An Update About My Partner, And A Thank You

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    Feb 12, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    My partner had a doctor appointment today, as he does every 2 or 3 weeks, following his medical emergency back in late October. And so many of you were incredibly supportive of us as I posted his saga while it unfolded, that I would be remiss if I didn’t bring you up to date. He’s doing wonderfully. No, spectacularly.

    His doctors call him a “miracle patient” in that he didn’t lose his leg or foot, despite gangrene from an arterial blockage. We’ve both heard doctors tell us that they never saw someone in their careers with such advanced gangrene who avoided amputation, but he did.

    And I sit by his side as they examine him, and watch them shake their heads, amazed by his progress, and at his age, too. He’s still got problems, though, as the nerves in his right foot were damaged from the 5 days he had no blood circulation in that leg, perhaps a permanent condition, we don’t know; only time will tell.

    Last week he told me he thought he felt some vague discomfort in his foot, and when I checked, he was walking around with a thumb tack stuck in his sole! So I forbade him to walk anymore in socks, always with sandals or shoes in the house from now on.

    This weekend we may try to see if he can drive his car, doing some test rides in a vacant parking lot. With limited sensation in his right foot his control of the accelerator and brake pedals are iffy, but I’ll have my hand on the parking brake at the center console, and ready to turn the ignition key off if things get really out of hand.

    If driving’s a no-go I’ll continue to chauffeur him, though he hates the loss of his independence, as I would myself. And I’m really not supposed to be driving either with my epilepsy, but there’s not a lot of choice right now, Plus he hates his cane, which he’s never had before, the 2 of us looking like comical twins, hobbling wherever we go. I hope to wean him off it, if enough sensation returns to his foot that he feels steady.

    So that’s where he is, doing better than expected, his spirits really good. And again, I cannot express enough the wonderful support we’ve both had from you guys on this site. Even as I sometimes criticize the gay community online, keep in mind that I also know its remarkable strengths, and that given the choice, I’d rather be with my gay brothers than with anyone else on Earth.

    On behalf of my partner and myself, thanks for all your wonderful support over these last months! Bob
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    Feb 12, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    Thanks for the update. Your is a real Valentine's Day story, real love, not just a date and red roses.
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    Feb 12, 2010 11:38 PM GMT
    I'm really happy for you! Congrats icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 12, 2010 11:40 PM GMT
    Best wishes Bob, glad to hear all is better. Have a great weekend!

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    Feb 12, 2010 11:47 PM GMT

    Thank you for the update. It's wonderful to hear that things have worked out so well on the medical front and it's touching to hear of how the two of you are navigating through this and supporting each other. Godspeed.
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    Feb 13, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    Thank you for the update and I'm very happy things are looking good for the both of you. Many happy wishes for you!
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    Feb 13, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    That's good news to hear, Bob. Let's hope it continues for you both!
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    Feb 13, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    You're so caring. In that regard, I only have admiration for you.
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    Feb 13, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    Awww, Bob. That's great news..but you know he has a great partner that saw him through it all. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 13, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    That's great news, Bob, thanks for sharing. Your committment to and support of your partner make for, in my opinion, quite a romantic Valentine's Day story. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 13, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    congrats
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    Feb 13, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    Good news, good news!

    It's always nice to hear about the best case snenario being the reality.
  • Kingtiger

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    Feb 13, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    New to the forum, but an amazing thing to read nonetheless!
  • Crucializer

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    Feb 13, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    Thanks so much for sharing!! So good to hear! Continued health to both of you!! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • camfer

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    Feb 13, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    While I do hope your partner regains full control of his foot, for $400 on up you can get hand controls to install on your car so he can drive without using his feet at all.

    Great news on his amazing recovery!
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    Feb 13, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    Great news !!! So glad to hear your partner is doing so well !!!

    My best to you both. That's a terrific Valentine's Day story!
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    Feb 13, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    Although, I don't write a lot on real jock walls. I did read your posts and it's great to hear he's doing so well.
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    Feb 13, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    I am really glad to hear about the recovery, Vespa. Long may the two of you continue to share the good and not so good.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    I wasn't around to hear the first part of this but I'm glad it's going so well.

    Didn't get gangrene after no circulation? Wow, some leg.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    What a great thing to read! Thank you for posting this.
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    Feb 13, 2010 11:59 AM GMT
    Bob:

    Wow. I'm sorry I've been so out of the loop while this was all going on. I'm certainly glad to hear you guys are doing so much better.

    Doug and I had planned to do our little journey back to South Florida in March but I'm not sure that time will allow me to go with him this trip so he will probably be there by himself this time.

    I hope that you both will continue to improve health wise with each passing day.

    Anthony
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    Feb 13, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    Yes…yes, great news.
    The health care staff calling it a miracle is not surprising; however, I have always believed that these types of things happen often when there is loving support and will to achieve, so I credit you for his recovery.
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    Feb 13, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    Thanks for the update... I am so glad that he is on the road to recovery and that you are in a better frame of mind too.
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    Feb 13, 2010 5:13 PM GMT
    Thanks for the update. May you both continue to have fantastic days together.
  • myklet1

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    Feb 13, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    GOD BLESSED