Relationship advice for a younger guy dating an older guy

  • phunkie

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    Feb 10, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    I recently started seeing a guy who is 13 years older than me. I met him on a dating site the first time before he was going to Spain for holidays, so after he returned we hit it off. Our common ground is interest in politics but we both are not political persons. He shows his affection a bit differently than what I was expecting through asking for whether I want to eat or drink something after every 15-20 minutes when ever I'm over at his place. It doesn't bother me, what bothers me is that I being a Muslim eat Halal food only and he eats all kinds. I asked him if it bothers him and he said no but I felt he did as he loves to cook and read.

    My question is, what should I or can I do to make the most of it while understanding his expectations?

    EDIT
    I respect him for his age and like him for who he is. After all he has lived 13 more years than me and this has everything to do with age since I don't want this to turn into another immature 20something relationship. So this post was really directed towards guys older than me to help me understand the general things expected of a younger guy in a relationship. This is not a problem-solution post, rather an open ended discussion.
  • DCEric

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    Feb 10, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    phunkie saidMy question is, what should I or can I do to make the most of it while understanding his expectations?


    Age really seems to have nothing to do with your questions. In answer, if this is the biggest challenge you have with him, then you two have absolutely hit it off. Solution? Have him cook at your house, after shopping for the ingredients with him. Ta-da.

    Eric
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    Feb 10, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    I too love to cook and feed other people. I being the older guy would know your eating habits, would work do my best to work around the situation. But as Eric said, if you are in a home and position to have him come over and cook for you in your kitchen, then give it a go.

    But then I also recall a Jewish person I used to fuck with, loved the way I cooked my bacon too.
  • DCEric

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    Feb 10, 2010 8:42 PM GMT
    Pattison saidBut then I also recall a Jewish person I used to fuck with, loved the way I cooked my bacon too.

    Jewish != Kashrut
  • phunkie

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    Feb 10, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    Age was never the issue with me to begin with. For me it is just a number after all. My friends keep telling me I'm a 50 something trapped in a 25 year old.

    I'm sharing my place with some one and it wont be possible for me to invite him over. I guess I'll shop for the stuff and take it over to his place.

    Thank you guys.
  • iHavok

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    Feb 10, 2010 8:50 PM GMT
    Cooking with my man is something I really enjoy.
    Have you explained your diet to him? It might be something you can teach him which, if he's as into you as you are him, he's enjoy learning.
    Who knows, might even end up converting him...
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    Feb 10, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    I think you should be carefull and make sure he really loves you and that you are not his fetish.
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    Feb 10, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    DCEric said
    phunkie saidMy question is, what should I or can I do to make the most of it while understanding his expectations?


    Age really seems to have nothing to do with your questions.


    What I was thinking.. What does age have to do with any of what you said? Those same issues seem just as likely to occur with someone your own age. Don't blame it on the age difference. If he likes you he will start cooking Halal food for you. My bf is 17 years older than me and cooks me vegetarian food even though he eats meat... It's no biggie.

    And btw, 13 years older than you is not "old." "Relationship advice for a young guy dating an old guy" .. really? lol.

    edit: alright you fixed the title. thank you. ^_^
  • Anto

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    Feb 10, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    francisbailey saidI think you should be carefull and make sure he really loves you and that you are not his fetish.


    Couldn't you same the same thing about phunkie?
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:06 PM GMT
    BronzeChew saidWhat I was thinking.. What does age have to do with any of what you said? Those same issues seem just as likely to occur with someone your own age. Don't blame it on the age difference. If he likes you he will start cooking Halal food for you. My bf is 17 years older than me and cooks me vegetarian food even though he eats meat... It's no biggie.

    And btw, 13 years older than you is not "old." "Relationship advice for a young guy dating an old guy" .. really? lol.

    *what he said*
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:14 PM GMT
    Yea, it doesn't sound like an age thing at all. I don't think you need to be asking what the general expectations are for the younger guy in a relationship. Regardless of the age (since we're NOT talking about a big age difference at all), treat each other equally. If you have specific eating requirements, tell him. Or better yet, show him. He likes to cook, and this is a great opportunity for him to learn a new type of cuisine. Cook him something, even if it's at his place, and bring along a cookbook you can leave there. icon_smile.gif