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  • Silent_Angel

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    Jan 14, 2008 12:20 PM GMT
    Ok.I have a problem..so i like this guy...but i like this other guy too..and well the other guy asked me if i was talking to anyone else and i told him yes..that i am at a hard point right now because i am having to choose between 2 guys and i sucks...and its not fair that i cant be with both of them i like them both...but i have no idea what to do ..he told me i was a slut and ...i just feel like i could scream at him that he has no clue...icon_cry.gif
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    Jan 14, 2008 4:12 PM GMT
    It's ok to be a slut. Run with it.
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    Jan 14, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
    if he calls you a slut for having options then go with the other one, he is not worth your time.
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    Jan 14, 2008 4:41 PM GMT
    If the guy is already calling you names and insulting you fresh out the gate...hint! hint!

    Go with the other guy. That's huge HUGE HUGE RED FLAG!

    Good Luck!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 14, 2008 4:58 PM GMT
    Move on.

    There are other fish in the ocean.

    For you to get in the middle is highly dysfunctional. It's already a mess, and you'd be a fool to put yourself into it.

    Move on.
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    Jan 14, 2008 10:43 PM GMT
    tell each one of them one bad little secret about yourself. See which one stick around after that.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 14, 2008 11:00 PM GMT
    Hmmmm....

    You like two guys....

    One calls you a slut.....

    Hmmmm....

    Yep....That's the one I'd go with
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    Jan 15, 2008 6:24 PM GMT
    insults are a good sign of future abuse. sounds like a jealousy problem already as well. this is the kind of guy that thinks u are flirting with a guy just because u walked past him on the street.
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    Jan 30, 2008 5:41 AM GMT
    Being a slut is a lot of fun. Then again, you have to be really independent to keep it up.
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    Jan 30, 2008 5:46 AM GMT
    Calling someone a slut is so 90's.
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    Jan 30, 2008 5:51 AM GMT
    try a triad????
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    Jan 30, 2008 5:56 AM GMT
    Putting myself in the other guys shoes, i would have dumped you when you told me. If you cant decide whether or not you want to be with me then your not someone I would want to be with.
  • bigguysf

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    Jan 30, 2008 6:04 AM GMT
    S A, don't be accepting of his unacceptable behavior. He could have asked you to decide, or said he was uncomfortable being a choice between two potential guys... he could have done any one of a number of things to share with you his discomfort, hurt, jealousy, whatever. But he chose to call you a name.
    Especially given how little time you guys have known one another, that's not acceptable.
    F**k him. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 30, 2008 7:53 PM GMT
    People who call others a slut are either a) jealous because they want to be doing the same thing but are too scared or b) hiding something.

    I figure any guy I'm talking to or dating is going to be talking to and dating others. If it comes time to make a commitment is when we decide what kind of relationship to have. Before that it's none of his business what I do when we're not together and it's none of my business what he does.

    However, keep being honest with guys. It's a good trait to have. Either they accept you as you are or they don't - but at least you'll find out right away.
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    Feb 01, 2008 8:35 AM GMT
    ask them if they're open to a polyamorous relationship. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 01, 2008 9:03 AM GMT
    Yeah... I'd so go with the guy that called me a slut... NOT! That was a warning shot he fired, Silent_Angel... a warning that getting involved with him isn't smart.

    Guys that will call you names like that usually end up being possessive, or controlling, or abusive, or any combination of the above. I've been there. I was in my early 20s and I really liked the guy. But there were warning signs with him too... possessiveness, control issues, calling me names, jealous that other guys looked at me, and always arguments over it, even though I didn't notice anyone looking at me. When I mentioned it to friends, they told me he was bad news and I ignored them... five months later, when he beat the crap out of me because I was two or three minutes late getting home from work, I knew they were right and he was a mistake... and I was out of there faster than lightning.

    No one deserves that.

    Be careful and choose wisely...

    Good luck!
  • Silent_Angel

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    Feb 03, 2008 1:19 AM GMT
    thx you gus...i guess i need to wait for mr right then dont i?i think i might have found him...icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 18, 2008 12:18 AM GMT
    hey guys my name is aryan am 19 studying and living in United Arab Emirate. My dream is 2 always been in relationship but that never happen i keep on meting with losers. I met with couple of guys here in dubai we went for a date they shows me they luv me and want 2 be with me after we had sex they never call even if i tried to contact them they dont answer their phone even though finding guys over here is preety hard. Right now i dont know what to do, i am thinking of movin 2 a civilize country but the prolem is i dont know who 2 move with bcoz i dont know anyone. I dont have any problem movin in with anyone am livin alone here my family are livin in south africa. I really need a change, anyone who have an idea or interested in me let me know here is my id aryansameer@hotmail.com or aryansameeer@yahoo.com!
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    Feb 18, 2008 2:04 AM GMT
    silent_angle is the Mr right among the 2 guys? And 4 you aryan living in dubai is not that easy there is no any gay club or bar. I only went 2 gay club or bar when am out of country. I think your situation is not that hard seings you are living by yourself you just keep looking and searching for him am sure he is looking for you too. My situation is even worst than yours i did whatever i can to convience my parent to let me go some where to continue with my studies but they refuse, am just managing living in dubai. Wish u gud luk aryan
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    Feb 18, 2008 2:53 AM GMT

    Can you not understand his frustration? Look, this isn't the last time this will happen and lest you plan on dating guys with a more "open" point of view, NO GUY you see is going to want to share you. The fact you are having problems grasping that concept confirms that you may not be ready for a relationship and that is ok. So either talk with this other guy about your tendency to want other guys who aren't your boyfriend or I kid you not, this will happen again. You need to understand if he's on board with that.
    You gotta understand that there are all types of different guys out there looking for different things. If you want to pick these guys who want exclusive relationships and you have more of a need to see multiple guys...stay single and do not deceive them. Someguys out there will do worse than call you a slut in the future. I know, hitting is never right, but it sure seems right when you find your male cheating! icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 18, 2008 3:58 AM GMT
    the problem is who? I keep on picking losers. I just need a real love.
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    Feb 18, 2008 4:11 AM GMT
    you are handsome good looking young man. Am sure you find one soon, its just that some guys are fucking asshole they dont deserve us at all.
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    Feb 18, 2008 4:17 AM GMT
    GuiltyGearSomeguys out there will do worse than call you a slut in the future. I know, hitting is never right, but it sure seems right when you find your male cheating

    Actually, if no commitment has been made, its not cheating.

    Now, about the hitting thing... no, its never right... it should never happen, and there's absolutely no excuse or forgiveness for it where I'm concerned. If I'm ever in that situation again, he'd better take me out with the very first blow... I don't give second chances. icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 18, 2008 4:42 AM GMT
    When I was single and did what most other singles did, I dated 3 guys, for various reasons, but didn't tell them about each other. Each guy was different and didn't reach the bases the same as the other guys. I didn't feel like a slut, and I didn't care if someone called me a slut. You shouldn't really care. Not all gay men are created with the desire to be commited to one person. And if they are, it comes to them later like most guys. As long as you don't go full on commitment with both guys than you should be fine. You're playing the field, finding out which guy is right for you. As for the guy who called you a slut, he's probably doing this very same thing to you, if he's not just creep.