Holding on or holding out?...

  • Nico3_0

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    Feb 16, 2010 4:35 AM GMT
    So having relationships with a few guys ive come to terms on the fact that i can get aroused and a bit excited in the moment, but have always been able to hold myself together and not let go of the one thing i hold near to me, being my virginity.
    Of course being young i cant say situations have come day in and out where i have to turn ppl away, but i want to know why its so easy for some people to give it up to a hot guy without any second thoughts?
    For me its heart and health; dont feel as tho i can be proud losing it in a one night stand to a horny jackass and also dont want the repercussions that come with easy people and sti's. Thoughts?...opinions?
  • Iluros

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    Feb 16, 2010 6:36 AM GMT
    If you feel like you want your first time to be special, then it should be.

    Wait for the right guy. It doesn't have to be the only person that you'll have sex with for the rest of your life, but someone who cares about you and respects you. Having a stable relationship is the best way to explore what you like and want from a relationship.
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    Feb 16, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    lluros said it all.

    Don't worry about it, if it means something to you well than good for you and I hope your first time is freakin' awesome. XD.
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    Feb 17, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    Virginity only has the value you give it. Have you talked to your friends about this? Do they value virginity as high as you do? I don't know why it is so important to you and I'm not judging. But if you expect to have your first time with another virgin, then you might have to search for a looong time.

    I don't know why STDs are so feared by the kids today? Is it the crappy Abstinence-only sex-education they gave you in school? Many STDs can be avoided by using condoms. Most of them can be fixed with a course of Antibiotics. And they are all pretty rare. You feel pretty disgusting for a few days, but afterwards you're good to go. The flu or a common cold are way more debilitating when you have them.

    Sex is best when both/all involved are on the same wave-length and want to give the other pleasure. That can happen in a loving relationship, but it can also happen with a trick.

  • Nico3_0

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    Feb 17, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    Thanks Iluros and Barley12...its always good to have people that can let me know im either not alone in my stance or means of thinking. As for bernd, i have talked to my friends about everything...so its a yes on the virginity topic. All of them are not virgins and had lost it by the time they were my current age. This is why i have its hard for me to think ill ever find a great guy if a lot of my gay and straight friends alike are having sex like having getting coffee. But oh the stories they tell...oh boy.
    And no...i came to the conclusion very quickly that my significant other would probably not be a virgin as this would be interesting for our sex life "now where do i stick this?..." icon_smile.gif
    I just want to be able to stand proud and look my lover in the eye one warm afternoon and say i waited...that i respected myself to have fun with them when the time is right and we will figure out what best suits our needs.

    I guess it may be too hard to find mr. right?...or maybe i just need to wait for the right guy to finally cross paths with me and do something. Like say hi...that works.
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    Feb 17, 2010 6:17 AM GMT
    There is no universal answer. Do what you feel comfortable with - that is what is right for you.