My Gaydar sucks

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    Feb 02, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    Ok. There have been several times recently where I've been out in a public place, and I'll make eye contact with a hot guy. I mostly hang out in straight places, so I am never confident in hitting on guys, and honestly I never really look for guys when I'm at straight places. When it happens, I try and look back as much as possible, and it usually continues for a while, but then nothing ever happens. What are some tell all signs that someone is gay? Because I am aweful and figuring it out.
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    Feb 03, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    Dude... Story of my life.
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    Feb 03, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    If you wanna hit on/be hit on by gay guys, it's probably a smarter idea to hang out where they do.
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    Feb 03, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    Dude! My gaydar is like TOTALLY broken! But my heterodar works like a CHAMP!! Mostly 'cause I'm attracted to a certain type of guy and they're 95% straight and 3% TWATS!!!
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    Feb 03, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    dude i have the windows 95 version of gaydar. i don't think i can help you there.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 03, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    You're not wasting your time relying on the eyecontact. It is the window to the soul, and sexual preference, to paraphrase somebody. If they're gay and they're not looking at you, you have no hope anyway. They find you repulsive. The guys who don't look into your eyes are the straight guys. The guys who do and then don't and then do, those are the bi guys who estimated to make up 20% of the population. But they have wives most likely. You're not the problem, their anguish is.
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    Feb 03, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    when you find it out, please fill me in on the secret.
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    Feb 03, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidYou're not wasting your time relying on the eyecontact. It is the window to the soul, and sexual preference, to paraphrase somebody. If they're gay and they're not looking at you, you have no hope anyway. They find you repulsive. The guys who don't look into your eyes are the straight guys. The guys who do and then don't and then do, those are the bi guys who estimated to make up 20% of the population. But they have wives most likely. You're not the problem, their anguish is.


    20% of the population is bisexual? Stop reading fantasy literature and misinterpreting it as fact.
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    Feb 03, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    icon_redface.gif I'm the same as you mate, most probs why i've never had a boyfriendicon_question.gif
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    Feb 03, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
    heckyeah09 saiddude i have the windows 95 version of gaydar. i don't think i can help you there.


    I see your Windows 95 and raise you Windows ME.

    Although I do have the ability to suss out the "on the fence" gay guy, and push them over onto the straight side of the field.

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    Feb 03, 2010 8:02 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidYou're not wasting your time relying on the eyecontact. It is the window to the soul, and sexual preference, to paraphrase somebody. If they're gay and they're not looking at you, you have no hope anyway. They find you repulsive. The guys who don't look into your eyes are the straight guys. The guys who do and then don't and then do, those are the bi guys who estimated to make up 20% of the population. But they have wives most likely. You're not the problem, their anguish is.


    It's funny I've always wondered about this too, and I read so many places that the whole eye contact thing has real truth behind it. I have not been able to test it much myself but I can say though that most times when this topic comes up, eye contact is usually the most prevalent tell tell sign agreed on.
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    Feb 03, 2010 8:31 AM GMT
    heckyeah09 saiddude i have the windows 95 version of gaydar. i don't think i can help you there.


    Ahh you gotta upgrade to mac osx snow leopard.

    There is no clear cut answer because every guy is different. The key is... don't hit on them.. treat them like you would treat any buddy of yours and once you get to know them you will get a better idea. Eventually come out to them and the next move is theirs.
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:21 AM GMT
    A lot of times, though, you don't get to know them better. Maybe you just see them once and then they're gone.

    Eyes are a good sign, as is the "parting shot", looking back at you in the last possible moment before you or they are out of sight.

    Another is the proximity dance. Finding any excuse to walk by you. At my gym the scale, towel exchange and drinking fountain are all pretty close to each other. This one guy will walk past me to weigh himself. Then he goes to get his towel and comes back to exchange it. Then he comes back to get a drink.... In a cafeteria, maybe he needs to get a refill, then a napkin, then a replacement spoon (assuming you are between him and where those are dispensed). When he came back, maybe he switched chairs so he can face you...?

    Heh. Reminds me of one time I didn't lose my virginity. I used to work in one of the engineering computer labs. This cute guy comes in and is the last person in the lab... having moved up to the computer closest to the door (where I am). Poor kid stayed till close, and since I was working on some project and not rushing out the door, he stayed another hour (I wasn't about to kick him out). I was just too scared and closeted so only stole a few glances every now and then.
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    Feb 03, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    Caesarea4 saidA lot of times, though, you don't get to know them better. Maybe you just see them once and then they're gone.

    Eyes are a good sign, as is the "parting shot", looking back at you in the last possible moment before you or they are out of sight.

    Another is the proximity dance. Finding any excuse to walk by you. At my gym the scale, towel exchange and drinking fountain are all pretty close to each other. This one guy will walk past me to weigh himself. Then he goes to get his towel and comes back to exchange it. Then he comes back to get a drink.... In a cafeteria, maybe he needs to get a refill, then a napkin, then a replacement spoon (assuming you are between him and where those are dispensed). When he came back, maybe he switched chairs so he can face you...?


    Oh that sucks donkey balls!

    The other night at the gym, a really cute guy was making eye contact with me in the locker room, and I didn't clue in onto whether or not he was gay. I went to the sink to wash my glasses, and next thing I know he's standing at the sink next to me. I almost walked right into him when I left as I can't see without my glasses.

    As I was getting dressed, he asked me about me the towel policy at the gym and we chatted ever so briefly. I'm pretty sure, after the fact, that he was checking me.icon_neutral.gif

  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 05, 2010 7:59 PM GMT
    I have a pretty good gaydar, but the only problem is I'm never SURE...
    I get vibes pretty easily even if the guy is hot.

    There is a really cute guy at my gym, who I'm almost 100% sure is straight, but he knows I look at him when we're working out, and he looks back sometimes.
    He also changes in teh locker room next to me, and gets fully buff then goes and takes a shower.

    It's really hot and frustrating because yeah, I want to tap that soooo bad.

    I'm hoping that something happens with one of the closet cases at my school.. because there are a lot.. You'd be surprised how many bi guys there are.. or just curious straight icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    heckyeah09 saiddude i have the windows 95 version of gaydar. i don't think i can help you there.



    okay, that's hilarious... one of the funniest lines I've heard in a long time.

    Gaydar... even with a GPS it works about 25% of the time... get GRINDR

    http://www.grindr.com
  • Stephan

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    Feb 05, 2010 8:10 PM GMT
    mine does not work, and if it did, maybe I would not be single.
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    Feb 05, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    mine is overly sensitive, I think most guys I come across are gay haha or im probably thinking maybe I can turn them...or just wishful thinking icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Ever since I was a child I have been very Observant of people Which is one of the reasons why my gaydar is pretty good. When It comes to any tips or tricks to tell who is a "Friend of Dorthy" there really isn't,because every gay guy is different from the other,So I can't just say "IT'S IN HIS FUCKING WALK!!! GURLL!".

    Vibes are a big thing for me though. Alot of my friends that I have spoke to that have a good gaydar say that they get a strange vibe from a gay guy unlike from a straight one.

    I was able to tell that these 3 guys were gay (at different times,they weren't together) because they had this facial expression,like they were soo fucking annoyed with something,Which straight guys do not do from what I have viewed.

    Also, some gay guys tend to have a better posture than a straight guy.


    hmmp maybe I'll make a youtube video in the future and try to explain this shit better.
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:19 PM GMT
    Fitkid saidOk. There have been several times recently where I've been out in a public place, and I'll make eye contact with a hot guy. I mostly hang out in straight places, so I am never confident in hitting on guys, and honestly I never really look for guys when I'm at straight places. When it happens, I try and look back as much as possible, and it usually continues for a while, but then nothing ever happens. What are some tell all signs that someone is gay? Because I am aweful and figuring it out.


    Yeah dude I know what you mean. I was bartending last night and this reallllly fuckin hot dude kept lookin at me, then when I'd look over at him he'd qiuck look away. I don't know if he was thinking I'm good looking or if he was straight and just staring at me for some reason lol. He was w/ a guy, but they both seemed straight? I hate not knowing haha.
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    When talking with a new guy and I'm not sure if he is straight or gay, I let my gaydar give me some clues.

    Is the guy holding my gaze and smiling, or looking away and down?

    Is the guy brightening up in his conversation and interest or looking disinterested?

    During the conversation, does he stand a bit closer and turn his torso toward me, or seem to want to remain in his own space?

    These are just a start. I'm rarely unhappy with my gaydar!

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    Feb 05, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    Hell my gaydar is broke even if I am at a spot where gay folk at! lol...If someone knows how to fix it, please, clue me in on how to repair or activate mine!
  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 05, 2010 10:34 PM GMT
    CAJock753 saidWhen talking with a new guy and I'm not sure if he is straight or gay, I let my gaydar give me some clues.

    Is the guy holding my gaze and smiling, or looking away and down?

    Is the guy brightening up in his conversation and interest or looking disinterested?

    During the conversation, does he stand a bit closer and turn his torso toward me, or seem to want to remain in his own space?

    These are just a start. I'm rarely unhappy with my gaydar!


    When I was closeted I would do the things like looking away and down, and acting disinterested lol.. cause I didn't wanna seem gay :/
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    Yeah, it's wayy easier to use gaydar on guys who aren't in the closet. It's too bad that I'm usually attracted to closeted guys - especially since I still kind of am (just some close friends and my mom know so far... and my ex lol).
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    I just always assume they are being friendly. :/