy that would be wasted if I had to wait on a partner for an arranged workout time. But... Everyone is different, of course, and a regular routine might be just the ticket to get/stay motivated.
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    Jan 13, 2008 6:15 PM GMT
    I had one in the summer who pushed me hard and taught me many things, and I wish I still had one because of that reason: motivating me to do the most I could and allowing me to surprise myself with workouts/weights/exercises I would be afraid to do otherwise (as well as spot me on tougher workouts). I feel workouts were more intense with him because, well, I am guilty of spoiling myself and being too easy on myself sometimes at the gym when I get tired.

    I still want one, unfortunately that person would have to be always on-call and ready since I go to the gym at my convenience (after work most of the time) and would have to be at my fitness level so that I'm not holding him behind and he's not holding me behind. Such a person doesn't exist though.
  • Nudista

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    Jan 13, 2008 6:56 PM GMT
    I've found that having a workout partner usually slows me down and the overall intensity of the workout is reduced.

    I'm not aware of any other sites for workout buddies.

    I've had them in the past and don't mind one in the future but usually its a matter of just showing each other different routine styles for the sake of learning and changing things up a bit. I hate waiting around while you spot your much time wasted there. I usually only allow 45 seconds or less go by before I'm at my next set but with a workout buddy it goes way past this.

    Sometimes its to encourage a friend who is not as motivated as myself. I never have a problem with that. But at the end of the day...working out by myself always kicks ass! I leave the gym very satisfied.
  • luvs2travel

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    Jan 13, 2008 8:18 PM GMT
    I find that a partner really helps. It's good motivation and I generally push myself harder and do everything, otherwise, I will try to rush through things.
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    Jan 13, 2008 8:31 PM GMT
    I prefer having a workout partner, but most of mine have quit on me because I can be a bit of a dick when people waste time or decide they aren't going at the last minute. I wish I could find someone like Jillian Michaels from Biggest Loser that yells and doesn't mind getting yelled at in return.
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    Jan 13, 2008 8:34 PM GMT
    i wouldn't mind having one again. i've gotten used to working out alone, but it'd be nice to have someone to push me and spot me once in a while.

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    Jan 13, 2008 8:57 PM GMT
    Good to know I'm not the only guy who prefers to go it alone in the gym. I thought I was an oddity; with all the talk of "looking for a workout partner". Maybe that's just a code for something elseicon_biggrin.gif

    Working out is very much an individual sport for me. My workout is not a social event even though I may say hello to a few guys on the floor. I don't want to be bothered with chit chat; I'm very focused.

    I hate coordinating schedules with someone else. I don't need anyone to motivate me. Odds are pretty good that my workout/focus is not ideal for someone else. I never want more than 60 seconds rest between sets and that is difficult to achieve with a partner. It's annoying to me when 2-3 guys are working together on a piece of equipment because I'm out of luck.

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    Jan 13, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    Did you discuss what your goals were before becoming workout partners?

    I would love to have one who would not mind working out at 5:00am during the week and at 8:00am on the weekend.

    I like to get it done and over with ASAP!
  • olden

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    Jan 13, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    IMHO, a work-out partner that is there for social interaction serves no purpose other than motivation to you to be at the gym.

    I always used a spotter as work-out partner. A spotter is there to head off any accidents when working with barbells. Exercises that involve the flexing of joints always pose a safety hazard, especially when using heavier weight exercises; e.g., squats, bench and military presses. Also a good spotter can just relieve enough weight to allow you to complete that last rep or two. A really good spotter can do this without you even sensing the assistance.

    I am looking for a spotter so I can start barbell work. Will train the successful applicant, if necessary. icon_wink.gif
  • Roch_Athlete

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    Jan 14, 2008 12:10 AM GMT
    I don't have a workout partner and I doubt I'd want one. I like going when I want and working at my own pace. But I don't fault anyone who likes to have a partner. Occasionally I need a spot and just ask someone else there for one. I'm sure that if I had a partner I would lift a bit more weight, as I hate to repeatedly ask for spots. But, then again, I'm really not trying to get bigger.
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    Jan 14, 2008 12:37 AM GMT
    I have a wonderful workout partner, who is also a very close friend. He is totally worked out and knows what to do. He's designed my workouts and is there with me on two of the three days that I work out. He's inspirational and doesn't let me get away with lazy form. For my part, I have learned how to be an excellent spotter for him.

    Since November, he's put me on the same diet that he;s on. Actually, not a diet, since he hasn't modified much. What he's done is cut out all alcohol except on days on which you are with other people (for example, out to dinner with friends or holidays). That means, when you are home alone, no beer with dinner.

    No desserts except on occasions (not difficult for me, since I rarely have desserts), and no cheese on sandwiches (though it's OK on pasta etc.).

    I am running 50 miles per week as a separate issue, but just adding him back as a workout partner plus his diet....I have lost 6 pounds since November 3rd, and it shows.

    He's priceless.

  • GQjock

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    Jan 14, 2008 10:57 PM GMT
    There are good and bad points about a workout partner
    ....generally they only work if your partner is either on the same level as you or better

    if not you're going to feel like he's slowing you down and you're going to be his teacher
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    Jan 14, 2008 11:23 PM GMT
    I have found that I totally workout better on my own than with a parter. Unfortunately the guys I would work out with werent as serious about working out and they would prefer to chit chat and check out the guys rather than work up a sweat. Plus, working someone into your routine adds time to your workout. The only other person (besides myself) that has really pushed me was my trainer. That was money well spent.
  • MisterT

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    Jan 14, 2008 11:33 PM GMT
    I don't currently have one, but would like to.

    They are good if you find someone with similar goals and is motivated. they can push you on slow days, and vice-vers. On days you don't feel up to going, you go out of respect to them, and can help in slumps. There are drawbacks sometimes, but overall is usually mutually beneficial
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    Jan 15, 2008 10:42 PM GMT
    wow. Lots of great response from this. I have another training session tomorrow with my new workout partner. I keep you posted on how it goes. icon_wink.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jan 16, 2008 1:18 AM GMT
    I work out alone, but I can rely on the guys at my gym if I need a push.

    Boy, do they push me hard!
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    Jan 18, 2008 1:57 AM GMT
    I had a workout partner, but he said he couldn't keep up with me and said I was "too intense and had too much stamina" for him. Too bad! He was 28 and a really nice guy, with a good build, but not much dedication or interest in sweating....He was straight and knew that I was gay and was OK with it, even in the locker rooms! He was very handsome...but said it was just his "lucky genes" and his classes in KRAV MAGA that kept him "in shape". He was a former Marine and that made for an interesting workout too...icon_razz.gificon_lol.gif So I work out alone with my IPOD CRANKED!
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    Jan 18, 2008 5:03 PM GMT
    so update. I think I'm liking it. I've worked out all five days this week. Monday and Tues by myself and Thurs-Fri with a partner. I can tell you that this morning when my alarm went off, there was no way in hell I was going to get up. I had a game last night and I was exhausted. But then I remembered my plans to meet up and it got me out of bed. I do think my partner can talk a bit much but I've been good about cutting him off to start a set. Now the only issue I have is that he's, 47, 6' and 180 libs. I'd like someone around my age/height, but I'll take this in the mean time. Thanks guys- Bill
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    Jan 18, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
    I've had several workout partners...they're usually not as dedicated as I am, or they have other goals besides getting ripped.

    I think its necessary for you to find someone about your build, or bigger and one who lifts a little more than you other words, someone who can push you.

    I don't mind being the one doing the pushing as long as I can get a spot when I want it and he looks good in his workout gear (but then again, I'm shallow like that).

    the age difference doesnt bother me, but some people who have been around a long time tend to have a different view of what you should be doing in the weightroom, and some advice can be dangerous.
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    Jan 18, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    I do not have one. I like the flexiblity of going to the gym on my schedule but I think if I had a good partner they would help push me to do more. I also get into too much of a routine with my workouts and I think having a partner would help mix it up some.