Bottom trying to become Vers, cumming too fast!

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    Feb 04, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    Haha, very funny topic, and I'm embarrassed, but I've wanted to get into the realm of topping, and I have a few times, however while it felt great I just can't stop myself from cumming too early like I'm in, a couple movements and I'm going to explode, when I bottom, my tops usually get at it for awhile. What can I do to last longer? It's SO LAME, I want to be able to enjoy the many positions I can do without just putting it in and then bam I'm done, it's quite unattractive. icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 04, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    You're probably just over stimulated. Do you use lube when you jack off? That's something to try. Or get a Fleshlight and use that as practice. The more you do it, the more you can gain control over your orgasms, and desensitize your cock so you don't cum so quickly.
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    Feb 04, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    when I'm jacking off or when I'm bottoming I mean I can go for hours, but I dunno what it is. I do use lube once in awhile, but I hate to just stop thrusting and sit in there for a bit while I wait to calm down and then I just go. ahh more practice!
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    Feb 04, 2010 10:06 PM GMT
    I presume you're using a condom, since you list yourself as single. Try wearing a second one over the first, to lose some additional sensation. If that makes you too insensitive to cum at all, take the second one back off when your bottom's had his "fill" and wants you to finish up. There are also desensitizing creams available in many drug stores, and adult stores, but I've never used one and can't speak for their effectiveness.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 05, 2010 12:49 AM GMT
    I bet you'd have plenty of helpful guys here that would be willing to let you practice on them. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    i haven't found many yet! Trying those Kegel excersises though!
  • Timbales

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    Feb 05, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    If I was 10 years younger and on your coast, I'd give you a hand. icon_wink.gif
  • rockjockCA

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    Feb 05, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    Thanks for asking the question, swimmertri; I have the same problem.
    I cum way too fast even when I jack off and would lov to learn how to gain control of my orgasms. Jockd wrote, "Do you use lube when you jack off?" I don't use lube when I jackoff, does using lube help desensitize my cock?
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    Feb 05, 2010 1:32 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidI presume you're using a condom, since you list yourself as single. Try wearing a second one over the first, to lose some additional sensation.


    Condoms are more likely to brake that way from the friction. However, what you say in principal is a good idea. They sell thicker condoms and call them "extra-strength".

    What is sex like when you bottom? You say you can go for hours, but are you playing with your dick that whole time?

    If you are, then practice, practice, practice might do the trick.
    If not there are a couple of things:

    1) I know a lot of bottoms like to jerk off after their partner's have cum. You may have unintentionally trained your dick to get off quickly as soon as you start jerking. Sex is the same way. Only you are using an ass instead of your hand. Next time you are bottoming for hours, keep playing with yourself throughout the whole experience. Train your dick to being used for a longer period of time.

    2) pre-mature ejaculation. 30 years ago no one was diagnosed with erectile disfunction. Patients were embarrassed to talk to their doctors about it. Doctors were embarrassed to talk to their patients about it. Now, because of Viagara and its effect on the culture, people are much more willing to talk about it and more people are getting properly diagnosed. Pre-mature ejaculation is the same way, only people are still afraid to chat. Talk to a sex-positive doctor. The good people at Planned Parenthood can direct you.

    and if you are ever in my neck of the woods I would gladly see if we could work on this problem ^_~
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    Feb 05, 2010 5:40 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said
    Red_Vespa saidI presume you're using a condom, since you list yourself as single. Try wearing a second one over the first, to lose some additional sensation.


    Condoms are more likely to brake that way from the friction. However, what you say in principal is a good idea. They sell thicker condoms and call them "extra-strength".

    What is sex like when you bottom? You say you can go for hours, but are you playing with your dick that whole time?

    If you are, then practice, practice, practice might do the trick.
    If not there are a couple of things:

    1) I know a lot of bottoms like to jerk off after their partner's have cum. You may have unintentionally trained your dick to get off quickly as soon as you start jerking. Sex is the same way. Only you are using an ass instead of your hand. Next time you are bottoming for hours, keep playing with yourself throughout the whole experience. Train your dick to being used for a longer period of time.

    2) pre-mature ejaculation. 30 years ago no one was diagnosed with erectile disfunction. Patients were embarrassed to talk to their doctors about it. Doctors were embarrassed to talk to their patients about it. Now, because of Viagara and its effect on the culture, people are much more willing to talk about it and more people are getting properly diagnosed. Pre-mature ejaculation is the same way, only people are still afraid to chat. Talk to a sex-positive doctor. The good people at Planned Parenthood can direct you.

    and if you are ever in my neck of the woods I would gladly see if we could work on this problem ^_~


    that's exactly what I was about to say
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    Feb 05, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    I can jerk off for a really really long time as well when I do and I don't usually always use lube and I do play with myself while bottoming. I dunno I guess I'll do some kegels! haha. I've been trying to get multiple orgasms, which the most I've done is three. I tend to dump a huge load the first time, like a bucketfull, so I'm trying to train myself to edge and stuff like that which I do often.
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    Feb 05, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    It could be anxiety that's making you come quickly. How about demystifying the act?