Attacked by a girl...would you hit back?

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    Feb 16, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    To make a really long story fairly short, my bf and I, along with a couple of our female friends, were attacked last night by a girl (25-30 years old) who was clearly out of her mind on drugs. She followed us outside of a club where she had been making rude comments, giving us dirty looks and trying to provoke some kind of fight throughout the night. When she figured out that we were getting into our car to leave she jumped on my bf and it turned into a pretty crazy scene. She ended up on top of our female friend and it took both my bf and I to pull her away and stop the attack. She was very strong and fiesty (fueled, I'm sure, by whatever drugs she was on) and my bf and I both came out of the deal with scratches and bruises.

    Neither of us believe in hitting a woman and did nothing physical but to seperate this girl from our friend and try to diffuse the situation. But it got me thinking today...would we have been justified in getting more physical with her if we hadn't been able to get her settled down? Have you ever been in such a situation? What did or would you do?
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    Feb 16, 2010 7:12 AM GMT
    It´s called equality. They wanted it in the first place.
  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 16, 2010 7:46 AM GMT
    I think restraining her would have been in order, but as far fighting back? I think that'd be out of line. She was obviously not in her right mind and probably wouldn't have acted the same way had she not be under the influence of drugs. If she had come to in the morning with a black eye, the only thing that would have come of it would most likely have been you and your boyfriend getting charges pressed against you. If you want to teach her a lesson, file a police report instead.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Feb 16, 2010 7:47 AM GMT
    Yeah I've been there a few time but I've just thrown or pushed her away almost beat a chick at a bar but I had to tell myself men don't hit women
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    Feb 16, 2010 8:00 AM GMT
    If I were the type of person to smack someone that smacked me first?

    You act like a guy I think you should be treated like one.

    Oh, wait. That's sexist. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 16, 2010 8:06 AM GMT
    no, I don't hit women.. however, if some women attempts to fight with me I usually physically restrain them or push her back to her friends for them to handle.
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    Feb 16, 2010 8:07 AM GMT
    Lostboy saidIt´s called equality. They wanted it in the first place.


    hahahahahahah true
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    Feb 16, 2010 8:28 AM GMT
    if someone were to throw a punch at me, i'd throw one back right in their face regardless of their sex, physique, etc.

    but then again it's mostly because i don't discrminate.

    only exception would be is if a little kid hit me, then yeah, i'd let it go.
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    Feb 16, 2010 9:48 AM GMT
    chad_cro_cool saidif someone were to throw a punch at me, i'd throw one back right in their face regardless of their sex, physique, etc.

    but then again it's mostly because i don't discrminate.

    only exception would be is if a little kid hit me, then yeah, i'd let it go.


    I'm gonna have to agree with this, because I know of and have seen plenty of women who are just as big and as bad as their male counter parts. They also will not hesitate to "start shit" simply because they can hide behind the notion that "a man shouldnt hit a woman". I say if they can dish it out, they for damn sure should be able to take it. But I would only apply this if i felt there was a real threat.

    Now if its a woman and I can physically over power her like liltanker mentioned and simply move her aside or give her a lil push back towards her friends so she's out of my way then that would be the extent of my force on her.

    I've been at knife point by an elderly suburban woman in my old culdesac and it didnt even phase me cuz the lady was like 65+ years old; theres no way she could have hurt me, so there was no need for me to do anything except use words, but i did report her to the police though after she attempted to flea the scene. But i by no means will stand idioly by and get my ass kicked and not defend myself just cuz theres a vagina and boobs attached to the person doing it.
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    I would have reacted and acted the same way you did. My sister used to kick the crap out of me for points b/c she knew I was not allowed to hit her back when we were growing up as kids. KUDOS to you. I had to kick the crap out of my nephew for hitting his sister. Ne never did that again. I told him men DO NOT HIT WOMEN PERIOD. Did this place not have security?
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    Feb 16, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    Only once did I respond in kind to an attack from a woman, not that her sex had anything to do with anything.

    I was walking home from the subway and crossing West End Ave. There was a woman standing in the street, a little off the curb, like she was hailing a cab. She was eating from a bag of potato chips and when I was passing her, she spit a mouthful of chewed up chips in my face and started screaming at me that I stole her Starburst candy. It completely destablized be for a few seconds but I quickly realized she was crazy and that I should just get away, so I kept walking and went home.

    The next morning, around 6:30 AM, I took the dog for a walk and went to Riverside Park. Lo and behold, here's my new girlfriend, squatting on the corner, taking a shit. She didn't see me coming from behind and when I got close enough, I pushed her over. I don't know exactly how she landed because I grabbed the dog and hightailed it back home. She was screaming something that I couldn't make out. I don't know what came over me to do such a thing but I just couldn't resist.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    No way. I'd never hit a woman. I'll have the cops deal with her crazy ass. I don't care if they think I can't handle my problems with a girl who hits.... I'd rather be known as a pussy who got beat up by a girl than an asshole who hit one.

    However, if the cops that come to get her crazy ass are true men (gay or straight) they will probably sympathize. Right?
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    sxydrkhair saidJersey Shore (MTV)
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    That guy was arrested for punching her in the face.


    He didn't hit her hard enough. He should have broken her jaw.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    McGay saidOnly once did I respond in kind to an attack from a woman, not that her sex had anything to do with anything.

    I was walking home from the subway and crossing West End Ave. There was a woman standing in the street, a little off the curb, like she was hailing a cab. She was eating from a bag of potato chips and when I was passing her, she spit a mouthful of chewed up chips in my face and started screaming at me that I stole her Starburst candy. It completely destablized be for a few seconds but I quickly realized she was crazy and that I should just get away, so I kept walking and went home.

    The next morning, around 6:30 AM, I took the dog for a walk and went to Riverside Park. Lo and behold, here's my new girlfriend, squatting on the corner, taking a shit. She didn't see me coming from behind and when I got close enough, I pushed her over. I don't know exactly how she landed because I grabbed the dog and hightailed it back home. She was screaming something that I couldn't make out. I don't know what came over me to do such a thing but I just couldn't resist.


    Why doesn't this surprise me icon_rolleyes.gif Hope that made you feel good about yourself, McGay.

    I think it's a tough call when it comes to hitting a woman who hits you first. It kind of depends on the levity of the situation. If she's clearly under the influence or perhaps just mentally challenged, restraining the woman, or maybe just removing yourself from the situation altogether would be the smartest way to go. On the other hand, if it is a bully type woman who is trying to rob you, commit a violent crime, or seriously do harm to you, you have to do what you have to do to protect yourself.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    i almost got coldcocked by an enormous drag queen (nearly my height in heels) on the streets of san francisco whose advances i blew off. when i stopped seeing stars i beat the living snot out of that tranny. my friends had to pull me off of her. does that count?
  • Timbales

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    Feb 16, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    My mother told me that you never strike a lady, and that a lady never raises her hand to anyone. There is a difference between protecting and defending yourself from an attack and attacking a woman.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    "Why doesn't this surprise me Hope that made you feel good about yourself, McGay"

    Well, I was feeling pretty damned good about myself already, with little room for improvement, but thanks for hoping.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    SoCalNerd said
    chad_cro_cool saidif someone were to throw a punch at me, i'd throw one back right in their face regardless of their sex, physique, etc.

    but then again it's mostly because i don't discrminate.

    only exception would be is if a little kid hit me, then yeah, i'd let it go.


    I'm gonna have to agree with this, because I know of and have seen plenty of women who are just as big and as bad as their male counter parts. They also will not hesitate to "start shit" simply because they can hide behind the notion that "a man shouldnt hit a woman". I say if they can dish it out, they for damn sure should be able to take it. But I would only apply this if i felt there was a real threat.

    Now if its a woman and I can physically over power her like liltanker mentioned and simply move her aside or give her a lil push back towards her friends so she's out of my way then that would be the extent of my force on her.

    I've been at knife point by an elderly suburban woman in my old culdesac and it didnt even phase me cuz the lady was like 65+ years old; theres no way she could have hurt me, so there was no need for me to do anything except use words, but i did report her to the police though after she attempted to flea the scene. But i by no means will stand idioly by and get my ass kicked and not defend myself just cuz theres a vagina and boobs attached to the person doing it.


    I'm totally with you on this. On all accounts. I read recently that women are actually getting more equality in the violence department. when it comes to percentage of reported violence, the number of female offenders have been rising steadily over the last few years.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    Nah, no matter what they say, a guy will always tear a woman up.

    What are sisters for if not to fight off bitches then, lol. icon_biggrin.gif

    Haha, this thread is reminding me of Real World Seattle's slap, lulz
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    Uh... definitely. The last time I underestimated a female by trying simply to restrain her I ended up with a broken hand. One that still hurts to this day.

    Especially for the OPs case, underestimating that woman could have gotten you far more injured than you were. What if she'd decided to pull a knife while she was going to town on your female friend?

    They're the ones who want equality and, now, I feel much more obliged to give it to them. icon_evil.gif
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    scftnsguy saidTo make a really long story fairly short, my bf and I, along with a couple of our female friends, were attacked last night by a girl (25-30 years old) who was clearly out of her mind on drugs. She followed us outside of a club where she had been making rude comments, giving us dirty looks and trying to provoke some kind of fight throughout the night. When she figured out that we were getting into our car to leave she jumped on my bf and it turned into a pretty crazy scene. She ended up on top of our female friend and it took both my bf and I to pull her away and stop the attack. She was very strong and fiesty (fueled, I'm sure, by whatever drugs she was on) and my bf and I both came out of the deal with scratches and bruises.

    Neither of us believe in hitting a woman and did nothing physical but to seperate this girl from our friend and try to diffuse the situation. But it got me thinking today...would we have been justified in getting more physical with her if we hadn't been able to get her settled down? Have you ever been in such a situation? What did or would you do?


    I don't think it's ever right to hit a woman. However, if you were to hold her while one of your female friends got a little revenge...
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    Under the law, you have the right to use as much force that is necessary to stop an attacker. If it involves hitting the woman to get her to stop, then so be it. But once you've stopped the attack, any other force is wrong.
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    Feb 16, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    I was raised to never hit a woman, but depending on the situation it might be necessary.
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    Feb 16, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
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    Feb 16, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
    You don't have to be big and strong to wield a knife or gun and present a lethal threat. I'd have done whatever it took to get her away quickly and effectively.