OK to wank or more in a public place? Gym sauna or steam room?

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    Feb 13, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    Ok, well tallhairy's anecdotes on the subject made
    people get nasty. It's a worthwhile topic to explore
    in a less personal contextt. So, I'm
    asking, do you approve of
    public sex? Is it just tough luck for those who
    don't want to witness it, or should people be required
    to have sex or masturbate in private and with those who consent to watch?

    For me, an easy question: do whatever you want, but not wherever you want. If you don't have the consent of everyone
    and you're in space open to the public not
    designated for sex, then it's not
    OK.

    A matter for the police, in my
    view. That said, I don't think
    someone's life should be ruined. A wanker needn't register as a sex offender as far as I'm
    concerned. That's going too far, though treating itnas a misdemeanor like public
    drunkenness is perfectly appropriate as far as I'm
    concerned.
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    Feb 13, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    If you are in that type of environment like a bath house or a massage parlor or steam room where it is clearly ok to do, then it's fine. But if I'm at 24 Hour fitness and 2 or 3 dudes are in the Sauna going at it then I think it would be inappropriate. As far as in an alley or behind a building in public then they should be fined for indecency or whatever the law says regarding it.
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    Feb 13, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    What's with the fascination with masturbation in public places? This should be combined into the sauna thread.

    Any regular folks, with any sense of decency, know the right answer here.
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    Feb 13, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    It's illegal to have sex in a public place and it is never ok to involve someone unwilling in your sex-life.

    However I've had sex in public places, when the chances of getting caught were small and I would have ample warning to stop things before someone would notice what was going on. It's fun and it's hot. Some stuff is just impossible to do at home, like sex on a beach or in a forrest or an elevator.
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    Feb 13, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidWhat's with the fascination with masturbation in public places? This should be combined into the sauna thread.

    Any regular folks, with any sense of decency, know the right answer here.



    Well, I think the point was that a lot of
    people had a lot to say about it in the other thread. But I was hoping that people could say what they felt here without attacking people. You don't seem to be able to express an
    opinion without putting someone down. But I wasn't asking you anyway.

    Some people appear to think
    it's
    ok to whip it out in a public sauna at least. I obviously do not think that.
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    Feb 13, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    bernd saidIt's illegal to have sex in a public place and it is never ok to involve someone unwilling in your sex-life.

    However I've had sex in public places, when the chances of getting caught were small and I would have ample warning to stop things before someone would notice what was going on. It's fun and it's hot. Some stuff is just impossible to do at home, like sex on a beach or in a forrest or an elevator.


    an honest, thoughtful post
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    Feb 14, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    NNJfitandbi said
    an honest, thoughtful post


    Unfortunately those aren't the kind of posts that get threads going.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    I think we should all be forced to watch each other have sex. This will go a long way in curbing STDs and unwanted pregnancies.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:16 AM GMT
    What's so wrong about pulling a gangbang on the crosstown bus? It's not like that many people saw. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    malefeet saidWhat's so wrong about pulling a gangbang on the crosstown bus? It's not like that many people saw. icon_rolleyes.gif


    HE WAS IN A WHEELCHAIR!!!!!
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:19 AM GMT
    djohn767 saidIf you are in that type of environment like a bath house or a massage parlor or steam room where it is clearly ok to do, then it's fine. But if I'm at 24 Hour fitness and 2 or 3 dudes are in the Sauna going at it then I think it would be inappropriate. As far as in an alley or behind a building in public then they should be fined for indecency or whatever the law says regarding it.

    I concur. I would object to a straight couple fucking in the steam room while I was in there, or coming across them in the back alley, so why are gay men any different?

    If we want the same sexual rights as straights, we should also follow the same rules of common decency for our culture. Or else we really are the out-of-control sexual perverts the religious right claims we are, and unsuited for acceptance into society at large.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    This is funny. We were just on a US straight site full of people dead set against any gay rights at all, and guess what ad kept popping up for them over and over? This site, telling them it's FREE!

    Just thought you should know who's being invited to read RJ posts...icon_redface.gif the ones that vote your rights into oblivion.







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    Feb 14, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Many of us read their postings too. From where do you think comes the inspiration for so much comedy?

  • Feb 14, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    Although public can be exciting, it should be illegal and be fined for first offense and more serious consequence after that. People, including children, should not be inadvertently forced to watch any sex act whether they want to or not. The steam room/sauna is NOT an okay place to have sex. There are people, including myself, use these places to relax and stretch post workout. I do not want to witness to anyone going at it while I am there nor do I want to have to worry what I will be stepping on with my bare feet.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
    It's cool, McGay....none of it can affect us up here. We posted it as an exercise in awareness - they are the majority that holds your rights at ransom.

    We think sometimes it's easy to forget just who has easy access to this site, and what they can do with the topics and posts here.

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    Feb 14, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    meninlove said...We're both wondering about ads these days. What are Realjock ads doing on straight sites? Today realjock was solid zoosk animated ads for men dating women. What's that all about? Slowed the crap out of the PC loading up endless ads every time we went from one page to another.

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    Feb 14, 2010 1:47 AM GMT
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    meninlove said It's cool, McGay....none of it can affect us up here. We posted it as an exercise in awareness - they are the majority that holds your rights at ransom.

    We think sometimes it's easy to forget just who has easy access to this site, and what they can do with the topics and posts here.

    We're both wondering about ads these days. What are Realjock ads doing on straight sites? Today realjock was solid zoosk animated ads for men dating women. What's that all about? Slowed the crap out of the PC loading up endless ads every time we went from one page to another.



    Oh, how true. The very halls of Congress are abuzz with talk about the latest RealJock goings on. G_Farts is there weeping over his wounds and g0ys are there decrying the assault on the anus that is gay sex. Yeah, right.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    meninlove said This is funny. We were just on a US straight site full of people dead set against any gay rights at all, and guess what ad kept popping up for them over and over? This site, telling them it's FREE!

    Just thought you should know who's being invited to read RJ posts...icon_redface.gif the ones that vote your rights into oblivion.









    Everyone has sex, even straighties. They have the majority of the most horrific and obscene pick up sex sites out there. If straight sex was illegal, I highly doubt their porn sites would help their cause.

    I think RJ is one of the most benign and least offensive sites I have found that is gay themed. I'm glad we have the free speech to discuss topics, but still try to keep it in a manner which is not deplorable.

    If a straight person is against gay rights because the lifestyle is offensive to them, I doubt their hate filled minds will ever be changed. Luckily, younger generations haven't been taught to hate as much.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:57 AM GMT
    It's completely offensive to wank off in public places and I totally advise against it. And when you do wank off publicly, make sure there are a lot of people watching, and do it a lot. If there is a chance of getting caught, or caught on video, that even makes it more exciting.
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    Celticmusl said...Luckily, younger generations haven't been taught to hate as much.

    Here's the Richard Rogers/Oscar Hammerstein song "You've Got to Be Carefully Taught" from the 1949 Broadway musical South Pacific:

    You've got to be taught
    To hate and fear,
    You've got to be taught
    From year to year,
    It's got to be drummed
    In your dear little ear
    You've got to be carefully taught.

    You've got to be taught to be afraid
    Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
    And people whose skin is a diff'rent shade,
    You've got to be carefully taught.

    You've got to be taught before it's too late,
    Before you are six or seven or eight,
    To hate all the people your relatives hate,
    You've got to be carefully taught!


    The performance of this number was strongly resisted in the US Deep South during road performances. In Georgia, lawmakers tried to outlaw it, saying: "a song justifying interracial marriage was implicitly a threat to the American way of life." Their philosophical descendants live on in the Republican Party's fight against gay rights, using the very same arguments from 60 years ago.
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    Feb 14, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    Thanks Celticmuscl, that's another way of saying what we're trying to say.

    "If straight sex was illegal, I highly doubt their porn sites would help their cause."
  • calibro

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    Feb 14, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    Public sex, whether appropriate or not in your mind, is illegal. You have no right to masturbate or do anything sexual on public grounds-- or private ones if outlined by the ownership, i.e., a gym makes it very clear that it's illegal.
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    Feb 14, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    No, public wanking is not OK. But if you do participate in such acts you have to accept the consequences if you are caught.
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    Feb 14, 2010 6:10 AM GMT
    meninlove said This is funny. We were just on a US straight site full of people dead set against any gay rights at all, and guess what ad kept popping up for them over and over? This site, telling them it's FREE!

    Just thought you should know who's being invited to read RJ posts...icon_redface.gif the ones that vote your rights into oblivion.


    The ads today are very sophisticated and personalized. Most of the site's straight visitors will probably never see an ad for RJ. The reason you're seeing those ads is that the ad system selected them specifically for you, based on other sites you frequent.