tereseus1 saidMy friend is dating a guy thats 53 years of age.....he is controlling and constantly rings my boys cellphone like every half and hour. My friend says he really likes the guy...ive told him hes crazy for even dating a 53 year old when hes only 22. I just think thats wrong and its like pointless. As for one, what could it be that they both have in common....and they are in different stages of life. So my question to the younger crowd on here.....how old is too old?
That doesn't have anything to do with age, but, everything to do with having a dysfunctional relationship. I'm afraid you're confused here.
Constantly confirming that person is still there is part of a "needy" relationship, and, while it doesn't happen as often in more mature folks, it still does happen. That's something that you'd expect from someone much younger.
There are many relationships, especially among men, where there's a wide age difference. Lots of young gay men lack self-esteem, and seek guidance, mentorship, mental and financial support. Many young gay men behave like total fairies because they somehow think that's what their identity should be given their sexual preference. Sometimes, those guys want to be around a well adjusted person, and shown how to properly behave and to like themselves, and to find their own identity.
I know some young gay men that want nothing to do with the young fairies their age, and PREFER more level headed, decent-acting, older guys.
Folks can be creepy at ANY AGE.
There are clearly differences in culture with each generation, but, there's also many things that tie folks together, too. Common interests in occupation and recreation are often the case. E.g. the older guy has a boat, and the younger guy loves to water ski. The older guy likes to share, and enjoys the companionship and the younger likes having fun. It's that simple many times.