Opposites Attract

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    Feb 13, 2010 6:33 PM GMT
    So I've seen similar posts on here about wanting to be, or being attracted to guys who are more less opposite of who that person is.

    It seems to me that it is predominantly that the guy who seeks out the opposite is the smaller build, less masculine appearence wise.

    I notice this even with myself. I know for damn sure I'm helplessly attracted to the tall, big solid guy who sports facial hair. Of course this isn't my only critera, but it does catch my eye.

    What I'm curious about is if this is a norm. If you are or ever have been regularly attracted or want to be with a guy who is opposite of you appearance and or personality wise then post up what you've experienced. Also anyone whos got an opinion or thoughts about this.

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    Feb 13, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    It seems to definitely be something that is happening in the States and a lot of Europe- however I think it comes down to guys looking at that other muscle a lot more (the brain).

    In Sydney though, and generally Oz it is kind of the opposite. Like attracts like. Almost exclusively.

  • Little_Spoon

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    Feb 13, 2010 10:56 PM GMT
    Same thing here.

    I'm working to a lean figure, while I want a man who has a more muscular build.

    Not a competitive weight lifter body, just...enough for me to know he is more weight than cardio. Or whatever...

    I don't know.
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    Feb 13, 2010 11:00 PM GMT
    AussieBody saidIt seems to definitely be something that is happening in the States and a lot of Europe- however I think it comes down to guys looking at that other muscle a lot more (the brain).

    In Sydney though, and generally Oz it is kind of the opposite. Like attracts like. Almost exclusively.



    Bull Crock, every time i go back to oz, i always get opposite looking guys crack unto me like crazy.
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    Feb 13, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
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    AussieBody saidIt seems to definitely be something that is happening in the States and a lot of Europe- however I think it comes down to guys looking at that other muscle a lot more (the brain).

    In Sydney though, and generally Oz it is kind of the opposite. Like attracts like. Almost exclusively.



    Bull Crock, every time i go back to oz, i always get opposite looking guys crack unto me like crazy.


    I meant in the sense that guys with a fitness lifestyle and muscled body tend to go for others with muscled bodies. It's quite rare you find muscled guys going for the opposite.
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    Feb 13, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    AussieBody saidI meant in the sense that guys with a fitness lifestyle and muscled body tend to go for others with muscled bodies. It's quite rare you find muscled guys going for the opposite.

    Eh, mate, that's all through the gay world, doesn't matter about the location, you'll find tons of guys who'll limit them self to guys who meet a small physical "ideal" but there are tons of guys in sydney who go after guys of the opposite shape... although you'll find many guys want another guy who they can at least do things with physically so a certainly level of fitness is probably required for most guys.

    But the opposites attract is alive and well even in Sydney and all over Australia.

    hehe I keep getting little guys coming after me icon_biggrin.gif it's awesome!
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    Feb 13, 2010 11:19 PM GMT
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    AussieBody saidI meant in the sense that guys with a fitness lifestyle and muscled body tend to go for others with muscled bodies. It's quite rare you find muscled guys going for the opposite.

    Eh, mate, that's all through the gay world, doesn't matter about the location, you'll find tons of guys who'll limit them self to guys who meet a small physical "ideal" but there are tons of guys in sydney who go after guys of the opposite shape... although you'll find many guys want another guy who they can at least do things with physically so a certainly level of fitness is probably required for most guys.

    But the opposites attract is alive and well even in Sydney and all over Australia.

    hehe I keep getting little guys coming after me icon_biggrin.gif it's awesome!


    Sydney is a little unique in its level of superficiality I think compared to other countries I've lived in (UK/Ireland) and even withing Australia.

    There are exceptions of course. I've had a massive body builder chasing me for quite some time, but there is big and too big...

    Comparitvely though I think the US and a lot of Europe offer more disparity
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    Feb 13, 2010 11:23 PM GMT
    i know when i lived in south florida most gay couples seemed to be very clone-y. even more than the usual "i'm muscular so i'm finding a muscular man." more like "i'm blonde 5'10" 125 and wear sun visors so my mate must also be blonde 5'10" 125 in a sun visor." but it can go both ways when you meet couples that have been together for a long time. twinks with bears, old with young, short with tall. light with dark. regardless, some opposing traits personality-wise seem necessary to make things work.
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    Feb 14, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    Mmm this hasn't really been true for me. Sure, I've seen and met a lot of tall, muscular guys who were attractive and fun to look at, but I never really connected to any that I've met before. On the other hand, the guys I have had huge crush on and wanted desperately to have a relationship with usually had same, if not leaner, build and no more than a few inches taller.

    Not really into someone who has opposite personality and interests as I do... differences are okay, as long as they are negotiable, but I find it easier to establish a connection with someone who has somewhat similar qualities as I do.
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    Feb 14, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    I've posted here before my belief that it can be both at once: opposites attract, as well as the reverse saying, birds of a feather flock together. Here's why I think so:

    I contend you must have a good amount of compatibility ("birds of a feather") to simply get along in the long term. I mean, if you don't like mostly the same foods when you eat at home, the same interior design for your house, prefer the same cars, want to take the same vacations together, listen to mostly the same music, watch the same TV shows together, go to see the same movies, etc, how do you live under the same roof?

    At the same time, differences in terms of skills & abilities you each bring to the relationship can be strengths ("opposites attract"). For example, my partner cooks, but I don't, nor want to. The kitchen is his domain, and I stay out of it, by mutual agreement.

    Instead, I set the table (exquisitely) and do the clean-up afterwards. He's not mechanically inclined, while I'm a fix-it, and so looking after the car is my job, among other repair tasks, while he doesn't know how to open the hood. He's a former interior designer, so in our home that task is his, for which I give him carte-blanche. He also does the gardening, while I keep the computers running. And so it goes.

    What we are is a team, that together is stronger and more talented than either of us individually, each doing our own things for the benefit of both. Yet able to sit down and enjoy the same pleasures together, when it comes to our leisure and home environment, including sexual interests. Does that make sense?
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:19 AM GMT
    I'm not attracted to someone whose personality is totally opposite of mine. And for appearances, I don't seem to be attracted to short, really really bulky guys.

    Research is more supportive of the whole "bird of a feather" thing, rather than opposites attract.

    It's been said that relationships might be complimentary if two person's attachment styles are similar; that is, two completely different looking/acting people come together under the same understanding and rules of a relationship.
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
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    Aggieboy said
    AussieBody saidIt seems to definitely be something that is happening in the States and a lot of Europe- however I think it comes down to guys looking at that other muscle a lot more (the brain).

    In Sydney though, and generally Oz it is kind of the opposite. Like attracts like. Almost exclusively.



    Bull Crock, every time i go back to oz, i always get opposite looking guys crack unto me like crazy.


    I meant in the sense that guys with a fitness lifestyle and muscled body tend to go for others with muscled bodies. It's quite rare you find muscled guys going for the opposite.



    see and that's kind of where I'm going with this, is lithe with lithe and muscular with muscular... and is it that only lithe with sometimes looks for muscular... or will muscular sometimes look for lithe as well. Aussie did mention how much he gets hit on by the bigger guys now is that muscular or out of shape he is referring to?

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    Feb 14, 2010 3:31 AM GMT
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    AussieBody saidI meant in the sense that guys with a fitness lifestyle and muscled body tend to go for others with muscled bodies. It's quite rare you find muscled guys going for the opposite.

    Eh, mate, that's all through the gay world, doesn't matter about the location, you'll find tons of guys who'll limit them self to guys who meet a small physical "ideal" but there are tons of guys in sydney who go after guys of the opposite shape... although you'll find many guys want another guy who they can at least do things with physically so a certainly level of fitness is probably required for most guys.

    But the opposites attract is alive and well even in Sydney and all over Australia.

    hehe I keep getting little guys coming after me icon_biggrin.gif it's awesome!


    Now do you ever go after the little guys on your own would be my question to you? Ever intentionally go out of your way and turn down the big buy and pick up the twink or just smaller framed guy as it were?
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:31 AM GMT
    if opposites attract = true
    then this site is like full of ppl who break that rule....majoirty here does not get hard thinking of the opposite sex
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    I'm very attracted to tall and muscular men but not because they look nice but more because I like to be manhandled *really manhandled* and it requires size and strength because I'm scrappy.

    I also really like men who are very logical and reasonable (I usually find the guys I'm interested in really like solving logic problems) this is because I'm not very analytical in my thinking, but I really admire it in others and I love witnessing and sharing that process when others have it. It's intoxicating for me.

    All types of guys like me because
    I know what boys like
    I know what guys want
    I know what boys like
    Boys like, boys like...
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:48 AM GMT
    joshnyc saidif opposites attract = true
    then this site is like full of ppl who break that rule....majoirty here does not get hard thinking of the opposite sex



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    lmao
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    I often find myself attracted to opposites. In fact, today I had a fun, giggle-filled conversation with a dorky white guy with cute eyes, and baggy pants. I usually never go for the baggy pants deal but it worked on him. Actually, when it comes to attraction I'm hella random.
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidI'm very attracted to tall and muscular men but not because they look nice but more because I like to be manhandled *really manhandled* and it requires size and strength because I'm scrappy.

    I also really like men who are very logical and reasonable (I usually find the guys I'm interested in really like solving logic problems) this is because I'm not very analytical in my thinking, but I really admire it in others and I love witnessing and sharing that process when others have it. It's intoxicating for me.

    All types of guys like me because
    I know what boys like
    I know what guys want
    I know what boys like
    Boys like, boys like...



    I feel exactly the same way, mine isn't the outward appearance as much as what it entails mentally. I like to have my mental buttons pushed just as much if not more than my physical ones.
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    Ok I can't resist this one....
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13pCHb62kvQ

  • Kyboy270

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    Feb 14, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
    I have a tall, slim, pale frame, weak features, and a sparse beard.

    I go crazy for muscles, hairiness, bronze skin, prominent jaws, noses, and brows, and facial hair---especially sideburns, chops, or full beards---drives me wild.

    Given, I am doing what I can with what I've got. But seeing those guys that have it naturally, mm. I feel a bit of envy. I think that envy plays a part in the attraction.
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    Feb 14, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    AvecAntonio saidOk I can't resist this one....
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13pCHb62kvQ

    LOL!!!
    I LOVE THAT VIDEO!! !
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    Feb 14, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    Honestly I find so many different guys attractive. Short, skinny, a little chubby is fine and can be good in some cases, muscles, tall whatever.
    The biggest turn off to me is muscles that are huge. Meh...

  • FriscoJansen

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    Feb 14, 2010 5:40 AM GMT
    From my experience, 90% of the men I've been with were muscular...big arms and well defined. Certainly, opposites do attract. I think its all about how you carry yourself. You don't have to be huge for these guys to go for you.
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    Feb 14, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    I have never dated a guy who was remotely similar to me physically. "Opposites attract" is not just something that exists, but something I really depend on. There are many guys who don't want a copy of themselves. If I had to date someone who looked like me I would rather be asexual.
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    Feb 14, 2010 8:48 AM GMT
    AvecAntonio saidNow do you ever go after the little guys on your own would be my question to you? Ever intentionally go out of your way and turn down the big buy and pick up the twink or just smaller framed guy as it were?

    I go after the guy who is making my balls retract at the time, so I've gone after twinks, lean and buff, muscled, body builders, stocky, bears, cubs, leather daddies, bla bla bla..

    Guys rarely come up to me, the massive majority of them are always receptive to me but I can count of my hands the amount of guys who have actually approached me and still have fingers left.

    I don't have so much a preference or type in terms of bodies, I've been with guys who are over weight, incredibly thin, hairy, smooth, tall, short, built and not, it's the face and the person more for me then anything else.
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    Feb 14, 2010 8:53 AM GMT
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    AvecAntonio saidNow do you ever go after the little guys on your own would be my question to you? Ever intentionally go out of your way and turn down the big buy and pick up the twink or just smaller framed guy as it were?

    I go after the guy who is making my balls retract at the time, so I've gone after twinks, lean and buff, muscled, body builders, stocky, bears, cubs, leather daddies, bla bla bla..

    Guys rarely come up to me, the massive majority of them are always receptive to me but I can count of my hands the amount of guys who have actually approached me and still have fingers left.

    I don't have so much a preference or type in terms of bodies, I've been with guys who are over weight, incredibly thin, hairy, smooth, tall, short, built and not, it's the face and the person more for me then anything else.


    liar. you just need a nice big thick 12' dick to be plowed by dont you.