How structured are you? When are you and when spontaneous?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 03, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    Its always been a point of criticism for me. Being too structured, too planned and not spontaneous enough. When I was in my 20's no weekend was complete without having my 2 vehicles clean, the yard mowed and house cleaned. Talking about taking things too far.

    These days I can live with a vehicle dirty, a little dust in my house (but the yard is never .. "not mowed"..... and its rare I blow it with my workouts.

    But being spontaneous is a newly learned consideration. My bf makes off the wall remarks and when I am spontaneous its sexually.. I love it. But I'm learning about balance in great strides.

    SO .. are you a structured person? On a scale of 1-5 (one: no structure.. 5: too much) and in what ways are you organized and structured and what ways lack?

    Are you happy with it?
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    That's a tricky question. When working on a business project, I'm a 4 or 5. Works requires organization, preparation and planning. Time is money and not being organized can cost money (or clients).

    In life in general, I'm a solid 1 or 2. Don't like too much structure and planned agendas, and I totally like changing my mind and my activities depending on how the wind is blowing.
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:07 PM GMT
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    I have absolutely no structure.

    I am so against habit that I rarely eat three meals every day. I go to sleep and wake up at different times depending on my mood. I sporadically switch between being a neat freak and letting my clutter overtake my life... When writing screenplays or putting together pre-production for a project in school, I go about each project completely different than the last and usually end up writing half of it on napkins, loose-leaf paper, and, sometimes - on a computer (gasp). I'll end up bulking everything together with staples, rubber bands, paper clips, and stuffing it in a notebook. I guess I'm pretty right-brained! (Yet I feel logic overtakes me most of the time, contradiction?)

    I definitely need a structured partner to balance me, give me some organization... and, in turn, for me to loosen him up.


    When am I spontaneous?
    FUCK YOU.
    Well, spontaneity is inherently random I guess.
  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 03, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    Average of 3.
    I am a 5 when I don't need to be a 1. I have structure when I need it, and chaos when appropriate.

    I guess if I had to chose a side of the spectrum I'd lean more towards spontaneous than structured because that is just who I am.. I have had to train myself structure, when being spontaneous just comes naturally to me.

    I am happy with my structure right now, it works for me.. would love to be more spontaneous in some areas such as my social life, and more structured in my academics for sure..

    Meh, lol.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 03, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    I am loathe to admit it, but I am not a very spontaneous person on my own. I need someone to pull me out of my routine in order to break it. I've tried be more spontaneous, but that's a bit of an oxymoron.
  • trevchaser

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    Feb 03, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    Tell me what to do! I'll do it right now! BTW I'm at my office... icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    I'm not very structured at all, but it's odd how when I am given one to use, I usually like it a lot.
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    i've befriended some very spontaneous people in college, and i really enjoy being part of the shenanigans. Almost like becoming the "Yes Man" lol

    (i've visited 3 new states, a new province, gone skydiving, and countless other illegitimate things)
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    Im SUPER random

    Im usually a quiet person and shy at first, but with friends... no, im usually pretty calm also. I love making jokes though, and sometimes the joke is me being pretty slow.

    However when it comes to special occasions when Im to be in my best behaviors... I still spill a funny comment or two hahaha.

    I really cant say no to people, everyone says Im pretty noble, I just feel horrible when someone is sad or going through a hard time. I usually cheer people up with my personality all funny ish and spontaneous-ish ish.
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    Feb 03, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    I'm very structured, I've my routine in the morning and by gawd if anyone trys to disrupt it they will die a slow horrible painful death as I sip my coffee quietly enjoying the sun streaming in.

    When it came to work I was the same, routine, but, I had to be spontaneous and kinda fluid at work, things moved quickly competitors would try to out match us and we'd have to move fast and sometimes very creatively to maintain our position and we did, it was all very "everywhere" but fun.

    After my morning routine I'm pretty free (well, after the Gym I should say) although I have a sort of routine I follow happily if nothing else comes up I'm not rigidly stuck to it, but I do get frustrated when I'm not allowed to have that routine every now and then because constant upheaval is uncomfortable heh.

    sexually, I go both ways equally, I like a sort of semi routine sexual experience, but I can be really spontaneous, if I'm in the mood then it's "screw it, I want sex NOWS like please thank you yes!!" hehehe and it can be anywhere and anything really, my moods tend to dictate how I'll be, from wild, rough, gentle, sweet, submissive, aggressive and so on
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    Feb 03, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    ItsJhonnyBam saidIm SUPER random

    Im usually a quiet person and shy at first, but with friends... no, im usually pretty calm also. I love making jokes though, and sometimes the joke is me being pretty slow.

    However when it comes to special occasions when Im to be in my best behaviors... I still spill a funny comment or two hahaha.

    I really cant say no to people, everyone says Im pretty noble, I just feel horrible when someone is sad or going through a hard time. I usually cheer people up with my personality all funny ish and spontaneous-ish ish.


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    Feb 03, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
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    ItsJhonnyBam saidIm SUPER random

    Im usually a quiet person and shy at first, but with friends... no, im usually pretty calm also. I love making jokes though, and sometimes the joke is me being pretty slow.

    However when it comes to special occasions when Im to be in my best behaviors... I still spill a funny comment or two hahaha.

    I really cant say no to people, everyone says Im pretty noble, I just feel horrible when someone is sad or going through a hard time. I usually cheer people up with my personality all funny ish and spontaneous-ish ish.


    I, too, live with this curse. icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Feb 03, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidI am loathe to admit it, but I am not a very spontaneous person on my own. I need someone to pull me out of my routine in order to break it. I've tried be more spontaneous, but that's a bit of an oxymoron.


    Me tooicon_smile.gif

    And as far as structure I am a 3. Just average.
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    Feb 04, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    I'm trying to break out of the structure habit, but it's damn hard. During the week, my routine is pretty well set every day, and it can really throw me when something in the routine gets disrupted. If someone asks me to go to dinner during the week and I didn't plan for it at least a day ahead, I'm a mess. And I am NOT a "hey let's go do this right now" kinda guy.

    after seeing this written down, it sound an awful lot like my son who has mild Asperger's Syndrome. He gets totally whacked out if any part of his routine is disrupted. Is there some medication for spontaneity?
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    Feb 04, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    I use structure when it suits me. I could appear very structured in the US Army, almost fanatically, obsessively so.

    But it was a facade, and behind the scenes I practiced the most unorthodox out-of-the-box thinking, which gave me a big advantage over my unimaginative fellow officers. It provided me answers & approaches they could never imagine, because I reevaluated every situation from top to bottom, throwing the structured approach out the window.

    Structure can be my "auto-pilot" when I'm too tired or disinterested to invest a lot of resources & thinking in something, or when there simply isn't time. If it looks like a situation I've solved before, I let structure and precedent carry me through, while I take a mental nap.

    But for my fun & entertainment, no structure is best. Uninhibited and unrestrained is my motto, that makes me smile and feel happy. For me structure is a tool, but never the rule.
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    Feb 04, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    I am a structured person when it comes to working out, paying bills and keeping up with daily duties - I probably need to be more spontaneous though and just do some things without any plans at all. Who knows I may like it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 04, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    I'm pretty structured through out my day mostly cause of work. Random is good too though... a random trip too little tokyo or to the beach is a nice pick me up.