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    Feb 15, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    I've been depressed for so long and each day has only gotten worse. I thought I met someone, but it turned out to be nothing. I've never had anyone to just confide in. Being not out, I've isolated myself from everone in my life, to the point of having nothing, no one. What's the point of continuing when you're so mentally, physically, and emotionally depleted?
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    Feb 15, 2010 2:44 AM GMT
    Wow I'm very sorry you feel this way. There are heaps of us who struggle with depressionlike symptoms, but suicide is never the answer. I wish people were more accepting of us gay people, i really do think it would be alot easier to live life without this hate towards us.
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    Feb 15, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    Your situation sounds desperate. Life is worth living, there is so much you can do. You're only 22. It's time to take action, make decisions that are positive and move yourself forward. First and foremost is to find help for your depression and your crisis. I'm far from you so my advice is limited. I just hope that you find a mentor and some help for your emotional difficulties. You're not alone, but finding companionship and support is your task... It's there. Reach out.
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    Feb 15, 2010 2:53 AM GMT


    JJ84, we're meninlove and we're here for you. Take heart, the world is greater than you know, and anything possible.

    Happy Valentine's Day. We mean this in a way to state that your potential is HUGE! Life awaits you, but you need to be patient. In the meantime there are many fine fine men on RJ that you can talk to and will lend a shoulder.

    We'll message you now. Take advantage of us as people to confide in whenever and as often as you need, starting right now!

    Take a peek at our profile. We mean what we say.

    kindly,

    - Doug and Bill of meninlove
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    Feb 15, 2010 2:55 AM GMT
    I'm really sorry you're struggling.

    I strongly urge you to call 1-866-4-U-TREVOR.

    It's a suicide hotline for GLBT and questioning people. There are people out there who do care, and who do want you to have the best life possible unconditionally. Now, you have to want that great life too so please take the first step in helping yourself.

    There are also many support groups for GLBT people who are experiencing the same struggles you are. I promise you that you are not alone in this world. My thoughts are with you.

    Edit: You're more than welcome to send me a message too.
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    Feb 15, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Well, he went offline, but we messaged him to contact us. Hopefully he will.

    You guys are proof of what we said on this topic.

    You've got great hearts and it's an honour to know you.







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    Feb 15, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    meninlove said Well, he went offline, but we messaged him to contact us. Hopefully he will.

    You guys are proof of what we said on this topic.

    You've got great hearts and it's an honour to know you.









    I hope he gets in touch with you.
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    Feb 15, 2010 3:38 AM GMT
    JJ84 saidI've been depressed for so long and each day has only gotten worse. I thought I met someone, but it turned out to be nothing. I've never had anyone to just confide in. Being not out, I've isolated myself from everone in my life, to the point of having nothing, no one. What's the point of continuing when you're so mentally, physically, and emotionally depleted?


    Depression is a chemical imbalance and there is medical help for this. Seek it out now!
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    Feb 15, 2010 3:40 AM GMT
    Feeling depressed can also be from situations, not always chemical, and in that case the best medicine is friendship.

  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 15, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    meninlove said Feeling depressed can also be from situations, not always chemical, and in that case the best medicine is friendship.


    Listen to meninlove
    He always knows what he's talking about....
  • swimbikerun

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    Feb 15, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    Suicide is never an answer. For me such an act would be pure selfishness, One giant 'Fuck You' to anyone who ever cared for me.
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    Feb 15, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
    . . . put on some Steely Dan . . . they'll get you through this. . .

    "any major dude with half a heart surely will tell you my friend,
    when the demon is at your door, in the morning it won't be there no more"

    . . . it's as close to gospel as the secular fellaheen can get . . .
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    Feb 15, 2010 5:01 AM GMT

    JJ84 You made the biggest first step to reach out. Continue to do so. As Bill and Doug of Meninlove said reach out they are great guys and are sincere in the offer.

    There are others here including myself that will talk listen email text..... as they said you are not alone.

    There are many great offers here so do use them.

    Always open to talk OK!

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    Feb 15, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    This problem is temporary... No need for a final solution.
    Stay with us.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 15, 2010 5:14 AM GMT
    Glad you reached out, man. Feel free to email me (or I am sure anyone in this forum) if you need to talk. Hang in there!! Nothing ever stays the same, and you are so young. Life has a way of lifting your spirits when you least expect it. Don't want to miss out on the surprises that may be in store for you, do ya?
  • photokunstler

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    Feb 15, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    I agree with the guys in here. Please dont give up! You have sooo much potential and are so young. We know exactly how that feels.. I had been in a weird dead end relationship with a guy who never wanted to admit WE were a thing to anyone else other than me. I finally ended up terminating the relationship for my own good. It took me a LONG time to get over him, but finally when the clouds cleared up, it was so clear as day the answers I had for myself.

    Through isolation, we still have power and authority over our situations. This idea of 'Isolation' is actually the basis of the work I am doing right now in graduate school.

    Email, chat or call us man, we are all here for you. I didn't have too many friends who I could really run to when I was coming out, but the one that I did have meant the world to ME. Us gays have to stick together and help each other out.

    Its just rough patch in the road, THINGS WILL GET BETTER. I promise!

    Take care man! Hit me up!

    Darrell
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    Feb 15, 2010 5:17 AM GMT
    Hey I know how you feel and it sucks it really does but killing yourself is not the answer I hope you realize that it will get better. When I was in 6 grade I had a birthday party and my parents spent like so much money on this party and no one showed up and only one person called to let me know they couldn't make it and I wasn't really popular and dad abused me so I wrote a goodbye letter and well my mom found it and she talked to me and she told me she loved me and I better not ever so something so selfish and I said okay it was way more dramatic than I'm telling it but just know that your parents will love you no matter what, and if it's easier tell your best friend when I told mine it was hard for him but he came around and wearer shaired a few drinks and he called me a fag it was one of the best moments ever! Take it day by day and learn how to love yourself before you get into a relationship.
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    Feb 15, 2010 5:22 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidGlad you reached out, man. Feel free to email me (or I am sure anyone in this forum) if you need to talk. Hang in there!! Nothing ever stays the same, and you are so young. Life has a way of lifting your spirits when you least expect it. Don't want to miss out on the surprises that may be in store for you, do ya?


    Very true, everything has it's way of working itself out. Sometimes it just takes the painfully bumpy route. Especially when you're young.
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    Feb 15, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    Are you being treated for depression? If not, please get some help ASAP.
    It's actually very difficult to kill yourself and if you fuck it up there can be serious permanent consequences - so please consider that reality before you try anything - No matter how awful things are I hope you are lucid enough to imagine not just what you perceive to be relief from you present situation - but alternative outcomes as well. I know two people who failed and one is crippled from a failed jumping and the other has facial and other paralysis from a failed overdose.
    I am a victim of failed overdose and my sleep patterns have been permanently altered - narcoleptic and hypersomniac sometimes and insomniac at others, also sleep reversal and persistent nightmares - None of which I experienced before I took two bottles of pills.
    I hope your not drinking or self medicating in any way - you need to muster whatever rational thinking you can. Things WILL change - change, in fact is the only thing about which we can be certain.
  • calibro

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    Feb 15, 2010 5:28 AM GMT
    Keep in mind you're only 22... there is still so much time for your life to change for the better, and it all starts with a tomorrow. Every second of the day is another chance to change it all. You can't fix it all at once, so relinquish that urge to. Start small and make the changes you can.
  • pelotudo87

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    Feb 15, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    Please, go talk to someone if you need to. Even though I've never used the Trevor Helpline, I've heard good things about it.

    Even if it seems like there's no hope, you never know what opportunity lies on just beyond the horizon...
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    Feb 15, 2010 6:02 AM GMT
    go find a hobby, geesh
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    Feb 15, 2010 6:05 AM GMT
    JJ84 saidI've been depressed for so long and each day has only gotten worse. I thought I met someone, but it turned out to be nothing. I've never had anyone to just confide in. Being not out, I've isolated myself from everone in my life, to the point of having nothing, no one. What's the point of continuing when you're so mentally, physically, and emotionally depleted?


    If you feel more it's all more than you can deal with and can't seem to find a more positive outcome, find a friend, or call a hotline.

    Couple of things you should know:
    Few things in life a permanent.
    Even if you don't work at it, things will change. More, if you do.

    If you're on the pity pot, and feeling sorry for yourself, and being all whiney, and self-centered, as you are now, go to a homeless shelter, ride the city bus, view video of the folks in Haiti. Your life is good. You have a roof over your head; food to eat; a shower; an internet connection; folks to whine to.

    Perspective is everything.

    If you don't like how things are, whether it's feeling like you have to hide your face, or that your life sucks, etc., you need to start taking active steps to change your life so that you don't feel that way.

    Of course, if you go kill yourself, it's over, and, of course, you've shown you don't have the skills, desire, focus, discipline, to do whatever it is you need to do to change things. Rather a cowardly thing, but, natural selection at work, I suppose.
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    Feb 15, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
    JJ84... please don't give up on life. Your hardship is only temporary even though it feels very painful right now. You have so much to live for and to share with others that are just like you.

    I understand exactly what your going through from experience and I'm sure many of us have visited this dangerous place during dark times in our life. But just like others have mention here, keep reaching out like you have today. There are people who care and can lend you strength to push on... even strangers with good hearts can lend you their ear or shoulder.

    Like others members have offered, if you ever need to talk to someone... feel free to message me. Sometimes all we need is someone who cares to feel alive again.

    I think it's very commendable and I love that so many members are reaching out too JJ84. It's very commendable.
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    Feb 15, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
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