My ass hurt for being a bottom and now what should I do?

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    Feb 12, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    I met this guy and we were suppose to hang out but ended up having sex. I decided to be the bottom since I been watching porn couple weeks ago. I have notice a lot guys being a bottom were getting a lot of pleasure out of it. Anyways, I ended up being a bottom and I don't like it but now my ass is sore/hurting and wondering what I should do?
  • lovemymen

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    Feb 12, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    Top?
    And wait for it to stop hurting.
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    It's likely that you and he went too quickly or roughly. Or that you couldn't relax enough while you were doing it. Here's a book that you might want to read if you're interested in anal being part of your sex life.

    Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men

    http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Men/dp/157344121X
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    Feb 14, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
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    Feb 14, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidwell heavens theres books now icon_biggrin.gif


    I assumed you'd written it under a pen name. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
    Christian73 said
    lilTanker saidwell heavens theres books now icon_biggrin.gif


    I assumed you'd written it under a pen name. icon_wink.gif

    now I made a couple of instructional videos and audio how to's
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    Feb 14, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Christian73 said
    lilTanker saidwell heavens theres books now icon_biggrin.gif


    I assumed you'd written it under a pen name. icon_wink.gif

    now I made a couple of instructional videos and audio how to's


    Send 'em to me. Or could you do an in-home demo? icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 9:32 PM GMT
    lovemymen saidTop?
    And wait for it to stop hurting.

    Yeah, time will take care of it. If you see blood on the toilet paper or in your stools after a day, however, a visit to your doctor would be wise.

    Next time use lots of quality lube suitable for condoms (nothing petroleum based). Admit to him you're a novice who needs of lot of lube, and he should know to insert some into you with his finger, which can also help loosen you up first, plus he'll cover his condom with lube, and re-lube himself during sex.

    But it's also normal for the first few times to leave you sore and feeling like a dick's still up there. Practice makes perfect! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    Christian73 said
    lilTanker said
    Christian73 said
    lilTanker saidwell heavens theres books now icon_biggrin.gif


    I assumed you'd written it under a pen name. icon_wink.gif

    now I made a couple of instructional videos and audio how to's


    Send 'em to me. Or could you do an in-home demo? icon_razz.gif

    always up for a demo!
  • cobra2814

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    Feb 21, 2010 6:25 AM GMT
    Practice makes perfect. Ask me how I know! lol icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 25, 2010 6:16 PM GMT
    You need more practice sweetie--it will go away--just do it more--trust me.....I KNOW--and now it just feels great all the time.
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    Jul 17, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    Does it really stops hurting over time tho?

    Tried to bottom today with my bf, couldn't do it icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 17, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    Be a top... the only time it hurt with me is when the guy wanted it to hurt... I talked some big game and he hurt me for it haha....... but even then it felt good lol

    Seems to me you want to be a top, that's cool, do that
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    Jul 17, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    TheRece25 saidBe a top... the only time it hurt with me is when the guy wanted it to hurt... I talked some big game and he hurt me for it haha....... but even then it felt good lol

    Seems to me you want to be a top, that's cool, do that


    Thing is that we're both top and I already topped him so we agree on both making a "sacrifice" and that it's only fair.

    Although I really wanted to do it, I just couldn't icon_sad.gif. He was REALLY nice about it tho.
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    Jul 17, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    Marsu saidDoes it really stops hurting over time tho?

    Tried to bottom today with my bf, couldn't do it icon_redface.gif


    If there were video material, we could help pinpoint what went wrong!

    Just sayin'...

    But yeah, it does go away for most people. Practice by yourself with small toys before going for the manly flesh pillar though (especially if you're not inclined to bottom and/or your bf is hung).
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    Jul 17, 2013 9:04 PM GMT

    Well, it's been three years, so I imagine he feels better by now.
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    Marsu saidDoes it really stops hurting over time tho?

    Tried to bottom today with my bf, couldn't do it icon_redface.gif


    Start with a very small dildo and work your way up. After a while, nothing you put in there will hurt anymore.

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    Sep 30, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    In a way it feels like having diarrhoea. But you want it in. Like when you do a dump and before it come out and that feeling magnified more than a thousand times. You want your ass to expand but you can squeeze it too. Mixture of them. Control your muscles.
  • rnch

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    Sep 30, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    1. Find a more skilled, empathetic top.

    and/or:

    2. A quick snort from a fresh bottle of poppers, about 10 to 15 seconds before he slides in, will help you to open up and minimize any initial entry pain.





    P.S. Flame away, all you self righteous biotches!
  • rnch

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    Sep 30, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Christian73 said
    lilTanker saidwell heavens theres books now icon_biggrin.gif


    I assumed you'd written it under a pen name. icon_wink.gif

    now I made a couple of instructional videos and audio how to's





    link, pls




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  • rnch

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    Sep 30, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Well, it's been three years, so I imagine he feels better by now.









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  • WApilot

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    Oct 01, 2013 4:12 AM GMT
    Really_seriously_WHAT.gifWhat you should do is stop watching porn and thinking that porn is a replication of reality.

    Bottoming isn't for everyone. Bottoming can be fun though, if you take it easy and figure out for yourself, what you like and don't like. Do you like it fast and hard? Do you like it slow and shallow? Do you like it doggy style... missionary style... cowboy style???

    Are you using the right lubrication? Are you communicating with your significant other/trick? These are all important questions you need to figure out yourself in order to gauge what you like and/or don't like.