(A question to the hot guys) Do all your friends look like you?

  • Moishendlishu...

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    Feb 16, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    So I've noticed a propensity in gay culture for guys to have friends that could almost be interchangeable with them. ESPECIALLY Muscle jocks. Being this is a site about working out, I have to ask the question.....

    If you scanned your friends in your brain, do they all look like you, or are some old, some fat, some skinny, some hot, etc? If all your friends do look like you, why is that? I know people who will only have hot friends...to borrow clothes from and to sleep with just in case the opportunity arises. They often seem to be the same height and around the same build. I've always been curious the reasoning to that. Can you guys enlighten me?

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    Feb 16, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    Oh GOD, no. I want to be the only hot stud in the midst of uglies.

    JK.
  • mcwclewis

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    Feb 16, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    Not sure if you'd consider me a hot guy or not icon_razz.gif


    But I have a pretty massively diverse group of friends, physically and otherwise.


    There was a thread about something similar to this a while back but I don't remember what ended up being discussed.
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    Feb 16, 2010 6:05 AM GMT
    na, I'm the only good looking guy in the group, or that's what there wife's say anyway hehehe ugh I love'em, massive ego stroking icon_smile.gif

    actually I don't think any of my mates look alike, they are all different shapes, sizes background and what not all have different personalities too, I'm not sure what that's about but I love'em all so I can't complain icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 16, 2010 6:10 AM GMT
    in order to post on this thread youre supposed to consider yourself hot? Since everyone is hot in a different way and appeal to different people I guess that gives me the right to post and the answer is no, my friends look all different.
  • Moishendlishu...

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    Feb 16, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    I apologize if this has been done before, I'm new ;)

    lol, no anyone can post. I'm curious to get opinions. However I've noticed that hot guys tend to only have hot friends, or guys who physically look like them. By hot I mean well built, and you would classify regardless. icon_razz.gif

    I can't remember the last time I went to a bar, or the gym and didn't see big built beefy men only talking to, or out with other big built beefy men. It seemed like in order to be their friend you had to have" two tickets to the gun show" and I've always found that fascinating. Twinks and queens do it too, they seem to travel in packs.

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    Feb 16, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    no. No-one looks as good as me icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 16, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    Moishendlishus saidI apologize if this has been done before, I'm new ;)

    lol, no anyone can post. I'm curious to get opinions. However I've noticed that hot guys tend to only have hot friends, or guys who physically look like them. By hot I mean well built, and you would classify regardless. icon_razz.gif

    I can't remember the last time I went to a bar, or the gym and didn't see big built beefy men only talking to, or out with other big built beefy men. It seemed like in order to be their friend you had to have" two tickets to the gun show" and I've always found that fascinating. Twinks and queens do it too, they seem to travel in packs.


    um, it's not just in the gay community, take a look at schools, it's everywhere.
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    Feb 16, 2010 8:18 AM GMT
    I primarily have straight friends, and they're all different in terms of body composition, attractiveness, ethnicity, ages, etc. But then again, these are the people that I grew up with.

    Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places, but I haven't met too many gay guys that are open minded. They tend to stick to their own kind. Obligatory Heathers reference..

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    Feb 16, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    Actually, I've noticed that all of my friends and I are around the same height. But we all have vastly different builds and physiques. Seems like being able to talk to each other at eye-level is important for the bonding, but other than that, it's about personality. We're all very driven and goal-oriented, tend to get too into talking politics and love food.
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    Feb 16, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    I cannot answer this question as I am NOT a (hot guy).
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    Feb 16, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    When we started out, I, and all my friends looked pretty similar. As time passed, and we drifted apart, things changed, but, here's a picture from the good old days.
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    Feb 16, 2010 1:16 PM GMT
    i like to think im moderately attractive... but no.. my friends are not all hot.. rarely few are super attractive.. if any
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    Feb 16, 2010 1:21 PM GMT
    jake_bh12 saidi like to think im moderately attractive... but no.. my friends are not all hot.. rarely few are super attractive.. if any



    Moderately? Understatement of the year.

    Whether or not I'm considered "hot," my friends look nothing like me, they are physically very varied, some hotter and some notter.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 16, 2010 1:23 PM GMT
    Thats about the farthest as applied to me. I have friends from all walks of life, its always been that way. I do have friends who are "jock" per se, but I also have some who never qualify and women who never have been to the gym or are into sports.
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    Feb 16, 2010 1:35 PM GMT
    variety is the spice of life. My friends are fairly diverse. We even have an Asian!!
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    Feb 16, 2010 1:49 PM GMT
    Can't be sure if I would be considered hot. I'm just your average Joe well in this case your average CJ. My circle of friends are from all walks of life and that's a good thing. icon_smile.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Feb 16, 2010 1:56 PM GMT
    Maybe it is because they are my friends, but I don't really consider any of them really average. I guess I appreciate most of my friend's looks. Most of them are either strikingly good looking, or good looking. This is in the gay realm mind you.

    I love hanging out with the very good looking, since they are the magnets for all the psychos and sickos. Usually I have a very good time at that point.

    Average to below average looking guys.....eh....they seem to feel that they get a free card for being jerks and whores. Think about it, the guy that really pisses you off when you go out to the club, the one that doesn't seem to have common sense or common decency. Is he hot? Or is he average or less than average?
  • geojock

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    Feb 16, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    I wouldn't know about the hotness thing but I have found that my friends tend to be taller than average. I don't know why that is, but for some reason we're all over 6'. But they're all strait so I'm not sure you can blame that on gay culture. Though I have noticed the same "birds of a feather flocking together" phenomenon as well. I'm sure there is some fancy psychological reason.

  • Starboard

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    Feb 16, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    I think that LilTanker is right...it's everywhere. People are drawn to the familiar. People who workout will share fitness as a common interest, and they can bond with that -- likewise for similar age groups, financial status, fashion consciousness, ethnicities, etc. It's not that you are necessarily excluding other types from your circle -- but that you are bonding with qualities of others that are of personal interests to you/are similar to yourself. That's neither gay/straight -- it's human nature. That being said, people who can break out of their comfort zone and break free from the familiarity cycle likely enjoy the benefits of having a more diverse and interesting circle of friends.
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    The gay community literally organizes itself around body type. You have your bears, your twinks, your gym boys, chubs, etc. And, yes, it sems to me that people who subscribe to this method of organization do have friends who are reflections of themselves.

    Surely you've seen all the personal ads that are looking for "similar" or "the same."
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    well if anyone can point me in the direction of a pack of 6'9" gay guys, please do. gay NBA support group maybe?
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    I enjoy a diverse group of casual acquaintances and casual friends. However, my closest friends generally are heterosexual white males who are physically active and have degrees in science. Physical stature varies but in general they are taller than me because of me being 5'9. Our friends reflect who we are and one is only as good as the company they keep.
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    Imagine my predicament, being more unique than anyone else on the planet. It's even harder than being a man without a country.
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:53 PM GMT
    No... can't stand it when they do.
    Everyone thought my ex and I were twins.... that was the beginning of the end.