Acts of love and showing you that they care!!

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    Feb 10, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    I was just sitting here thinking about Valentines Day coming up, and realized that I've never really been shown by someone that I mean something special to them (like a significant other, my momma loves me icon_biggrin.gif ) .. but I know that it will come in time...

    So I was wondering what stories you all have about someone showing you that you are truly something special or if you have an ideal way that you would like to be shown...

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  • stevendust

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    Feb 10, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    I've never celebrated Valentine's Day but it would really just be perfect to have a great date and take zachdust out to a beach for the sunset so he can see one here in California before we move because I know he really wanted to see one. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2010 9:15 PM GMT
    aw stevendust... sounds pretty much perfect
  • myklet1

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    Feb 10, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    I hope you do experience what you want. I have bought someone a chocolate something for the last 13 years on Valentines Day. I have always wondered what that must feel like for someone to care that much instead of just assuming that I know how much he cares.
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    Feb 10, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    for christmas my boyfriend couldnt see his family for the first time ever, but he flew to see just his brother.. he had wanted a christmas tree, but were both pretty poor

    so while he was gone i did some serious shopping, and picked up a 6 foot christmas tree

    i broke in and set it up with lots of presents underneath, fully decorated and lit

    i just made sure he was the first one in the door when i got him from the airport.

    sometimes i leave him cards if i have to be around when hes not home and or flowers
    i draw pictures
    email songs
    do stuff that he know i doesnt like

    dont ask for anything in return


    shitty though, were having a real rough patch right now... makes me wonder if its really worth it, cause i know i dont fuck up that much.. and the stuff i do cause i love him, would probably be enjoyed a lot more by someone else
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Feb 10, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    a guy taking me to a romantic movie would be awesome....ive never celebrated valentines day
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    Feb 10, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    Progress

    That is perhaps the most romantic thing I've heard icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
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    I agree, that is truly incredible... I hope he realizes what he would be missing out on if he lost you
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    I think Valentines Day is a coercive, commercially contrived, pit of a holiday that can totally undermine any real intimacy that exists between two individuals by creating unrealistic expectations of forced adoration and is a total boondoggle for singles who are lead down a disingenuous primrose path to coupledom.

    ...that said, I never really have a bad one. icon_redface.gif

    Last year I was made dinner complete with rose petals on the table, champagne and chocolate covered strawberries and sex on the roof under the stars.

    Year before last I got two dozen roses at work and we flew to dinner in LA for the night.

    Year before that my then boyfriend took me to a small artist town north of Cabo in Mexico for a week.

    I was just asked to be someone's Valentine and asked to go away for the weekend to wine country in Northern California and stay at his cabin in the mountains.

    The most wonderful act of sweetness... he invited my two dogs as well.

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    Feb 10, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Progress said...shitty though, were having a real rough patch right now... makes me wonder if its really worth it, cause i know i dont fuck up that much.. and the stuff i do cause i love him, would probably be enjoyed a lot more by someone else

    Don't give up... there is always rough spots.
    If you love each other and it doesn't work out don't let it be because you didn't try everything you could to make it work. Nothing worse than "what if"...
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    Progress said...shitty though, were having a real rough patch right now... makes me wonder if its really worth it, cause i know i dont fuck up that much.. and the stuff i do cause i love him, would probably be enjoyed a lot more by someone else

    Don't give up... there is always rough spots.
    If you love each other and it doesn't work out don't let it be because you didn't try everything you could to make it work. Nothing worse than "what if"...



    yeah.. well he broke up with me the other night, and then changed his mind, so were working it out or something, but its not the same.. i dont know if it's love anymore.
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    Bf and I treat every day like it's Valentine's Day.....
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    Progress saidyeah.. well he broke up with me the other night, and then changed his mind, so were working it out or something, but its not the same.. i dont know if it's love anymore.

    That he's conflicted shows a depth of feeling, I'd like to believe it's love. In my experience breakups usually happen because someone is hurt... maybe he's not but I think he must love you very much or he wouldn't be so hurt.
    The way you love each other has to be enough even when it isn't how each of you would have it be. I frequently beat dead horses so consider the source, whatever happens I wish you well.
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    d4orce saidBf and I treat every day like it's Valentine's Day.....


    thats awesome! I thnk thats the way it should be
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    Gilly said
    d4orce saidBf and I treat every day like it's Valentine's Day.....


    thats awesome! I thnk thats the way it should be

    *ditto*
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    Feb 10, 2010 10:50 PM GMT
    Every day I make sure I tell my special guy just how important he is in my life, and how much he means to me. I send him emails, texts and sometimes leave messages where I sing to him. He is truly a blessing to me each day, a treasure that has changed my life in so many wonderful ways. I can't imagine my life with out him now. He is the music to my lyrics and the inspiration to sing them. I love him very much! icon_smile.gif
  • Rookz

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    Feb 10, 2010 10:58 PM GMT
    This Valentine's Day, I'm going to show my man how much I care for him.

    Give him a credit car and tell him to have a nice day.

    NO!

    I'm going to cook him dinner consisting of the dishes he loves, then give him a massage (sans the elbow, he hates it when I use the elbow) and put on some Barry Manilow and get it on.
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    Feb 11, 2010 12:07 AM GMT
    withHonor saidThis Valentine's Day, I'm going to show my man how much I care for him.

    Give him a credit car and tell him to have a nice day.

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    yeah I'm pretty sure you would regret that lol
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    Feb 11, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    I love you, Gilly.
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    Feb 11, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    i wish some guy would come out of no where and take me to a romantic movie and end up kissin and shit. that'd be hot icon_confused.gif






    ...craiglist? icon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif
  • darryaz

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    Feb 11, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Occasionally I'll wake up in the morning to find a sweet hand-written love letter waiting for me. The fact that he took time to hand-write a letter means a lot to me. I almost always email or type letters on the computer.
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    Feb 11, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    One time I chose to partake of the Valentine's Day madness (which I pretty much never do, occasion-wise). I let myself into my bf's (at the time) apartment and left a card on the coffee table. I placed some flowers on the mantle and chocolates on the dining table and in the bedroom. I even cooked an over the top dinner for the two of us, and had everything waiting for him to come home.

    It was a nice night, but none of it was really received the way in which I had hoped. I'm rarely as consistently romantic as I would like to be, but when I am, I usually go whole hog. So, I likely had my hopes up a little too high. I'm guilty of that quite a bit as well.

    I think I would die if I had walked into something like that, where someone I cared about had taken the time and thought to make and do something special. We all want a little bit of that, I would imagine.

    But being single now and no prospects for this year, means I have justification for a private evening with some good beer and chocolate!



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    Feb 11, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    Vday is a bunch of commercialism and creates way too much waste for me to get into wanting or buying much (same for most holidays in this world).

    However, doting is a relationship expectation. If one is not made to feel special the relationship falls flat and fizzles out.

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    Having worked that out, I offer my idea of a stand out day. Waking up to, or making, breakfast in bed. Something along the lines of french toast, steak, oatmeal, bacon and oj. Followed by laying around and cuddling for about an hour.

    Next stop would be a nice hot shower and doing something. Whether it be work, shopping, groceries... Make sure lunch is a date as well. (Hopefully homemade.)

    The evening would include a small, practical gift if it hadn't be exchanged at breakfast. A single rose and smile along with good dinner conversation would make a perfect day's end. The meal would of course require wine and be followed by a sunset hike.

    Wrap the day back in bed discussing whatever happens to pop up. icon_twisted.gif
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    All of the above is just a dream. Reality is, I plan on volunteering and showing others some much needed love.
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    Feb 11, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    I'm dating someone for the first time in .....um.....6 years? He's in DC and we've seen each other quite a bit despite the distance. He was here the end of January and after a great visit I decided I would buy a ticket to see him in DC so we could spend the 14th together. I don't give a damn about the day but why not try and visit him then. Originally I was to leave today but when I learned that they were getting hit with a second blizzard in less than a week I changed my flight to Tuesday to try and get ahead of the storm. I was really looking forward to helping him dig his car out. My first visit with him in DC was spent house bound during the December blizzard that hit the city. I had driven up from NC then (I'm in Fl now).I made sure then I would beat the storm and we spent a cozy tender weekend together watching the snow fall and digging out cars the next day. As I'm ready to head out the door on Tuesday my phone rings and the Airlines tell me my flight was canceled. They have yet another storm coming next Monday, the day I was planning on returning. I guess I won't be spending V day with my new V.
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    Feb 11, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    ChilaxinJOCK09 saida guy taking me to a romantic movie would be awesome....ive never celebrated valentines day


    May I take you out to a movie??