Meeting friends at my college

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    Jan 15, 2008 2:28 AM GMT
    Well last year was my first semester at my new college, its in a farm type town, with like 10 thousand students. I live in the apartment type dorms in whihc u live with on other person and theres big seperation and its outside. So there is no halls to walk down to meet other people.

    First of all my room mate is horrible, he doesn't shower, he plays video games all day, and he keeps me up till 4 in the morning and is rude as hell.

    I obviously am trying to get placed somewhere else.

    My problem is how do I meet people? My bestfriend knows alot of people there, and I almost feel overshadowed by him whenever I'm with him on campus. His friend's come up and start talking up a storm and I'm kind of left out of the convo. I just would like to get my own friends so I didn't feel so lonely and inadequate socially.

    Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks so much. I was never a real social butterfly. I'm use to people starting conversations with me at clubs and stuff, I never really had to go out of my way to do this. So its very new to me and I could use some help.
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    Jan 15, 2008 2:30 AM GMT
    check out the local gay student life group...they always have something going on that will be fun. at my college they were focused on networking and had a safe haven for queer college students where we could go hang out whenever we wanted.
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    Jan 15, 2008 2:37 AM GMT
    Volunteer, join clubs, become a bartender (everyone's best friend), get involved! Do these or one of these things and you will make friends. You have to put yourself out there to start living....

    Jump in head first!
  • cowboyupnorth

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    Jan 16, 2008 5:28 AM GMT
    I think in small colleges and in small towns it is sometimes hard to meet people.I had to drive 60 miles to the city in order to find anyone I was interested in. The only problem is they lived too far away for a meaningful relationship. I ended up focusing on myself and my studies. Not much partying but I graduated with honors and never paid a dime for school. thats the good thing about not chasing men.

    If you really want to meet people try the student groups however I was not impressed. You may consider transfusing to a larger school in a larger city. I know that sounds extrema but college is only once so go to the best school you can afford and live in a city you like. Once your done with school you may have to live in a less desirable city because of work. Do what you can while you have freedom, JMO.

    By the way I would gladly drive an hr each way to spend time with you, so put your self out there. You will have men all over you. If not then transfer to the University Of Michigan....
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    Jan 16, 2008 5:57 AM GMT
    Good advice so far, especially from Navy96. Get involved in things on campus or in the community--things that interest you. Volunteer a bit of your time with an organization you admire and would want to work with, for instance. The more involved you are in things bigger than yourself, the wider your circle of friends will grow. It's often a matter of emptying yourself, and in return, reaping great rewards.

    Good luck. Lousy roommates suck!


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    Jan 16, 2008 6:26 AM GMT
    Yeah, I support the guys above. Dump your room-mate, hang out on your own more (away from your friend who gets all the attention), find your own activities and get out there. Tick tock! And good luck!!
  • Artesin

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    Jan 16, 2008 6:37 AM GMT
    Throw a football at someones ehad, thatlls trike up a big conversation.

    Seriously, try and meet more women. I found that when I met one girl here she eventually introduced me to a big group of people who in turn introduced me to others. Did you try joining clubs ? philosophy is always a good one and can probably help you become less withdrawn when it comes down to talking with people and initiating a conversation. You may not care about the book that someone is reading but if it hits your interests just by the title and you dont know the whole plot ask someone about it, simple things can lead to lasting friendships.
  • ATLguy

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    Nov 14, 2012 5:10 PM GMT
    Im in a similar boat, Im not out to anyone at college and we do have a gay support group which pretty large. Only problem is that they're generally not people I'd want to be around, very promiscous and they crossdress. If only there was a group of normal gay guys that didnt freely advertise sex and free condoms to get new members...
  • ATLguy

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    Nov 14, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    seomat saidIm in a similar boat, Im not out to anyone at college and we do have a gay support group which pretty large. Only problem is that they're generally not people I'd want to be around, very promiscous and they crossdress. If only there was a group of normal gay guys that didnt freely advertise sex and free condoms to get new members...

    Seriously: will you stop necromancing this dreck? You've bumped 3 threads (of the 4 you've posted in total) that are over 2yrs old. No one cares.

    Where the hell are you pulling these from anyway?? --there are way more current whiny "I'm so alone" threads than this...these are weekly occurrences. Why not start your own? icon_confused.gif

    Sorry to inconvenience you dude. im new to the site and wasnt aware that it bothered other people just to post on an old thread..
    by the way "necromancing this dreck" I have no idea what that means icon_confused.gif
    By the way nice to meet you too icon_biggrin.gif
  • MikeW

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    Nov 14, 2012 10:30 PM GMT
    seomat said
    Sorry to inconvenience you dude. im new to the site and wasnt aware that it bothered other people just to post on an old thread..
    by the way "necromancing this dreck" I have no idea what that means icon_confused.gif
    By the way nice to meet you too icon_biggrin.gif

    LoL. Don't be put off by some of our grumpyness. Welcome to the forum and don't be shy about starting your own threads. Sounds like you want to find some friends. Hang out here and for sure you'll make some.
  • ATLguy

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    Nov 14, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    seomat said
    Sorry to inconvenience you dude. im new to the site and wasnt aware that it bothered other people just to post on an old thread..
    by the way "necromancing this dreck" I have no idea what that means icon_confused.gif
    By the way nice to meet you too icon_biggrin.gif

    LoL. Don't be put off by some of our grumpyness. Welcome to the forum and don't be shy about starting your own threads. Sounds like you want to find some friends. Hang out here and for sure you'll make some.

    Thanks mike appreciate it icon_smile.gif