Why there is people out there that just like one race? For example...I saw a guy that just date white guys!! We live in a world where race shouldn't be a issue since we had our first black president. I know it's someone preference but why they just like that one race...for example..why just white men? Is it something they been raised on? Would their parents disown them if dated outside their race circle.

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    Feb 04, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    Here is my thing answer the question above and answer this question if you are white and date only white...What you dislike about these races?

    If your African American..why you won't date someone that is outside your race?..but I notice I get a lot of whites that don't like to date outside their race..


    Asian American (or someone from that background)
    African American
    Latino/Hispanic American
    Native American
    European American
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    Feb 04, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    hmmm maybe it's where you live?

    I meet a lot of white guys that are attracted and date outside their race lol. I don't know, maybe it also has to do with your personality. Are you the type that makes a loud scene if things don't go your way or are you more laid back?

    True there are those who are only attracted / only have been with their race and if you're not the race they are attracted to, then take that as a determination to change that! Be the one exception to their attraction rule. It's always fun!
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    Feb 04, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    Races come in circles? ... icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 04, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    Caslon13000 saidRaces come in circles? ... icon_eek.gif


    Not always... some whites are squares! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 04, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    Every time this b.s. comes up, I have to ask, why aren't you trying to date a black guy?
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    Feb 04, 2010 4:46 AM GMT
    The world is not fair, end of story.

    The only thing you can do is be the best person you can and let that energy transcend to others.

    Up until last year, I worked with a racist, homophobic, hypocritical republican, veterinarian ( she opts to live in Canada because of the universal health care). I can't change someone like that, rather just kicked that cunt to the curb and developed my own green pasture.icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 04, 2010 2:47 PM GMT

    Hopefully some paraphrasing will add some perspective.


    lol, why are guys on this site only into guys that look all body beautiful n stuff?

    Why are guys into leather and only date guys into the same?

    Why do chubby chasers ignore skinny guys? What do they dislike about skinny?

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    Feb 05, 2010 9:26 AM GMT
    But that is perception. Black gay men come in a range of options, and not all of them are lumped together into "Prince vs 50 Cent" styles. And not all of them have a hood mentality.

    It seems like I am constantly having to defend black gay men or black men in general. There are so many misconceptions, and people need to take some time to get to know people on an individual basis and not lump them into a group.

    I know several guys that would be perceived to be a "thug" just because of their outward appearance, and yet these guys are into a wide range of music and into skateboarding.
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    Feb 05, 2010 11:26 AM GMT
    I think it goes along the same reasons why some people like Mint Chocolate Chip ..... or Rocky Road icon_cool.gif

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    Feb 05, 2010 11:56 AM GMT
    26mileman saidThe world is not fair, end of story.

    The only thing you can do is be the best person you can and let that energy transcend to others.

    Up until last year, I worked with a racist, homophobic, hypocritical republican, veterinarian ( she opts to live in Canada because of the universal health care). I can't change someone like that, rather just kicked that cunt to the curb and developed my own green pasture.icon_cool.gif


    I agree. You can't really change other people, I understand your frustration though. Like in my previous post, there was a couple of guys that judged me by my profile and were one dimentional, clearly lacked respect whatsoever, and those kind of people won't change.

    On the bright side, there's also people who have similar/same values as yourself, and those are the ones you want to love and spend time with instead. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    The main problem with this thread is that the Title is just too short. You need to add some more details in that title so people REALLY know what the thread is about.
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    allatonce saidThe main problem with this thread is that the Title is just too short. You need to add some more details in that title so people REALLY know what the thread is about.


    Epic.

    It comes down to gay and media culture, caucasian is promoted as the race to be. Everyone gets pounded with images of posters, magazine covers, pornography vids, all glamorizing caucasian features. Most take this on board as they're growing up, hence why a lot of guys "prefer" ie. exclusively date caucasian men. Not everyone, but the vast majority, and if you look hard enough (or simply move country) you might find guys with different tastes
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    Feb 07, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    Yeah this is kinda dumb. People like what they like. End of story. No amount of discussion will make me be attracted to someone that I don't find attractive. Don;t expect others to either. For example: I'm over 6 ft tall and I realize that some guys out there just don't like tall guys. Okay, thats cool, moving on to the next one...Simple as that...
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    Feb 07, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    I'm with Indy404.

    When I was single back in the early 80s I was turned down a lot because I was going bald on top. How much easier life would have been (as in not wasting my time) to know in advance they weren't into bald.

    As well, I wanted someone who LIKED bald (as in rawr I'm into bald), not just tolerate it. Think of the hanky code topics. That stated preferences, which was great as I found the concept of fist f**king a medical hazard and a limp willy maker. Why lead them on and waste their time? Why waste mine?
    Now here's the internet, where at a glance you can find out just like that, allowing you to sail on to more attracted/attractive men, yes?


    -Doug
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    Feb 09, 2010 6:36 AM GMT
    I haven't read any of the other responses on this thread, just looked at the question in the title, and I'm a little shocked....would you like us to have an affirmative action system for dating?

    I'm into white guys. That's what I'm attracted to. Can I help it that I'm not attracted to black, asian or latino guys? No. It's what I like.
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    Feb 09, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    Who cares? When someone doesn't like you, just move on. You have the right to be yourself and they have the right not to be attracted to you.

    And what's with the title???
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    Feb 09, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    meninlove got it bang on IMO. People like who they like and don't have to account for it to anyone else. Equal opportunities is applicable in the workplace, access to healthcare, gym and education, but it does not for access to my pants.

    There are lots of people I like who don't like me, and quite a few are straight guys. I have thought that it was inconsiderate of them not to explore their gay side with me, but I never thought about them discriminating against me on grounds of sexual orientation.

  • Moishendlishu...

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    Feb 18, 2010 7:38 AM GMT
    I get flack all the time from friends because of my lack of discrimination. I don't know that it's racist or anything but a lot of people don't like other races...or they only like one race. Personally I don't get it. I could really care less what color someone is. I'll be friends or date anyone that I have a connection to and a good time with.

    To play devil's advocate though, it isn't just white guys. I know lots of black guys who aren't into black guys, I know latinos who don't like latinos, and asians who don't like asians. It may be more out in the open in white culture, but it's everywhere. I don't know many white guys who won't date other white guys though, not sure what that says about the other races.

    I wouldn't take it so personally though. The gay community is very segmented into groups, and their is discrimination running rampant through it that has nothing to do with race.
  • paulanthony

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    Feb 18, 2010 9:13 AM GMT
    i say date who you want.why should one not have the best of both worlds
  • paulanthony

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    Feb 18, 2010 9:38 AM GMT
    and another thing MR.NEEKIDBOI you are so white. what are you .a black man no a african no .your a African American . who told you that. i am a black man.you ever been to africa. they will tell you are a black man and then call you American HELLO so shage who you want to. take off the skin and we look the same some are f/up some are not. i like both
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 18, 2010 4:22 PM GMT
    Starlite said
    So I guess nothing really has changed....the only thing that has changed are laws...but not hearts and minds....


    And just how would you attempt to change one's heart and mind icon_question.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 18, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Starlite saidAt least now, the illusion that this community is all 'lubby dubby' has been erased from my mind....


    It's called......REALITY icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    At the end of the day is it necessary to convert the guy who has a discriminatory dating preference? What about the redneck white guy missing his two front teeth, hairy ass crack and beer belly? are you asking him why he won't date beyond his race or are you exclusive to the hot muscled guy w/ the washboard abs? if so, you've been commercially trained. there are way too many men who have a diverse palate so why whine over the many who don't?
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    Feb 25, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    roundhouse said
    allatonce saidThe main problem with this thread is that the Title is just too short. You need to add some more details in that title so people REALLY know what the thread is about.


    Epic.

    It comes down to gay and media culture, caucasian is promoted as the race to be. Everyone gets pounded with images of posters, magazine covers, pornography vids, all glamorizing caucasian features. Most take this on board as they're growing up, hence why a lot of guys "prefer" ie. exclusively date caucasian men. Not everyone, but the vast majority, and if you look hard enough (or simply move country) you might find guys with different tastes


    Well said! I have to say the media has played a big part in this. Me myself is still struggling with this. I am no racist, but I do often find myself more attractive by 'White' guys. Am I a victim of the war of the major medias? Can I really change my preference and open to all races which I really want to.

    This topic can be very sensitive, so many people feel not comfortable talking about this. That's why you see there are replies saying not again, or simply push this topic to another extreme.

    It worth discussing though, that's what the forum for. Can we really change ourselves and see the true color in everyone?