Which RJ member would you want as your MENTOR? Would you be willing to be someone's MENTOR?

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    Feb 13, 2010 7:07 AM GMT
    He could be your "workout mentor", your "politics mentor", "financial mentor", "legal mentor", your "nutrition mentor", "life mentor", "parenting mentor" or "whatever mentor"....and it doesn't need to be only one guy ,or only one topic......I know there are some Fantastically talented, even GIFTED guys on this site.
    MENTORS...Would you be interested in having "students"?
    "Students", would you want to have a "MENTOR"? icon_cool.gif

    I am willing to be both a Mentor and a student.

    Obviously the list could be endless...but for my first choice:
    I would want CHUCKYSTUD as both my Workout and Nutrition MENTOR.....
    I will add others as I think about it.......icon_cool.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 13, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    This is a very difficult question to answer because there are a lot of guys on here that would make good mentors. There are a few guys that would make poor mentors and they know who they are because I refuse to mention names. Lets keep this topic positive and upbeat.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    I nominate Jprichva and Tapper (Reppat) to be my curmugeon-ity and sexiness mentors. I thank you.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 13, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    Definitely wouldn't mind Chuckystud as my workout mentor. His knowledge on such things always impresses me. I just hope he would take it easy on me. I just want to stay trim and fit, not become Hercules.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    I'd be happy to mentor.
    And I already have quite a few on here.... more than I can list, in fact.
    You know who you are, and I thank you for everything.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:45 PM GMT
    Something tells me Meninlove will be a popular choice here


    I don't know if I'd make a good mentor. I still feel like an outsider often in gay land, so I feel like I'm trying to find my way a lot.
  • BizzQuik

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    Feb 13, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    I already have a mentor from here. They are no longer on the site but I talk with them all the time and they are the ones who helped me come to terms with being gay and helped me to come out. There are a lot of great guys here to mentor you if you ever need it.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    I would love to have iguanasf, SurrealLife, ObsceneWish, and UrsaMajor as mentors - to just be around them in the hopes that I could absorb some of their wit and knowledge.

    I already kind of have a fitness mentor on RJ - Billy (aka sf_athlete). Even though I only see him a couple times a year, he has a strong influence on my workouts and my eating habits (darn him and his whole no processed foods kick. I hope that's a phase that passes by the next time I see him)
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    Bizz said I already have a mentor from here. They are no longer on the site but I talk with them all the time and they are the ones who helped me come to terms with being gay and helped me to come out. There are a lot of great guys here to mentor you if you ever need it.


    I have a guy like that too, only he helped me be better at the sport I do for a gay team in DC. He lives in Connecticut. He's not on the site either anymore.
  • jrs1

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    Feb 13, 2010 6:55 PM GMT

    This is a beautiful thread topic.
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    Feb 13, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    We have a soft spot when it comes to anyone with chill-of-soul or ache-of-heart. We also feel with a lot of you young guys that you're the kids we never had all growed up now.

    -us two

    Both of us find mentoring works both ways. Those that we assist in any way often assist us. I think a lot of times they don't realize they're doing it, so here and now we'll say THANK YOU!

    -Doug

    Everyone on our buddy-list has helped us and/or taught us something; they're gifts, and these gifts are priceless, because they can't be lost, ever. (Well, unless we get Alzheimer's, lol!)

    -Bill


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    Feb 14, 2010 2:22 AM GMT
    meninlove said We have a soft spot when it comes to anyone with chill-of-soul or ache-of-heart. We also feel with a lot of you young guys that you're the kids we never had all growed up now.

    -us two

    Both of us find mentoring works both ways. Those that we assist in any way often assist us. I think a lot of times they don't realize their doing it, so here and now we'll say THANK YOU!

    -Doug

    Everyone on our buddy-list has helped us and/or taught us something; they're gifts, and these gifts are priceless, because they can't be lost, ever. (Well, unless we get Alzheimer's, lol!)

    -Bill




    ...I always knew that you guys were very in touch with the "good side of the force"....and always hope that you can be like the "Golden Child" to spread the wealth amongst the virtual set here on RJ.... as master Yoda always said...."The force is strong with this one, but there is another....."....Thanks..icon_cool.gif
  • RSportsguy

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    Feb 14, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    I am not sure if anyone would want me as their mentor, but their are quite a few guys here that I would love to mentor me. It is funny because I have learned so much from some of the younger guys here.
  • Celticmusl

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    Feb 14, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    I always thought Meninlove are pretty good mentors on this board for most anyone. Rainbow chasers, like myself.

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    I guess I am someone's mentor in real life. I was just informed of that last week. He is 24 and he can always count on me for some good advice.
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    I dont think I could be a mentor, 19 years aint enough to know lifes cruel ways(well somewha :d)

    I sure could use workout mentor (more like a trainer :l)
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:58 AM GMT
    Jeff! Hey, you're the one that got me back to the writing after an 18 month hiatus!! Them's giant potatoes.

    Besides, your writing is the stuff best sellers are made of. Mine is of a very narrow niche.

    icon_redface.gif -Doug
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    I was blessed to have a wonderful gay mentor when I came at late, just as I was turning 46. Met him online at a Seattle BBS, we emailed for about 8 months before we finally met in person. Much of my happiness and success as a gay man is due to what he taught me, and the example he set for me.

    - He drilled safe sex into my head from day one. He already had AIDS himself, and determined that no one else would make his own mistakes. He also helped edit the HIV/AIDS info section in the Seattle Gay News (SGN) paper, and was very informed regarding AIDS issues. I attribute my negative status to what I learned from him.
    - He volunteered for Chicken Soup Brigade (CSB), teaching me the importance & satisfaction of gay community involvement. He delivered groceries to AIDS shut-ins, drove them on their errands and to medical appointments, cleaned their homes for them, even though he himself was eligible for those same services from others. And on the days when he was too weak to do these physical tasks, he staffed the reception desk and phone at the CSB office.
    - He took me to gay nightspots to "learn the ropes" and make sure I didn't make stupid mistakes. He taught me the gay vocabulary, all the insider stuff it would have taken me years to learn on my own.
    - He never allowed a sexual relationship to develop between us. That taught me that gays can be good friends without being each other's "type." And also about integrity, since he refused to have sex with negative men, the extent to which safe sex practices were totally reliable still somewhat in question 15 years ago.

    Since then I've tried to help gay guys online, mainly those coming out late like I did, and only really mentored one guy in person. But while I try to use my Seattle friend as a model for gay mentoring, I'll never match him. I guess I just got really, really lucky, and I hope some of you will try to be the same to other gay men.
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    meninlove said Jeff! Hey, you're the one that got me back to the writing after an 18 month hiatus!! Them's giant potatoes.

    Besides, your writing is the stuff best sellers are made of. Mine is of a very narrow niche.

    icon_redface.gif -Doug



    We NEED both! Keep doing it! and give us links to get to it so we can enjoy some of it too....
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    TAPPER!

    and abm15463 (I got the number wrong but I'm sure you know who I mean).
  • calibro

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    Feb 14, 2010 4:35 AM GMT
    caslon13000... he and I have gone through similar health episodes and it's nice to see someone who went through what I did doing so well physically as a testament to how one can endure. That and he seems like a guy with a great head on his shoulder and heart in his chest.
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidHe could be your "workout mentor", your "politics mentor", "financial mentor", "legal mentor", your "nutrition mentor", "life mentor", "parenting mentor" or "whatever mentor"....and it doesn't need to be only one guy ,or only one topic......I know there are some Fantastically talented, even GIFTED guys on this site.
    MENTORS...Would you be interested in having "students"?
    "Students", would you want to have a "MENTOR"? icon_cool.gif

    I am willing to be both a Mentor and a student.

    Obviously the list could be endless...but for my first choice:
    I would want CHUCKYSTUD as both my Workout and Nutrition MENTOR.....
    I will add others as I think about it.......icon_cool.gif


    LOL.. OH, PUMPKIN...YA' MADE MY DAY!!!!

    flex89 / Logan has worked with me for just about three years now, and has come a long way, with many of his personal, and professional goals, being reached, as well as improving the management of his diabetes, and he's taught me a few things, too. We met on RJ, chatting, and he was so very coachable, and when he saw success, it went from there. Logan moved to TX 2 years ago, and we've had a giggle fest most days since. Some days, now, the roles are reversed, and Logan is the mentor, instead of me.

    I think I'd like McGay to be my mentor. McGay RULES....
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:41 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidDefinitely wouldn't mind Chuckystud as my workout mentor. His knowledge on such things always impresses me. I just hope he would take it easy on me. I just want to stay trim and fit, not become Hercules.


    Golly, two votes. Maybe "God" is real.

    Golly, guys, you don't want be getting too much self-esteem here...

    :-)

    Truth be known...I paid the bills, and we're laying low, watching The Olympics, giggling on RJ, writing some PHP, and doing some DDL in MySQL, and getting fat, but...my arm is healing, and maybe...just maybe...I'll do the Texas State Championships in the fall. We'll see.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 14, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    i want tallnhairy to put me through the paces.
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    The left wingers have many to chose from here. Depending on what kind of attitude and personality, you want to be like, and look up too. But who do the young conservatives have here?

    I myself being one who happily stands alone here, would struggle to find such a person in such a place. Albeit I have had many amazing and caring personal conversations here, and have a number of young friends here to. But then I get enough of being a role model out here in the real world.
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    There are many guys on here that *are* my mentors.
    Their opinions weigh heavily... Doug, Bill, Tony, Isaiah, Dennis, Kurt.

    These are the men... not the monikers.