FISHY

  • myklet1

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    Feb 06, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    Talked to my husband on his way home from work Friday. Told him I was making dinner. He got home and said I brought home a sandwich for dinner. I said I just talked to you and said I was making dinner. We can save the sandwich for tomorrow. What kind did you get.....he replied, Tuna. I looked at him and said.......ARE YOU NEW? I loathe fish of any kind. I don't even want it in the house. The man I have been with all of these years, has heard this a million times. We NEVER have it, unless out to dinner he gets it. Is this what comes down to all the time and effort of a relationship? How well does your husband know you?
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    Feb 06, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    This is funny…yes we know each other; it doesn’t stop us from trying to change; or tweak it.
    Last night I made salads before dinner, something I’ve been doing this lately in order to curb the overeating of the main dish; surprisingly, it has been working…he hates salads. However, I put mandarin oranges in it last night. I should have known better. His response was: “do you know me at all”.
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    Feb 06, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
    myklet1 said...Is this what comes down to all the time and effort of a relationship? How well does your husband know you?

    Alternative explanation: he's under high stress at work, and distracted enough that he just wasn't thinking clearly. Symptoms of work stress can most definitely include memory problems (he forgets you just said you were cooking dinner, and that you hate fish). The case of the stressed-out husband who forgets their anniversary, his wife's favorite flowers, or color, or perfume, is classic.

    Why not talk with him about his work, see if he needs some support from you, if he's doing OK. Instead of anger he may need your sympathy and support, and this incident was a red flag you need to recognize. As I always say in gay relationships, it's not all about YOU, but also about HIM. At least consider the possibility. Fair enough?