Apples, Oranges and Oral Sex....

  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 13, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
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    Different men think differently about sex; this is a given. I'm not just talking about the emotional pleasure vs physical pleasure realm.

    How exactly does someone define sex in the first place? Is anal sex considered sex? Is just entering considered sex. Are two thrusts sex? Are 10? Most gay men would think so. Can you have sex with dildos? Is oral sex to orgasm sex? How about oral sex without orgasm?

    I really wish I could sum this up brilliantly, and give a resounding answer, but I can't. I just have to leave these questions open. Please feel free to add your opinions. 115.gif

  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 13, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    I define sex as anything sexually intimate that you do while naked with another person. Hand jobs are sex, sex with toys is sex, putting your mouth in another guy's nether-regions is sex. I define sex by the presence of another person, not by what you're doing. Reducing sex to the single act of penetration is oversimplifying, because there are sexual acts that can be just as satisfying as penetrative intercourse but that some people don't consider "sex," which is silly. But everyone has their own opinion on this, and I think I'm in the minority. icon_confused.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 13, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    Bunjamon said I think I'm in the minority. icon_confused.gif


    I think you're just fine....105.gif
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    Feb 13, 2010 8:15 AM GMT
    My definition of sex would be any act committed with the intent to stimulate for the purposes of pleasure by one on/to them selves or another. So this effectively covers everything in my book.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Feb 13, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    I think it counts as sex when one or both of the participates cum after penetration. (and/or during.)

    But that's just my opinion about it.
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    Feb 13, 2010 1:14 PM GMT
    Is sex as difficult to define as pornography? So that the answer would be "I know it, when I have it"?

    SoCalNerdMy definition of sex would be any act committed with the intent to stimulate for the purposes of pleasure by one on/to them selves or another. So this effectively covers everything in my book.


    This really covers everything, but I would like to add this to his definition: "...any act committed to the body with the intent...." Mindfucks do not qualify in my book.
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    Feb 13, 2010 8:33 PM GMT
    bernd saidIs sex as difficult to define as pornography? So that the answer would be "I know it, when I have it"?

    SoCalNerdMy definition of sex would be any act committed with the intent to stimulate for the purposes of pleasure by one on/to them selves or another. So this effectively covers everything in my book.


    This really covers everything, but I would like to add this to his definition: "...any act committed to the body with the intent...." Mindfucks do not qualify in my book.


    Haha yeah your right!
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    Feb 13, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    For me, if there is penetration involved, it's sex
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    Feb 13, 2010 8:49 PM GMT
    I wouldn't consider a hand job "sex", but the rest applies. Insertion through any port.
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    Feb 13, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    I don't get why people have a threshold. Kissing is a sort of sex. Triple penetration is a sort of sex.

    I think people invent these thresholds so they know when to feel guilty about last night's heavy snog fest.
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    Feb 13, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    I think it's any activity that's done to satisfy sexual urges. If somebody really gets off on, say, having his toes sucked, then he is having sex when he's getting his toes sucked. Just to use one example...

  • drypin

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    Feb 13, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    Well, it's not sex if it's making love.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 13, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    I don't think I could get my mouth around an apple or an orange.
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    Feb 13, 2010 10:47 PM GMT
    If you cum, then it's sex! If you don't, get your money backicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    drypin saidWell, it's not sex if it's making love.


    I totally disagree drypin. Lovemaking is the ultimate form of sex that you only share with that ONE special person in your life. But thats just my oppinion. And oppinions are like a**holes, everyone has one.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:02 AM GMT
    Bunjamon saidI define sex as anything sexually intimate that you do while naked with another person. Hand jobs are sex, sex with toys is sex, putting your mouth in another guy's nether-regions is sex. I define sex by the presence of another person, not by what you're doing. Reducing sex to the single act of penetration is oversimplifying, because there are sexual acts that can be just as satisfying as penetrative intercourse but that some people don't consider "sex," which is silly. But everyone has their own opinion on this, and I think I'm in the minority. icon_confused.gif


    I couldn't have said it better myself. Too often guys will use a host of qualifiers when it comes to defining sex. I tend to avoid guys that only define sex as penetrative. The entire concept reeks of dishonesty to me. By radically narrowing their definition of what it is to have sex in their eyes, they manufacture their own definition of plausible deniability when they're moving around behind your back.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    I've always thought having sex was doing something that could potentially lead to an orgasm. Therefore, masturbation by yourself or with others is having sex. So is frottage, and oral, and titty fucking for straight men, and of course penile penetration of a body orifice.

    Most else is foreplay in my view, the preliminary to an orgasm. That would include kissing, touching & rubbing short of masturbation, possibly docking between 2 guys, etc.
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 14, 2010 1:19 AM GMT
    I thought that Clinton proved that simply "receiving" oral sex....was not really having sex. icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:37 AM GMT
    I follow the Red Cross definition of sex which is any combination of oral/genital/anal contact. I would not consider a hand job sex.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    madtown saidI follow the Red Cross definition of sex which is any combination of oral/genital/anal contact. I would not consider a hand job sex.

    Really? Even from another guy's hand? What about the frottage my ex-BF did on my back lying on top of me in bed, when he shot all over me? Not sex, either?
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Feb 14, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    A wise person once told me "If you can get an STD from it, it's sex"

    how 'bout them applesicon_cool.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
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    madtown saidI follow the Red Cross definition of sex which is any combination of oral/genital/anal contact. I would not consider a hand job sex.

    Really? Even from another guy's hand? What about the frottage my ex-BF did on my back lying on top of me in bed, when he shot all over me? Not sex, either?

    Really. Yep, even from another person's hand. Sounds hot, but to me it's not sex any more than heavy petting (which I think all good girls know is about all you can get away with prior to marriage because its not sex)
  • Anto

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    Feb 14, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Sex is any act done for the purpose of sexual arousal and/or gratification. It doesn't have to involve another person, it includes with/using inanimate objects, hand jobs, kissing, etc.

    This is how it was taught to me in college in human sexuality by the way so I don't view it as personal opinion.
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidA wise person once told me "If you can get an STD from it, it's sex"

    how 'bout them applesicon_cool.gif


    LOL thats pretty concise haha
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    SoCalNerd said
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidA wise person once told me "If you can get an STD from it, it's sex"

    how 'bout them applesicon_cool.gif


    LOL thats pretty concise haha


    haha yeah I was blown away when he said that I was like WOW lol