Best City For Gay Singles

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    Feb 08, 2010 2:47 AM GMT
    So as I'm approaching 30, I'm thinking of some of the changes I would like to make in life to get the most out of it. I've been living in Norfolk, VA for about 6 years now (other than a year in Boston), and the gay scene (and the gay single's scene) is pretty bad here. I'm thinking of kicking off the next 30 in a new place.

    I've toyed with the idea of going back to Boston. When I was there, it was because of work, and I was always traveling, but the guys I did get a chance to meet were pretty cool. But I want to make sure I have a full picture of what's out there, before I make the decision to move. (I'm thinking perhaps sometime this summer.)

    I'm looking for a city where I can have fun, where the gays are friendly, and the dating scene is decent.

    Any suggestions? And why?
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    Feb 08, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    It's tough to recommend a city to live in. I guess it all depends on what other things you're looking for. Here in the LA area, there's West Hollywood. But that might be over the top for some guys. icon_lol.gif There are also some cities that have smaller gay neighborhoods. Long Beach is one. The guys are more chill. There's not much of a "scene", but if you want to make gay friends and/or go on dates, it's very possible.
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    Feb 08, 2010 4:51 AM GMT
    Virgina and Gay? I'd kill myself!


    Yeah, in my opinion, West Hollywood or Hillcrest are the IMAGE of the best cities for the gays and funny, both are in California.

    Just move here, it's the only place to be.
  • UIUCIllini23

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    Feb 08, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    I'll put in a good word for Chicago. Huge gay population concentrated in some very cool neighborhoods (Lakeview-Boystown, Andersonville, Uptown, Edgewater, Rogers Park), friendly people, the only major US city that's actually affordable to live in, Lake Michigan, and summers I wouldn't trade for any other place in the world.
  • Iluros

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    Feb 08, 2010 5:33 AM GMT
    Seattle, Portland and San Francisco are all good places for teh gheys. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 08, 2010 5:38 AM GMT
    Hey, whats up...

    That's a great question. I have to say I'm looking for the same thing, really. I've sort of settled on Columbus as a place in the midwest that's not as big and expensive as Chicago, but still fun and fairly current. I don't know if I'm going to be happy in the midwest forever though.

    There's an online forum I know of that helps people decide where to move ... I guess private message me if you want it because there's probably a rule saying you can't post links here. Some good people are on there, and its really helpful just reading people's posts and responses. You get a feel of the place, before you move, and get some very specific ideas about neighborhoods, jobs, rent costs, etc.

    Definitely visit at least once and maybe a few times before you move. People who visit Chicago, for instance, always wax poetic about it when they are there as tourists. But having grown up there, I can tell you that there's a lot about the city that isn't so pretty. So when you visit, look at it with a different perspective and don't just stay in the best areas of the city. Look at what you can afford, and the quality of city services, and all the things that residents have to deal with. Try to meet some friends online from there that you could meet up with and hang out with during your visit.

    That's really all I have... but good luck man. Let us know what you decide.

    John
  • calibro

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    Feb 08, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    LA, Seattle, Chicago, NYC, Austin, Boston, and San Francisco
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    Feb 08, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    Seattle, LA, San Francisco, San Diego, Austin, Chicago, NYC, Boston - most of the major metro areas. I suggest reading up on the gay scene or nightlife and the job market outlook in general of the city you want to move to and live/experience gay-life.

    I currently live in SF - so my vote goes to it - it's basically a best place to be gay in the US and the city is very European/Liberal/Accepting/Cosmopolitan in general. icon_cool.gificon_smile.gif Good Luck.
  • Latenight30

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    Feb 08, 2010 12:29 PM GMT
    Atlanta,
    we have a true gay neighborhood or you can move down near the airport if you like gay suburbs.
    It's warm and even when we do Pride in October there are shirtless guys.
    Atlanta is not the south. SOmetimes I wish they would succeed from the rest of the state.
  • jc_online

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    Feb 08, 2010 12:46 PM GMT
    I'd suggest Cleveland. Over the next 5 years, building up to the international gay games in 2014, the spotlight will be on Cleveland. The cost of living is reasonable, the guys are real and friendly, and the weather is varied enough to keep it interesting. Some of the best hiking, camping, and Great Lakes beaches - at least try a vacation here to see if you'd like it.

    Best of luck in your search!
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    Feb 08, 2010 1:00 PM GMT
    there was another forum topic about this and many RJers recommended Montreal, Qu├ębec...

    Would be an adventure to remember for sure!
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    Feb 08, 2010 1:42 PM GMT
    How about London?
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    Feb 08, 2010 1:46 PM GMT
    Austin icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 08, 2010 1:50 PM GMT
    Now lets not give VA a bad rep here! haha... The DC metropolitan area apparently has one of the largest (if not largest) gay communities in the US! believe it or not! haha
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    Feb 08, 2010 1:57 PM GMT
    London!
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    Feb 08, 2010 1:58 PM GMT
    Given that the topic is city for gay singles, I will suggest you don't move to Cincinnati.

    If you are 30 and end up in Ohio, you should land in Columbus. The Short North/Victorian Village/Italian Village/Grandview area of town is a huge and vibrant gayborhood that mixes trendy shops, art galleries, fun dining, nightlife, high end dining, lots of homes, apartments and new condos, and culture. The city can skew a little young at times due to Ohio State, but there are lots of young urban professional gay men all over Columbus. It's sort of a smaller version of Chicago.
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    Feb 08, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    I second Chicago. icon_biggrin.gif

    I'll try not to bash Seattle to much. After the living there for over 15 years, and listening to the observations of those who moved there from other cities, you might want to find a more sociable city. Unless you are extremely outgoing, you might find it hard to generate a social network for the first year or two. Seattle people are not unfriendly, just not especially outgoing and social.
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    Feb 08, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    Maxwell_Freeman saidLondon!


    Snap!
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    Feb 08, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    DC has a lot of gay singles.... doesnt every city have a lot of gay singles? haha....

    As for Chicago... its a nice city, it really is. But the winter is just vicious. You couldnt pay me to live there... unless I was really, really, really rich... lived on the magnificent mile, had a Range Rover to get around... etc.
  • KissTheSky

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    Feb 08, 2010 3:06 PM GMT
    I've been to Norfolk and if you can move away I would encourage you to do so. You'll never regret it!
    I'm surprised no one mentioned Portland, which is really great, especially if you like being outdoors and not having to drive everywhere. The people there are very liberal and focused on the environment/healthy living,
    A word about London:
    I have no doubt it's a great place to live but it's very difficult for Americans to move there, because the laws have made it so difficult to work legally.
    The one exception is getting a job with an American company that will send you to London to live, so in effect you are still working for an American company.
    Those situations are not common, obviously. icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 08, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    It's very individualistic. I was miserable with the gay life in Atlanta and am extremely happy with it in Miami Beach. However, you will hear a lot to the contrary. You'll also hear a lot about how much better the gay life is in Ft. Lauderdale over Miami Beach but I couldn't disagree more.
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    Feb 08, 2010 3:11 PM GMT
    You might want to check out Advocate's survey on the gayest cities in the U.S. It might help you and it definitely has some surprises icon_smile.gif


    http://www.advocate.com/Print_Issue/Travel/Gayest_Cities_in_America/

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    Feb 08, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    I'd say Montreal icon_razz.gif

    " .... As one of the only nations on the planet to recognize same-sex marriages, Canada is as logical a destination as any for the LGBT tourist; and with one of the largest gay neighborhoods in the world, Montreal is the icing on the cake.

    The Village--or "le Village"--is the epicenter of Montreal's gay scene. Innumerable restaurants, shops, bars, nightclubs and cafes dot the vicinity with their characteristic flair, and even the local metro stop is decked out in rainbow pizzazz. Sainte-Catherine Street is the Village's main thoroughfare and the backbone of its activity, with a diverse array of establishments along and on either side of it. Gay-friendly venues are also to be found slightly farther afield, as in the city's downtown area, for instance.

    Travelers will be delighted to learn that a variety of gay-owned-and-operated guesthouses offer affordable lodging within walking distance of the city's major attractions. Visitors may also be interested in learning that regulations in Canada are rather more liberal than our own, which may make your night at the corner strip joint a bit more exciting than expected. There are also no less than nine--count 'em nine--bathhouses filled overflowing with locals and tourists, and unlike even San Francisco, locals do not even bat an eye at the in your face street facades advertising homo sex.

    The city is also the home of the highly regarded Black & Blue Festival organized by the Bad Boy Club Montreal. " .....


    ....... just to add that for some of us that do live in Montreal and really aren't part of the stereotypical gay lifestyle or that of The Village, you still end up meeting guys just about anywhere in the city...sometimes it almost seems as though the entire male population here might be gay...or if not gay then definitely very open minded, tolerant & curious. But putting the whole gay thing on the back burner, Montreal is just an amazing city to live in and it especially becomes alive in the summer time when it's 1000 different festivals fill the summer air & the city is just buzzing with life & music...apparently we've been ranked as the #2 city for a good party icon_smile.gif

    http://media.www.mcgilltribune.com/media/storage/paper234/news/2009/11/24/News/Montreal.Ranked.Worlds.Number.Two.Party.City.After.Belgrade-3840287.shtml
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    Feb 08, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    I'd say NYC if you can put up with the people, but it is a great place to meet people, then there's Chicago, people are just much nicer! To me chicago is just a toned down NYC, but its still no match
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    Feb 08, 2010 4:12 PM GMT
    Another vote for Chicago - great city, lots of nice guys. I really miss living there.