How do you know that "He is the ONE"

  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Feb 05, 2010 8:24 PM GMT
    So how do you know that he is the ONE?

    Do you get a feeling everything you see him?
    Does he do something special that you love?
    Are you just always happy when you are with him?

    So how do you know... what feeling do you get?



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  • myklet1

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    Feb 05, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    It will be interesting to see how men respond to this subject. How do you know when he is the one........hmmmmmm when he treats you right after six months of being together........I have been in what I thought were serious relationships. I am honest, I am faithful, I am settled and just want to be happy. I think most gay men don't want to be settled down to one man. I think infatuation is misread as love. When I tell someone that I love them (and that is hard to get out of me), six months later I love them more, and my love keeps growing. I think most gay men are busy falling out of love than in love. I am in a relationship and I am happy......not HAPPY, but happy. My partner is faithful and a good man, and so am I. I guess I watched too many movies or maybe I am just down right delusional about gay love. A friend of mine says.......love just changes after time. Well I think that is ridiculous but I guess it is true. I think my experiences watching my friends in relationships, is gay men are so busy with wandering eyes always looking for something a little better, they forget what is right there in front of them and how much they are loved. And they forget how time flies. For me - life is more fun when you have someone to share it with.....or that's what I always thought.
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    Feb 05, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    I know he is the one when we never have that conversation that we are a couple...It just happens natural (that is how my 10 year went) we never discussed we were "together"...It was just kinda known, I liked that.
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:28 PM GMT
    u know hesthe one when...
    ... he shows hes got skills to milk my cock and can get me off at least 3X day with his mouth hands and ass
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    myklet1 saidIt will be interesting to see how men respond to this subject. How do you know when he is the one........hmmmmmm when he treats you right after six months of being together........I have been in what I thought were serious relationships. I am honest, I am faithful, I am settled and just want to be happy. I think most gay men don't want to be settled down to one man. I think infatuation is misread as love. When I tell someone that I love them (and that is hard to get out of me), six months later I love them more, and my love keeps growing. I think most gay men are busy falling out of love than in love. I am in a relationship and I am happy......not HAPPY, but happy. My partner is faithful and a good man, and so am I. I guess I watched too many movies or maybe I am just down right delusional about gay love. A friend of mine says.......love just changes after time. Well I think that is ridiculous but I guess it is true. I think my experiences watching my friends in relationships, is gay men are so busy with wandering eyes always looking for something a little better, they forget what is right there in front of them and how much they are loved. And they forget how time flies. For me - life is more fun when you have someone to share it with.....or that's what I always thought.


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    Feb 05, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    I know he's the one when EVERYtime I see him I smile.

    After 2 years I still get rock hard when I see him naked.

    When we finish each others sentences.

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    Feb 05, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    When he not only decided to stay after he chewed through the restraints, but didn't press charges.
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    8Always_Hard8 saidSo how do you know that he is the ONE?

    Do you get a feeling everything you see him?
    Does he do something special that you love?
    Are you just always happy when you are with him?

    So how do you know... what feeling do you get?



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    Hmm.... I can answer yes to all of those questions about my ex, then he ended up lying to me and hurting me so I guess you never know until you're w/ someone forever :/
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:45 PM GMT
    myklet1 said...... gay men are so busy with wandering eyes always looking for something a little better, they forget what is right there in front of them and how much they are loved


    I blame Oprah. icon_biggrin.gif
  • DanielQQ

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    Feb 05, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    You don't KNOW he's the one, you DECIDE he's the one. You wake up every day and commit to making the relationship work, even though your feelings may change from day to day. Some days you think you're the luckiest guy in the world, other days you want him to just go away.

    It's unfortunate that so many of us let so many wonderful guys slip away because we think we have to KNOW that someone is "the one." The best thing I ever did is let that idea go so that I could give myself room to authentically love someone.
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    Feb 05, 2010 10:50 PM GMT
    DanielQQ saidYou don't KNOW he's the one, you DECIDE he's the one. You wake up every day and commit to making the relationship work, even though your feelings may change from day to day. Some days you think you're the luckiest guy in the world, other days you want him to just go away.

    It's unfortunate that so many of us let so many wonderful guys slip away because we think we have to KNOW that someone is "the one." The best thing I ever did is let that idea go so that I could give myself room to authentically love someone.


    This is a wonderful post.
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    Feb 05, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    I have only been in one LTR, and there wasn’t a single moment when I knew. But there was an increasing assurance that he was something special.

    It was knowing we shared similar POV’s and experiences. We felt comfortable around each other, and wanted to spend more and more time together.

    I knew I hurt when I missed him.

    In time I had half of my clothes at his place. I had my favorite cereal in his cupboard. I slept more nights at his place than mine.

    If there was one moment that came close…
    We spent the day at the Magic Kingdom. We were spooning and watching TV at his place. He fell asleep in my arms, and I welled up with…joy.

    We took it step by step. Day by day. Moment by moment. I jumped into his place, and into his life for eleven years.
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    Feb 06, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    We have a lot of fun together. He pushes me to be better than I think I am.

    Most importantly I trust him more than anyone I ever have in my entire life. I can be completely honest and know he would never use that information to hurt me. I love him more and more each day, I respect and admire him. He's one of the best people I have met. His laugh and smile can melt my heart. I would never want to do anything to hurt or disappoint him. I think of him before myself. I can rely on him. It kills me to think of my life without him.

    Thats all I can think of right now.
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    Feb 06, 2010 12:37 AM GMT
    when you jerk off with only his image in your mind...
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    Feb 06, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    When I fart and he lives to tell about it.

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    Feb 06, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidWhen I fart and he lives to tell about it.

    High protein diets have many pluses, it's not just for building muscle, it weeds out the weak!


    what a man.....
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    Feb 06, 2010 1:05 AM GMT
    You'll just know.
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    Feb 06, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    OCN8 saidWe have a lot of fun together. He pushes me to be better than I think I am.

    Most importantly I trust him more than anyone I ever have in my entire life. I can be completely honest and know he would never use that information to hurt me. I love him more and more each day, I respect and admire him. He's one of the best people I have met. His laugh and smile can melt my heart. I would never want to do anything to hurt or disappoint him. I think of him before myself. I can rely on him. It kills me to think of my life without him.

    Thats all I can think of right now.


    I agree with a lot of what you said here. I can only add to this that in my case before I even met him I saw his picture and it literally just awestruck me. I knew immediately that I had to know him - that picture spoke volumes to me, and the emotional pull was extremely strong - only at the time I didn't know why. Well now I do know why! icon_smile.gif His smile is amazing and I could watch him smile for hours on end. I just get lost in it! I count my blessings everyday that I met him. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 06, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    i stole this off a guys profile


    "Wait for the guy, who says you're beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who stays awake just to watch you sleep.
    Wait for the guy, who kisses your cheek, who wants to show you off to the world when you're wearing sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends.
    Wait for the guy, who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you, and how lucky he is to have you.
    Wait for the guy, who carries you in his arms when youre sick or stressed.
    Wait for the guy, who turns to his family and proudly says: "That's him!"
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    Feb 06, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    Shubham saidi stole this off a guys profile


    "Wait for the guy, who says you're beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who stays awake just to watch you sleep.
    Wait for the guy, who kisses your cheek, who wants to show you off to the world when you're wearing sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends.
    Wait for the guy, who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you, and how lucky he is to have you.
    Wait for the guy, who carries you in his arms when youre sick or stressed.
    Wait for the guy, who turns to his family and proudly says: "That's him!"
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    Wow! this almost brought a tear to my eyes. so beautiful icon_cry.gif
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    Feb 06, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    How do you know that there is such a thing as "the One" for everyone?

    For some people... certainly.

    For everyone? ... I'd question that.

    Why must everyone have the same conception of relationships and what it means to be in one, or what it means to be in love?

    People have the potential to be individuals in all aspects of their lives, why is love and relationships the exception? Why is there one pre-determined "goal" to find "the one"?

    I have not had a relationship yet, but just from observing the different people who have come in and out of my life, whether gay or straight, I can say that I have known some people to have never found anyone in a very long time. I have seen some people who found each other very young, and who were truly in love until the day one of them died. They found "the one". Then there are others, who have found not one, but many.

    Why must it be the same for everyone? Why must there be this desire to find "the one" when in fact, it may be the case that there isn't one person for everyone?

    Personally, I like the idea of diversity a little more than this desperate search for "the one."

    I don't know what is out there for me, but whether it is "the one" or "the few" or "the many", each relationship should be taken for what it is, not what it isn't.

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    Feb 06, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    MeOhMy saidHow do you know that there is such a thing as "the One" for everyone?

    For some people... certainly.

    For everyone? ... I'd question that.

    Why must everyone have the same conception of relationships and what it means to be in one, or what it means to be in love?

    People have the potential to be individuals in all aspects of their lives, why is love and relationships the exception? Why is there one pre-determined "goal" to find "the one"?

    I have not had a relationship yet, but just from observing the different people who have come in and out of my life, whether gay or straight, I can say that I have known some people to have never found anyone in a very long time. I have seen some people who found each other very young, and who were truly in love until the day one of them died. They found "the one". Then there are others, who have found not one, but many.

    Why must it be the same for everyone? Why must there be this desire to find "the one" when in fact, it may be the case that there isn't one person for everyone?

    Personally, I like the idea of diversity a little more than this desperate search for "the one."

    I don't know what is out there for me, but whether it is "the one" or "the few" or "the many", each relationship should be taken for what it is, not what it isn't.




    I am out there for you MeOhMy. I am here!!
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Feb 06, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    MeOhMy saidHow do you know that there is such a thing as "the One" for everyone?

    For some people... certainly.

    For everyone? ... I'd question that.

    Why must everyone have the same conception of relationships and what it means to be in one, or what it means to be in love?

    People have the potential to be individuals in all aspects of their lives, why is love and relationships the exception? Why is there one pre-determined "goal" to find "the one"?

    I have not had a relationship yet, but just from observing the different people who have come in and out of my life, whether gay or straight, I can say that I have known some people to have never found anyone in a very long time. I have seen some people who found each other very young, and who were truly in love until the day one of them died. They found "the one". Then there are others, who have found not one, but many.

    Why must it be the same for everyone? Why must there be this desire to find "the one" when in fact, it may be the case that there isn't one person for everyone?

    Personally, I like the idea of diversity a little more than this desperate search for "the one."

    I don't know what is out there for me, but whether it is "the one" or "the few" or "the many", each relationship should be taken for what it is, not what it isn't.







    well what i ment was like the bf you have or the bf you had... something like that
  • jrs1

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    Feb 06, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    MeOhMy saidHow do you know that there is such a thing as "the One" for everyone?

    I am out there for you MeOhMy. I am here!!

    you're cracked.