Mother sues school board over bullied son

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    Feb 12, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    http://www.globecampus.ca/blogs/family-view/2010/02/11/mom-bullied-child-sues-school-board/

    The child suffered fat lips, bruises and stab wounds from pencils, all occurring since September 2008. He now wants to be home schooled and the mother had enough.


    If all the measures taken amounted to nothing, will suing result in the school board reviewing its policy?

    Does bullying matter in childhood? Is it taken too much perhaps, as a rite of passage growing up? How much is acceptable?

    What would you do if you were this mother?
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    Feb 12, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    That's not bullying, that's assault.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Feb 12, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Bullying is wrong.
    Assault is a crime.
    I'm hungry. I'm thinking pizza.
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    Feb 12, 2010 6:14 PM GMT
    bullying is mostly mental

    this kid is being assulted, i think the school and the kids that are doing it need to be penalized
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    Feb 12, 2010 6:37 PM GMT
    This is despicable.

    Bullying should never be considered a "rite of passage," whether it is physical or verbal; children should be able to attend school feeling safe and secure. They shouldn't be worried about having a pencil jammed into their arm, or getting punched in the mouth, or being constantly harassed or teased.

    What concerns me most is the lack of response from the school! Did anyone at the institution even try to address this problem? The article does not explicitly state this one way or another, but I can't imagine any staff have put forward much effort to stop it.

    If I were this mother, I would be doing exactly what she is doing; raising hell and awareness at the same time.

  • irishkcguy

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    Feb 12, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    Often the kids being constantly bullied and harassed at school are the ones who will eventually bring guns to school. And then, of course, we vilify the shoots when their lives at school were a living hell. I believe a lot of the school shootings we've seen over the years could have been prevented if school officials were more on point with dealing with these issues of bullying and harassment.

    And I think the mom is dead on right in this case. The schools I used to work in were terrified of being sued.
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    Feb 12, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    No, it should not be seen as a rite of passage. Too often, people who are bullied end up internalizing it and have problems with trust, self-worth and other problems that last well into their adult lives, and only are helped through therapy. It too often later affects their job performance, personal relationships, relationships with alcohol, and their physical health. Just imagine all the time and money (from therapy visits!) they could have saved if they had been treated with respect and dignity when they were growing up. It's a shame.

    Child bullies are one thing, but I still have little respect for the bullies in my high school growing up, even though they rarely targeted me. You should know better when you're a teenager, and I wonder how many of them feel shame and regret into their adult lives. They should be ashamed of themselves, and I do think back and hope those who were ruthlessly bullied have come to terms with it and lead the healthy, productive lives that they deserve just for being alive.

    This is one reason why I decided not to teach in high schools. I'd def be throwing some punk against a locker if I saw him/her bullying someone.
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    Feb 12, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    The article is disappointing, but what makes it more disappointing is the comments posted to the article. Things like "grow a spine," and get "thicker skin" is sad indeed. No kid should have to go to school every day worrying what is going to happen to him next-instead of worrying about tests.
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    Feb 12, 2010 7:33 PM GMT
    Having been through this, I take it as no joke.
    Bullying DOES matter, and while hazing may be a rite of passage, under no circumstances should a kid be tormented to this degree.
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    Feb 12, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    Education is a civil right. Now it sounds like this is a Catholic school, and I'm not sure what authority the Ontario/Canadian gov't has over religious education. But make no mistake about it, a kid who is routinely bullied and fearful for his safety has suffered a violation of his civil rights. The state must take action against it because it is obligated to educate its citizens.
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    Feb 12, 2010 7:40 PM GMT
    makavelli said

    The child suffered fat lips, bruises and stab wounds from pencils, all occurring since September 2008. He now wants to be home schooled and the mother had enough.



    Oh please. That sounded like a normal day in junior high for me, and look at me now, I turned out just fine.....................
  • kinetic

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    Feb 12, 2010 7:46 PM GMT
    The school board should mos def be held responsible if they have not taken measures to put a permanent stop to it.
    I had a friend kill himself when I was in HS because of shit like this and if it weren't partly the homophobic family's fault, I'm sure my school system would have been sued.
  • GQjock

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    Feb 12, 2010 7:59 PM GMT
    When there is Physical harm
    The school becomes negligent in its duty to teach and protect the children

    The only way these institutions will correct their homophobic behavior is thru their pocketbooks

    Can You Imagine .... what would happen if a group of white children assaulted a black student in the same way

    Or a group of boys assaulted a girl because she was a girl????

    They would be falling all over them selves finding out who did it and holding seminars on gender and race bias
    because the kid was viewed as homosexual ..... even he wasn't
    The school was able to turn their back on him
    and if he wound up dead or permanently injured then it would be .... Oh WE never Knew anything about this icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 12, 2010 7:59 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    makavelli said

    The child suffered fat lips, bruises and stab wounds from pencils, all occurring since September 2008. He now wants to be home schooled and the mother had enough.



    Oh please. That sounded like a normal day in junior high for me, and look at me now, I turned out just fine.....................


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  • Stephan

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    Feb 12, 2010 8:17 PM GMT
    as an educator, the school should have done something to prevent this. Whether or not it is physical or mental abuse, it is still abuse on all levels. The first rule taught to an educator is "to secure a safe and healthy enviroment for the students". The mother has every right to sue if her child is not getting the level of help needed to assure safety in all levels. I don't blame her and feel ashame that the school has not done a better job to protect its students. This gaves a bad message to all students and parents of safety in schools!
  • jingold04

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    Feb 12, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    Isn't bullying one (of many) of the reasons sited for the events at Colombine? I was bullied VERY badly in jr. high. I ended up in a lot of fights in which I recieved the shit-end of the stick when it came to punishment. Our principal always told me "these things wouldn't happen if you didn't act the way you do." As if I was a distraction and therefore was the problem and got the harsher punishments for defending myself. Stupid redneck! I'm glad I'm not still bitter ;-)! I still,to this day,have a problem with authority figures. I believe it's because of the treatment of me by that principal in those formative years. Or maybe I just don't like being anyone's bitch!
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    Feb 13, 2010 5:05 AM GMT
    I think the central problem is how un-standardized anti-bullying is.

    Is it about reconciliation? Do you sit the kids down and have them figure out why they act the way they do? Is this worthwhile, is it lasting?

    Do you have guest speakers? Can you standardize a system proven to work?

    How exactly do you change one's attitude towards another human being?





    Personally, if you can't change attitude, you can force consequences so severe that any actions taken against a would be victim would become unthinkable.