better looking in real life???

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    Feb 05, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    well, recently i had this issue to deal with a couple of times. i was approached a couple of times by different guys in clubs and bars. they would mention that they saw my profile on a dating site A or B. one of the things couple of them mentioned would be that they think that i look better in real life than online (i am sure that's a common thing for many people, pictures can only do so much...). in one instance, it was a guy that i tried to contact online a few times, and he always ignored my messages. i don't really know how to view the comment. what do you think about this situation?
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    Feb 05, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    yea, I get this alot to, some guys I have met always say my pics don't do me justice...I just say thanks and take it as a compliment.

    Maybe I just take bad pics...hell if I know, haha.
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    Feb 05, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    Some people are photogenic and some people are not. I fall into the latter category. Actually, I think I photograph better in candid situations. If I try to pose, ewwww.

  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 05, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    I get that one.. all the time, every time. I'm not very photogenic lol

    I take it as a compliment.. I try not to get upset about it either.. no point.
  • Celticmusl

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    Feb 05, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    Take it as a compliment, and a good ice breaker. About the guy you were trying to connect with online, he just had to see you in person to know if you were his type....don't take it as anything mean spirited or bad.

    I don't get that statement much that I'm better looking in person, but maybe it's because I have a lot of pics on my profile and you generally get the idea.
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    Feb 05, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    Get the same thing too - I figure I should just smile and thank them, take it as a compliment. I think that's what the other person is intending anyway...
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    Feb 05, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    Hey, Thatonedude21, you are very good looking and photogenic.

    Surely, it's only a problem if you don't look anything like your pictures or they are 10 years out of date.
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    Feb 05, 2010 6:04 PM GMT
    Probably better to look better in person than in photos. At least that way they won't be disappointed when they actually meet you!
  • coolarmydude

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    Feb 05, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    Maybe it's the background. If the pic's background is too busy or cluttered, it could cause the viewer to be distracted.
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    Feb 05, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    I have been told a couple times, that I look better in real life than pictures. So first time someone told me, I came back and scrutinized the pic to see what is wrong with it. But don't care anymore. Actually its a good thing when you meet someone and they show you they like you even more in person. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 6:55 PM GMT
    It`s a compliment.
    On time a guy told me that I am less fat in person than my pic....
    Another said ``my god, you are a lot less sluttier in person``icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 6:57 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidMaybe it's the background. If the pic's background is too busy or cluttered, it could cause the viewer to be distracted.


    Agreed. Keep it simple.

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    Feb 05, 2010 7:00 PM GMT
    Well, to have a relationship with just a photo is kind of weird, so thinking you look better in the flesh is a good thing.

    It's his way of complimenting and possibly saying he misjudged your photos.
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    Feb 05, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    I've been told the same, several times.

    But I've had the reverse be true--one guy in particular, his online pics are quite stunning and when I saw him in a bar I actually had to quite study him before I figured out why he looked familiar. Once I figured out who he was, I felt a little less upset that he'd rejected me online. LOL
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    Feb 05, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidSome people are photogenic and some people are not. I fall into the latter category. Actually, I think I photograph better in candid situations. If I try to pose, ewwww.



    Wait, are you trying to tell us those are BAD pics??
  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 05, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    cdncuteboy saidI've been told the same, several times.

    But I've had the reverse be true--one guy in particular, his online pics are quite stunning and when I saw him in a bar I actually had to quite study him before I figured out why he looked familiar. Once I figured out who he was, I felt a little less upset that he'd rejected me online. LOL


    That's too funny... have met people like that. Such a buzzkill
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    Feb 05, 2010 7:17 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidSome people are photogenic and some people are not. I fall into the latter category. Actually, I think I photograph better in candid situations. If I try to pose, ewwww.



    Umm, yeah, I'll take your so called "bad" photos over my "good" photos...oh wait, I don't have any "good" photos.LOL

    Seriously, I either end up smiling to big, and looking like Mr. Ed, or get caught half way blinking, looking like (insert current celebutard of the moment) in a drunken stupor.

    Terribly uncomfortable in front of the camera.
  • jonwaltglat

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    Feb 05, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    I am one of those few on Facebook who has 3500 pictures tagged. I feel I'm fairly photogenic and I'm never really embarrassed by a picture or think I look all that bad in them. I've been told many times though that while I am pretty photogenic, I look better in person. I guess though being photogenic doesn't mean that you are hot or anything, it just means you can make a picture look good. Which would I rather have? I think I'd rather look better in person. icon_biggrin.gif
  • drypin

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    Feb 05, 2010 7:45 PM GMT
    Well, most of you couldn't get any uglier than in your pictures, so it's only natural.













    I'm so totally kidding. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 05, 2010 7:47 PM GMT
    drypin saidWell, most of you couldn't get any uglier than in your pictures, so it's only natural.













    I'm so totally kidding. icon_redface.gif


    Tell that to this poor guy:
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  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 05, 2010 7:49 PM GMT
    djdorchester said
    drypin saidWell, most of you couldn't get any uglier than in your pictures, so it's only natural.













    I'm so totally kidding. icon_redface.gif


    Tell that to this poor guy:
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    I really want to cry after seeing that pic...
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    Feb 05, 2010 7:57 PM GMT
    thatonedude21 said
    djdorchester said
    drypin saidWell, most of you couldn't get any uglier than in your pictures, so it's only natural.

    I'm so totally kidding. icon_redface.gif


    Tell that to this poor guy:
    ugly.jpg

    I really want to cry after seeing that pic...


    You little softy, you. icon_smile.gif

  • drypin

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    Feb 05, 2010 8:07 PM GMT
    Okay, Dave, you've held a mirror up and showed me the devastation wrought by my ugly soul... now I have to apologize to all the posters before me.

    You are - each of you - all hot in your own way and I would doubtlessly do a double take if I saw you in real life... and ogle you from afar, to shy to make contact.
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    Feb 05, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    I honestly consider myself horribly unphotogenic, and I've heard this a few times. I take it as a compliment, as it's probably meant to be (albeit an awkward one).
  • thatonedude21

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    Feb 05, 2010 8:17 PM GMT
    badmikeyt saidI honestly consider myself horribly unphotogenic, and I've heard this a few times. I take it as a compliment, as it's probably meant to be (albeit an awkward one).

    I bet ur fugly in person. lol JK icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif